proud of my c-section !

[DippyTink]

having just read some of the replies in the debate "is c-section giving birth?',

i just want to send out and to say to the mummies who feel bad about having a c-section (either planned or emergency), that you shouldn't feel ashamed. just because the baby came out through the sunroof doesn't make us any less of a mother !

i carried my identical twin boys to 37 weeks and had a planned section - it's a good job i did as once the boys were born, it was shown that there was slight twin to twin syndrome between them.

a c-section isn't what most 'mummies to be' would want to have or plan but regardless of what anybody says - it's bloody hard work !! the recovery isn't the nicest for some but it's still a right of passage !

we delivered our babies safely and in the end that is all that matters !

i hope i haven't upset anybody with this post, but i just want other c-section mummies and 'mummies to be' to feel proud of what you've been through or will be going through !

 

[ame704]

Thank you for writing this. My baby is frank breech and I don't think she will turn. My philosophy is I rather get her here the safest way and I just don't want to even try ECV or vaginal birth with a breech baby. Especially since most doctors/midwifes don't do it that much anymore...

The most important thing for us mums to do is to be flexible and roll with the punches...

 

[jd11]

it also makes explaining how do babies come out easier lol. i tell them they got cut out my belly.

 

[Arisa]

it also makes explaining how do babies come out easier lol. i tell them they got cut out my belly.

Indeed it does
I am not ashamed nor do I regret having a c section, i would opt for it again it ended up being emcs but it was originally planned

 

[miss cakes]

i totally agree! having had three c sections i think people that just dismiss it havent got a clue about anything im proud that i did everything i could to ensure my baby survived birth getting cut open while your awake is not for the faint hearted either and recovery takes alot longer and its very painful afterward in fact if your not medicated properly its agony which i know all about (long story) so when people say well you got it easy you didnt go through the labour are so wrong! i laboured for ten hours with my first one and she got stuck so i know what labour feels like an id rather go through a few hours of labour and recover quick than the days that follow a csection yet i dont regret or feel bad for having my c sections for one moment me n my kids are alive today thanks to it x

 

[beachlover1]

im due for my second c section soon. Birth is birth, it doesnt matter where the baby pops out. My first section wasnt a choice, this one is. I certainly feel no guilt or loss at not having a vaginal birth. I dont care how a baby is "born" as long as its healthy and safe. It really bugs me when people say you arent giving birth....i mean if you werent giving birth the baby would remain in there forever!!!!!!!

 

[Aliciaxo]

It upsets me when people tell me I had it easy bc I had a c section. I was in labour for 24 hours to find out my pelvis was to small for my LO to fit. Giving birth is giving birth. Thanks for this tread

 

[tristansmum]

very true!

 

[Someday Mommy]

" just because the baby came out through the sunroof doesn't make us any less of a mother!" Thank you so much for saying that! I might have to have a csection and I'm absolutely terrified. That was the first time I've laughed since I found out!

 

[doodlebop]

Thanks for this post! I found out a couple weeks ago that I have complete previa, so a c-section is defenitely happening. I'm just glad that we live in a time when there is enough medical expertise to turn complicated pregnancies into successful births. I just want this baby to come out healthy, no matter how the entrance into the world is made. I certainly don't feel like it makes me any less of a woman or mother. A century ago I probably would have just bled out during childbirth, so no one better give me any crap about c-sections! I can't honestly say that I'm disappointed about not going into labour, but any way of getting baby out is going to be challenging, so please just be healthy baby!! I'll deal with whatever I have to deal with and do whatever I have to do to have you in my arms!

 

[Mummythree]

Of cource having a c section is giving birth if anything its more difficult than a vaginal birth, your having a major op and going through a long, hard painfull recovery. ive had 2 vaginal births and a section and vaginal is a piece of p*ss compaired to a section.

 

[Misstrouble19]

thanks for this post too. i so wanted a natural birth but was stuck at 1cm!! i felt less of a women because i had to be induced and couldnt do it naturally, i guess i wasnt ready and neither was my son. yes people say to me ''oh'' you dont know what labour is. im like yeah i do i had fake contractions for 12 hours or more

 

[rjm09]

I don't feel any less of a woman for having a C. I don't feel my son didn't bond with me cause he came out my stomach vs my twat!

I went through labor, i'm having a planned C this time. Had emcs last time. I'll take not having contractions for a C. It's def harder recovering from a C then it is just plopping the baby out. Unless you've ever had a C, you'd never understand.

I also like the idea of my kids heads not looking awkward passing through my pelvis.

 

[Mummythree]

Thats one good thing about having a section babies head looks nice and round lol.

I think if anything it makes you more woman having a section, willing to go through major operation, having your tummy & uterus cut open and stiched up having a big scar where your baby came from and willing to go through all that and the long recovery for the safty of your baby. vaginal birth is not a major operation and you recover a lot quicker.

I have three Lo's ive had 2 vaginal births and 1 section, so i have experienced both. i had 2 long hard labours but my section was tougher, i nearly needed a blood transufion, i had to be put on iron due to this and was very lightheaded and dizzy all that day/night. i had bad reaction to the spinal i was throwing up for 7hours after my section and was in recovery for 12hrs after my section. then i had bowel probs, nausea, 10weeks worth of bleeding and im now recovering from my 2nd scar infection.

so in my experience a vaginal or my two even though difficult births were a piece of piss compaired to a section.

its not called major surgery for nothing! x

 

[devon_91x]

Agree! Anyone who says we don't know what labour is like needs a punch! I was in labour for 31 hours before my EMCS! My girl was too big and I got stuck at 8cm! I was violently sick with every contraction, had an epidural that didn't work and lost a ridiculous amount of blood! The aftermath of a c-section is a lot more painful aswell! So anyone who thinks a c-section isn't giving birth needs to think again!!

 

[Mummythree]

I know what labour is like, not as difficult as major op and the recovery lol x

 

[SmartieMeUp]

Thanks for posting this. I'm 10 months post op and all the way through LO growing up I've felt a failure for not managing a natural birth (I gave in at 8cm after 43 hours). And truth be told, it's knocked my confidence to have another, with the thought of having [exaggerated] thoughts of uterine rupture.

The thing which made me feel better was a friend had her baby 6 days after me vaginally, and I dropped 2 jean sizes with in 5 weeks (1 size smaller than usual) where as she was battling her weight which took 8 months to get into her original jeans. Is it cruel for me to think like that?

 

[Mummythree]

I honeslt dont think which type of birth you have is down to how small you will be post birth. ive had 2 vaginals and 1 section and 1 vaginal and 1 section i was smaller than pre pregnancy after the births. even though i had huge bumps and big babies x

 

[LittlePeople]

The amount of people that feel sorry for me that I had to have a c-section...bollocks! If it takes a c-section to get my LO out safely, after a 58hour labour where I only got to 4cm's, I don't give a damn! Booked in for a section with no2 due to the trauma or my first labour, and I'm more than happy!

 

[skyesmommy21]

hi i had both of my girls through c-section the 1st was an EMCS due to a failed induction and GD my 2nd was an ELCS also due to GD but had a few complications when she was born and she spent her 1st week on the neo natal ward at birmingham childrens hosp and also new cross in wolverhampton, i am proud of my section scars its shows just what we went through to have our children and it takes a hell of a lot longer to recover (im still havin probs 6 months on) but wouldnt have it any other way my kids health comes first be proud of your scars people