Question About Worrying

[Tatertot]

Hi. Random question.

Do you ever worry less about something happening to your baby? I'm not pregnant yet, but hope to be soon. I had a baby in March who only lived for two weeks due to some major chromosomal issues and heart problems. I'll be having CVS testing as soon as I can. I wonder if I will worry less after that time or if I will continue to worry. Well, let me rephrase that. Do you think that I'll worry a little less after that? Or do you think I'll continue to worry like crazy until the baby is born? What was it like for you?

 

[Vickieh1981]

Awww I thought you were going to say you were pregnant then.

I think that you will worry all the way through. The innocence of pregnancy is gone forever when you have lost a baby but I am sure that Carrick is going to send you a perfect baby brother or sister for him to watch over.

I wish I could say it gets easier but I don't think it does.

 

[Mizze]

Yes you will worry all the way through BUT you are likely not to be as frantic with worry or completely pessimistic as you are at the start. You begin to hope a little bit more after each milestone ESPECIALLY when your previous issue is resolved. Mine was early miscarriages at around 6 weeks - an 8wk scan showed a baby and a hb - first time a scan hadnt been bad news. It relaxed me enough to get to the 12 week scan without being paralysed by terror.

Now I still worry, I still check my knickers although im close to full term now but its not as frantic. Last week's growth scan worry brought it all back as my FH hadnt changed in 4 weeks and I got shot straight back to the early week panic's but as everything was fine - I think I will be more relaxed if they say she is small at the next mw appt as the scan showed her spot on average.

Sorry im rambling now
I think it never goes, the worry, because Vickey is right - you have lost your innocence and that never comes back BUT I do feel as each milestone is passed and each issue resolved that you do relax a bit and learn eventually to enjoy it.

HTH - Good luck.

Mizze xx

 

[hb1]

I think the cvs will give you some assurances - some definites that will ease some of your worries relating to your loss.

But, after any loss, your eyes are opened to what can go wrong and that means you will worry to one degree or another the whole way through.

You will still have moments I'm sure of happiness and excitement for your pregnancy and when you do you should cherish it - this baby deserves that too.

Hope you get your sticky bfp soon

hx