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moomin_troll
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Chances are she won't be around for long if that's how they decided to start a relationship :/
I wouldn't want her near my child, but of course that would be my angry side showing because I don't forgive or forget :/
I wouldn't want her near my child, but of course that would be my angry side showing because I don't forgive or forget :/
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Yes, the father can introduce his kids to anyone he like.
it wouldnt be nice at all. but i dont think there is anythign you can do is there?
I broke up with my ex 9 weeks ago, my babys due in 4 weeks. Im DREADING him getting a new gf. But it will happen. Obviously he left you for her and thats gotta kill! How long have yous been broken up?
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I broke up with my ex 9 weeks ago, my babys due in 4 weeks. Im DREADING him getting a new gf. But it will happen. Obviously he left you for her and thats gotta kill! How long have yous been broken up?
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Deafgal does a Mother not have a right then in who her children get to meet??.....We have been apart 7 months now and My children know nothing of the other woman, I look at this woman as a home wrecker, even though my Husband is the one that done wrong and 100 % the blame is on him but she knew he was a married man with children and thats something that i find hard, im just trying to do the right thing here for my children and i guess im just looking for a little bit of advice from maybe someone that has been in the same situation, thankyou for reading 
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deafgal
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Well it depends on your custody order.you can express your feelings to your ex but if he is looking after the kids, I think there is little you can do.
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A father also has the right to share his children whom he wishes, it goes both ways.
Im sorry, he sounds like a cad
You must be so hurt, I cannot fathom! She sounds like a real winner! But at the same time, if theres no legal reason stating otherwise or without legal intervention, what he does with introducing them to people in his own custody is also his right. As sucky as that is.
Im sorry, he sounds like a cad
You must be so hurt, I cannot fathom! She sounds like a real winner! But at the same time, if theres no legal reason stating otherwise or without legal intervention, what he does with introducing them to people in his own custody is also his right. As sucky as that is.
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I can understand that in a way, but at the same time the heartache that me and my children have been through these past few months has been horrendous, I have 3 children and my eldest will be only becoming 7, Im just thinking when is the right time to tell them?...Do you think that is too young?..Im just thinking theyve had alot already at such a young age and learning to adapt with their father not living at home has been hard...i know its been 7 months from he has left im just unsure at that age can they handle the blow of him living with another woman?...I just want to be honest and open with them as i think that will be the best thing for us all, i just want to move on with my life now and be happy again but my kids come first...sorry if im rambling on and not making sense but its a horrible situation to be in x
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I personally feel kids shouldnt be dragged into every relationship a mum/dad has. I wouldnt introduce my children to a man unless we had been dating for over a year and i was 100% sure we were gonna commit to each other and thats how i feel my ex should play it too. He has plenty time to keep these 2 parts of his life seperate.
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deafgal
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I can understand that in a way, but at the same time the heartache that me and my children have been through these past few months has been horrendous, I have 3 children and my eldest will be only becoming 7, Im just thinking when is the right time to tell them?...Do you think that is too young?..Im just thinking theyve had alot already at such a young age and learning to adapt with their father not living at home has been hard...i know its been 7 months from he has left im just unsure at that age can they handle the blow of him living with another woman?...I just want to be honest and open with them as i think that will be the best thing for us all, i just want to move on with my life now and be happy again but my kids come first...sorry if im rambling on and not making sense but its a horrible situation to be in
From my experience who my dad cheated and mom dragging us in the middle of it (they never separated though. They stayed married), I wouldn't explain anything except that you two couldn't make it work.plus, I am sure they love their dad and they may see it as badmouthing him if you go into details.
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Be honest without going into detail.
I think as a father he should see his kids without her for awhile. But kids aren't as fragile as we make out.
My eldest is 5 and has been threw a lot, things most adults break down about, but he's perfect.
Talk to ur ex. And then sit down with ur kids. Say dads got a gf and would they like to meet her?
As a single parent who has met someone now, I don't agree with waiting a year ect for me that was impractical.
They will eventually end up meeting her. And god id be livid, I'd want to smash her face in.
And yes it's his fault, but f it. Uve got a right to feel irrational when u want, aslong as the kids don't see
I think as a father he should see his kids without her for awhile. But kids aren't as fragile as we make out.
My eldest is 5 and has been threw a lot, things most adults break down about, but he's perfect.
Talk to ur ex. And then sit down with ur kids. Say dads got a gf and would they like to meet her?
As a single parent who has met someone now, I don't agree with waiting a year ect for me that was impractical.
They will eventually end up meeting her. And god id be livid, I'd want to smash her face in.
And yes it's his fault, but f it. Uve got a right to feel irrational when u want, aslong as the kids don't see
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Yes.
I've had to let FOB introduce all his girlfriend's to Connor. If I had my way, I'd never let him meet any of them, ever. But, it's selfish of me. FOB is his parent too, I guess as crap as he is, he's got to make parenting decisions. I've been single for 3 1/2 years, but if I ever met someone, I wouldn't want FOB dictating if Connor could meet them or not.
I've had to let FOB introduce all his girlfriend's to Connor. If I had my way, I'd never let him meet any of them, ever. But, it's selfish of me. FOB is his parent too, I guess as crap as he is, he's got to make parenting decisions. I've been single for 3 1/2 years, but if I ever met someone, I wouldn't want FOB dictating if Connor could meet them or not.
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