Rant about OH's ex, no read and runs please

[AriannasMama]

So my OH has a beautiful almost 5 year old daughter whom he has taken care of since day one and he pays child support, a year ago her mom up and left and hasn't told OH or any of his family where she is. 2 days ago OH's sister saw her and her new boyfriend in a store, so of course she told my OH and he called her up saying if she was in the area he wanted to see his daughter, so she said "fine you can come take her for the day", OH knew better than to show up there himself because she has tried to set him up multiple times to get him beat up and other things, so he called her and said his sister was going to come pick his daughter up and she said it was fine, well while we are waiting for her to come back his sister calls to tell us that she called the police on her because she suddenly felt "unsafe" for OH to see his daughter.

Since she refuses to talk to OH his older sister called and was asking her why she was doing all of this, my OH was never abusive to her, he was always there for his daughter until she ran off, and she was never able to give his sister a reason for any of this. She said that when her daughter asks for her dad it makes her mad, and then when OH's sister asked if it bothered her that she lies to her daughter about seeing her dad she said "no, not really"

He has had enough of all of it and is just going to court to get his rights to see his daughter, which in my opinion, he shouldn't have to be fighting this hard to see her! He had been there since day one and has been paying child support to her. Its just SO immature of her to be doing all of this, I know in her head she thinks she is hurting OH by doing this, but no one is being hurt besides her and his daughter!

Sorry for the giant rant, it just makes me so mad to see someone doing this to a person who was a good dad in the first place and is actually TRYING to be there.

 

[Desi's_lost]

Some people are just shitty. I'm sorry hun =/

 

[AriannasMama]

Thanks for actually replying! Yeah, its just hard seeing him hurt so much, thats his baby girl too and he loves her to death

 

[Croc-O-Dile]

I'm sorry hon. I really hope he gets to see her soon. If she can't even give anybody a reason as to why she feels "unsafe" then it's complete bull. I mean, I kind of feel hypocritical replying to this in light of everything going on with my situation, but it's really 100% different. At least I have reasons and have made those reasons known! She won't even tell why she doesn't want him around her? That's shit.
He's not abusive, he's paying child support, he's taken care of her when he's had her. TBH, he sounds like a pretty good dad!

Sorry, went on a bit of a rant there. Neither you, your OH, or his little girl deserve this.
Hope everything works out! xxx

 

[AriannasMama]

His family thinks she is jealous to see that he has moved on from her and isnt sitting around being upset because she broke up with him over 3 years ago. She has obviously moved on, is with some dude who is 15 years older than she is and has two other kids by him now....which is a whole different story, he is a bum, he has no job and is an alcoholic. He actually threatened my OH with death all because he wanted to see his daughter and told him he would never see her again, thankfully he has police reports on that to bring to court.

Thanks for the replies, I just cant wait for this shit to blow over, even if he only gets to see her weekends for now, which I hope isnt the case, he used to keep her for weeks and she didnt care then, but its better than nothing, she has a family here too, a baby sister on the way and a father who would lay down his life for her!

 

[halas]

she sounds like a nightmare hope it all gets sorted

 

[Jadelm]

He should definitely get it sorted via the courts cos if she's not willing to play ball after 5 years then she probably never will. It's so sad that someone could be like that to someone who's a genuinely good Dad. I mean FOB is a complete twat and so far has done everything to avoid stepping up to the mark but I'm still giving him the benefit of the doubt that he'll get his act to together for my daughter's sake, it would take a lot for me to stop him seeing her! Good luck to him hun I hope he gets it sorted and lucky you for having such a loving guy as your baby's father xxx

 

[AyaChan]

what an evil woman, she sounds like a right nightmaare.

hope everything works out for your OH hun

 

[Aidan's Mummy]

Hun the courts will see right through her
xx

 

[cabaretmum2b]

It would be one thing if she was just hurting your OH, but when she's hurting her own daughter in the process, it's another entirely!!! Just so that she can play some silly game...
All of the luck in the world to your OH to get to see his daughter - it sounds like her mum is a complete nutter anyway, I can't see any reason for him not to be able to see her!
to both of you

 

[mayb_baby]

Hope it blows over for you 2 and his daughter x

 

[xprincessx]

sorry this is all happening hun and well done on your OH for fighting to see his daughter, not a lot of guys would bother after all that's happened so they will be able to see he cares alot. dont worry because im sure there will be no reason why he wont be allowed to see her and then there will be nothing his ex can do about it. just stay strong for now and dont listen to the crap she comes up with because you all know its untrue x

 

[SilasLove]

I hate women who use their child as a crutch. As a punishment! Oh you are happy now, so you can't see your daughter. What a bunch of crap. Some people just need to grow up, or should not be allowed to have children.

I hope the courts rip her a new one, or even better, give your OH all the say like she seems to think she has.

 

[Eabha'sMum]

he should go to court, pet she doesn't seem as if she is going to be trustworthy enough to come to a agreement... so you are best getting it settled. and if you both have a stable enviroment, there is no reason why the court wouldn't allow you both to have residency!!
good luck, to you and your little family

xx

 

[sma1588]

i just have to say yay for him actually wanting to be there for his little girl and doing everything he has to to be in her life. sounds like u have a good guy there......also i love the name for your little girl. best wishes to all of you

 

[AriannasMama]

Thanks everyone, I know as soon as he files the papers and goes to court everything will be better, even if it is just seeing her for the weekends. I love his little girl too but I cant even imagine how it makes him feel.

 

[stuffymuffy]

I'm actually going through the exact same thing right now with my OH and his son so I know how you feel! She lets him take his son when it's convenient for her, like when she wants a night out or time to herself. But when he asks to come see him or take him she has to be right with him or he has to do things for her before he can have him, last week he had to take her to pick up all of her friends and take them all to the mall so he could see his son for an hour She's basically told him that if they can't be together as a couple then he can't have his son
Good for your OH for fighting for his little girl It's his child after all and he has a right to be a part of her life. It's so great to see a daddy fighting to see his child as son many just walk away. Custody and rights isn't an easy process, as my OH is going through it right now, but keep at it. Like your OH, mine finally got tired of having to do everything she wanted in order to see his own child and he filed for shared custody last week. Good luck xxxx

 

[daniellelk]

So my OH has a beautiful almost 5 year old daughter whom he has taken care of since day one and he pays child support, a year ago her mom up and left and hasn't told OH or any of his family where she is. 2 days ago OH's sister saw her and her new boyfriend in a store, so of course she told my OH and he called her up saying if she was in the area he wanted to see his daughter, so she said "fine you can come take her for the day", OH knew better than to show up there himself because she has tried to set him up multiple times to get him beat up and other things, so he called her and said his sister was going to come pick his daughter up and she said it was fine, well while we are waiting for her to come back his sister calls to tell us that she called the police on her because she suddenly felt "unsafe" for OH to see his daughter.

Since she refuses to talk to OH his older sister called and was asking her why she was doing all of this, my OH was never abusive to her, he was always there for his daughter until she ran off, and she was never able to give his sister a reason for any of this. She said that when her daughter asks for her dad it makes her mad, and then when OH's sister asked if it bothered her that she lies to her daughter about seeing her dad she said "no, not really"

He has had enough of all of it and is just going to court to get his rights to see his daughter, which in my opinion, he shouldn't have to be fighting this hard to see her! He had been there since day one and has been paying child support to her. Its just SO immature of her to be doing all of this, I know in her head she thinks she is hurting OH by doing this, but no one is being hurt besides her and his daughter!

Sorry for the giant rant, it just makes me so mad to see someone doing this to a person who was a good dad in the first place and is actually TRYING to be there.

Sorry that you and your OH are having to go through this
My OH as a daughter who is nearly 2, and seen her twice, last time she was a week old, and he's not been allowed to see her since(I think it's because his ex found out he was with someone else), took us a year to get to court for him to fight for accses due to the cost of it and trying to track down his ex. We or should I say he has his first court date for in a few week's.
I'm not an expert or anything on it all, but can see what you are going through, feel free to inbox me
can't really put much on here as I know his ex and her friend have being trying to find out stuff about me and my pregnancy xx