Rant: belly starers!

[shirlls]

I am 13 weeks pregnant with twins and at the stage of having a bump starting, but as I also have a bit of loose skin on my belly after having my LO 2 years ago so my bump pushes it out a bit and my belly is part bump and a bit loose flesh too which I find embarrassing as it's not 100% a pregnancy bump so I guess sometimes it might be hard to distinguish between a pregnancy and a fat belly.

Anyway, today I walked past a woman and she made no secret of the fact she was staring at my belly, her head actually turned round as she walked past. It was how blatant she did it that annoyed me, how rude! She might have just forgot herself but even still!

 

[modified]

I get it every time I leave the house, followed by a very dirty look - apparently I look very young.

 

[Eriamel]

I get it every time I leave the house, followed by a very dirty look - apparently I look very young.

I can totally relate.
I am about to be 28 this year and I look (I kid you not) 10 years younger.
I am finally starting to get that sharper "adult" face a little and everyone thinks I'm crazy for being super happy about it, lol!

 

[modified]

Even despite being fairly covered in tattoos, people still seem to think I'm much younger. I eventually snapped in the supermarket the other day whilst getting served - someone walked past giving me a right horrible look and I asked the woman how old I looked. She said she'd have guessed between 16 and 18. I'm 25 and married!

 

[Eriamel]

and don't you hate it too when people say "later you'll be happy to look younger"...

haha, good on you for giving that lady in the store a piece of your mind, and even if you WERE young.. who are other people to give you (or anyone young) judgmental looks? People can be idiots sometimes..

 

[Yo_Yo]

I find people staring at my bump too. It's weird, but I guess I look when I see a bump. I'm nosey!

 

[katherinegrey]

I got this a the checkout the other day! Like you I also have some loose flab from my son 18 months ago, so it's part bump part fat and the cashier kept staring at my belly! I even said to DH ' I guess I'm at the is she fat or pregnant stage!'

 

[MummyToAmberx]

Im going say, get use to it. It'll continue till the end.

I wear body shaper which helps shape bump more as mine still half and half and people look, i look much bigger than my weeks but love it!

 

[lauraemily17]

I'm also part bump & part remaining mummy tummy. In fact now the bump has moved higher the loose mummy tummy almost hangs below it, I'm really paranoid about it & feel like I just look fat. Not helped by being greeted with "hello tubby" by someone at work last week & less than subtle stares at my tummy by people the who prob don't know but suspect I might be pregnant. I feel like writing on my forehead, yes I am pregnant, not just fat!

 

[Gizzyy]

It's pretty normal. I just ignore it now to be honest as I'm looking very obviously pregnant so I think it's hard not to look lol. I can still understand though because if someone was staring at your boobs it would be weird and your belly is still apart of you so she shouldn't have outwardly gawped.
I never seem to get dirty looks luckily though (as far as I've noticed) even though I'm only 21 but I'm engaged and soon getting married (hopefully when I've lost some baby weight)

 

[Rcx]

I had it a few times this weekend. I'm self conscious at first but only because I hate people looking at my stomach but then I remember I'm pregnant and that's why they're looking lol x

 

[vickyandchick]

I seem to have shot out lately and have definitely noticed it this weekend. Was out having lunch and walked past a table and they all stared, then when I was sat down a girl at another table was like "oh my god she's pregnant".
I was like, I'm sorry do people not get pregnant anymore, why the shock

Don't get dirty looks though, even though at 21 I have severe baby face

 

[SonAmyMom]

I don't know if I haven't gotten those looks, or if I just really don't notice them. What does bother me is the people who have to come up and touch my belly. So far, it's just certain family members, but it does seem like every pregnancy I've had at least a couple strangers do it at some point - without asking first, even.

I'm finally at a point where I don't think people assume I'm a teen mom anymore (I'm now 36, but it probably happened through my third pregnancy, when I was 25).

 

[heidi87814]

If they're staring at you, hon, just stare right back. Give them a good old-fashioned, mouth-hanging-open, eyes-widened kind of gawk and show them how it feels. I know this isn't the best advice but I have no shame so that's how I'd handle it. lol

 

[Rickles]

TBH first time round I thought this was very weird... then about 6 weeks after I had my DD I found MYSELF staring at a ladies bump... For me (being totally honest) I was jealous!! I suddenly realised that I missed my bump and how people (generally) will chat to you more, look out for you and all the excitement pre birth associated with bumps!!!

Anyway it made me realise, some people stare because they are nosy, some because they are curious, jealous, and some don't even realise what they are doing. But creating life is amazing, it's not surprising people are fascinated by it and I'm just grateful to be growing my baby. A friend dragged me out my car this weekend so her kids could see my bump as they were so intrigued!!!! I honestly thought it was sweet and a natural reaction to hearing someone had a baby in their tummy!!

If people say nothing and stare - I would just assume they are thinking the best thoughts, not your worst. They are probably not staring at sagging skin, making judgements about your age, or anything else. They are just looking at your bump in awe. xx

 

[NotNic]

I have a pouchy bump. I missed out the chubby, wider stage this time, but in certain clothes it just looks like a mummy tummy but in empire line clothes I look huge!

 

[lilmonkey86]

I've been getting alot of stares lately, and questions about when i'm due, then when I tell people that I still have 3 1/2 months to go they go silent because I look like I was ready to pop a month ago
It really sucks being in that fat or pregnant stage, I hated it but now i am hating how big I am but it was ok this weekend when I saw my niece for the first time in a few months (she is 18 months) and she immediately ran up to me and hugged my belly and said "Hi Dante" It was the cutest thing I have ever seen made me kind of teary lol!

 

[Eriamel]

I was like, I'm sorry do people not get pregnant anymore, why the shock

HAHAHAHA, hilarious.

 

[Leliana]

I get the bump stares too - followed by a long hard look at DD. My bump is a little bigger than it was last time so I look a bit further along and despite the fact DD is 18 months old, she is very small and looks about a year. So I KNOW what they are thinking 'hmm, pregnant again eh?' I do find that frustrating at times as it really isn't anyone's business!

 

[AMB1216]

I'm not sure if people are staring at my bump yet (which I'm pretty sure is mostly fat xD) I know certain clothes make me look more rounded up front and some clothes hide it. I too look very young I'm 24 and I look 15. I know I will be getting stares when I get to the "Oh she's pregnant" stage thinking I'm a teenager. I suppose it just comes with the territory but I do see how blatantly staring can be uncomfortable, especially if you're like me and have social anxiety. But I'm guilty at aweing over round pregnant bellies as well.