quick question about your infertility

[venapols]

sorry if this seems rude im just really curious

in my family 'infertility' run rife with 100's of miscarriages and dozens of still births and almost every child that survived birth is/was premature but I seem to be the exception to the rule in an odd way...

I have 1 miracle child who is completely healthy (although he was premature) and the pregnancy went fine which I appreciate im incredibly lucky but unlike my family who cant STAY pregnant I cant GET pregnant, apart from my miracle DS i've never had a BFP, MC, chemical, faulty test or anything

question:

are you here for reoccurring MC or inability to conceive?

also do you know why or are you unexplained?

just curious to see because its starting to feel like im the only one that cant get pregnant

 

[MrsMcCurdy]

I'm here bc I just can't get pregnant. I've never seen a bfp and this is the first month that I know of that I have ever ovulated! So you're not alone dear. Chin up, you'll get there!

 

[CareBear]

I can't get pregnant. I was originally diagnosed as not ovulating and put on clomid which rsulted in a chemical pregnancy on one cycle, the other 7 cycles nothing. I then found I had high prolactin and have been on meds for that for about 2 and a bit years so I know have normal length cycles and ovulate but no pregnancy. I got pregnant lags year but I knew something was wrong straight away and I lost at 6 weeks. So now I'm unexplained. I think sperm can meet egg but that's it and on a couple of occasions has implanted enough to give me the very very faint line and then ends.

 

[venapols]

thanks for replying girls

@carebear I have high prolactin too and sometimes lactate randomly but they wont do anything because its in the 'safe' range (although right at the top) they keep saying im unexplained and my hormones are 'fine' but then I also have 'breast disease' which has been under investigation for 2 years as a possible rare cancer which they cant find a cause for either

@mrsmccurdy good luck hope you see a BFP soon

I had ridiculously irregular cycles with irregular ovulation and random LP until I tried clomid (which my doctor insisted wouldnt help anything) I didnt get pregnant but I now have a regular 28 day cycle ovulating on the 13th or 14th day so it obviously helped something

they have discharged me though as they say my only option is IVF but its so expensive, I hate the thought that we have to pay thousands for something we are suppose to be able to do for free

 

[bunyhuny]

DH and I can't get pregnant without IVF, and so far I haven't been able to stay pregnant after IVF either. Feels like DH and I just can't win. I used to have annovulation, but that cleared up once I got my PCOS under control. DH used to have great sperm, but they all of a sudden "went bad" around the time I started ovulating again. I had an ectopic early this year from IVF and lost my left tube, so that sucked. Since I was ovulating, we tried to go back to natural TTC this year (and then Clomid for a couple cycles to try to make me ovulate on my good side), but I only ended up ovulating on the no-tube-side three cycles in a row, so back to IVF. Probably need IVF anyway with DH's sperm issues. Last month I got pregnant again with an FET, but miscarried again (my 3rd m/c, 2nd w/DH), so now they're treating me for recurrent miscarriage. Just hoping that eventually they figure out the right combo of meds. And yep, IVF really ups the cost of treatment. We had to sell our house, most our furniture, and ask our family and friends for help. We've had three fresh IVF cycles and two frozen so far, and after the next FET, we'll have officially hit the $50,000 mark (and will have drained our savings and maxed out our credit). If it doesn't work, we'll be taking a break while we save up for another fresh cycle of PICSI.

 

[venapols]

DH and I can't get pregnant without IVF, and so far I haven't been able to stay pregnant after IVF either. Feels like DH and I just can't win. I used to have annovulation, but that cleared up once I got my PCOS under control. DH used to have great sperm, but they all of a sudden "went bad" around the time I started ovulating again. I had an ectopic early this year from IVF and lost my left tube, so that sucked. Since I was ovulating, we tried to go back to natural TTC this year (and then Clomid for a couple cycles to try to make me ovulate on my good side), but I only ended up ovulating on the no-tube-side three cycles in a row, so back to IVF. Probably need IVF anyway with DH's sperm issues. Last month I got pregnant again with an FET, but miscarried again (my 3rd m/c, 2nd w/DH), so now they're treating me for recurrent miscarriage. Just hoping that eventually they figure out the right combo of meds. And yep, IVF really ups the cost of treatment. We had to sell our house, most our furniture, and ask our family and friends for help. We've had three fresh IVF cycles and two frozen so far, and after the next FET, we'll have officially hit the $50,000 mark (and will have drained our savings and maxed out our credit). If it doesn't work, we'll be taking a break while we save up for another fresh cycle of PICSI.

wow £50,000 is a huge amount... thats so unfair especially as it hasn't worked for you

are there any offers you can try? there are 3 cycle packages in england where its £9,000 for 3 cycles of IVF but unused cycles become void if you get pregnant so its a gamble still

we are hoping to get married in 2 years (buying little bits as we go over 5 years) and other brides are driving me mad with their budgets... £35,000 on a reception party but apparently they 'absolutely cant do it any cheaper or it wouldn't be worth doing' one was even braging yesterday she spent 20k on her ring alone - it must be nice to have no problems in life and that amount to splash around on 'extras' when we cant even afford medical procedures

 

[bunyhuny]

I don't understand why people spend that much on a wedding. Even if one could afford it, it just seems like there are so many other things that one might need the money for in the future. DH and I had a small, destination wedding. It was absolutely gorgeous, but still cost under $15,000 and that included flights, hotels, a bachelor/bachelorette party (because our friends were to broke to pay for one), AND our honeymoon. As beautiful and amazing as our wedding was, I just can't understand spending any more than that.

Converted into pounds, we've spent about £31,000-£32,000. Our IVF has ended up costing so much because of costs outside of standard, stay-at-home IVF. The cost of 3 basic cycles and 3 FET's at our clinic only runs $13,500 (£8,500) total- and that's paying for them one at a time, not as a package. But we've run into several complication, overseas travel costs, etc, etc, etc.

After the next FET, the other $37,000 (£23,000) will have gone to: plane tickets and accommodations for each trip (5 round trips to Prague, 8 months spent living there in total), surgery to correct an ovarian cyst before going into my first IVF, specialized procedures that aren't included in basic IVF (PICSI- which isn't available in the US yet, video monitoring, extended monitoring, vitrification instead of slow freeze, embryo storage costs, etc), all the extra meds they've got me on that aren't standard for IVF, putting 3 vials of sperm into storage in case DH can't travel with me in the future, ectopic surgery & 3-day hospitalization while in Prague , pre-natal testing and multiple scans for all three pregnancies due to complications, cremation/urn costs for out loss last year, etc, etc, etc. I'm sure there are a bunch of other things I'm forgetting, but yeah, it's not the cost of IVF that will get you, but all the other things that come up with needing advanced treatments and post-conception complication care.

 

[KatO79]

Inability to conceive although I did experience 1 chemical pregnancy in April this year.

At the moment it looks like it's unexplained fertility but I missing my HSG which I can first take in 1½ weeks when I expect AF again so as not to destroy the egg if it's fertilized this cycle. Everything else is looking good: my CD3 hormones were all normal, DH may have a very slight issue but nothing major, my ultrasound showed I Oed when I think I did and my uterine lining looked fine I found out all this today at my 1st meeting with our RE so I'm in a great mood today