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[needshelp]

hi everyone, i'm not sure if i belong here or where I belong at this point...it's been an emotional month for us... I had my first mc just a few weeks ago...it was emotionally devastating...they termed it a "chemical abortion' which has upset me soo much but told me I could start trying again right away....we plan on trying and hoping for a sticky but I cannot feeling overwhelmed with fear...did anyone else get pregnant the cycle after a chemical miscarriage and have a successful pregnancy? how is everyone coping with the emotions?!

 

[Bubsta]

I'm so sorry for your loss. Xx it is such a hard time. I had one AF and then fell pregnant and am now 16wks. It is really tough having to go through a miscarriage and then having such hurtful medical terms used. Pregnancy after a loss is especially hard in the beginning, but it does get easier as time goes on (in my experience and in a lot of others i have spoken to) xx
I found the TTC after a loss section so supportive before I became pregnant again. They really helped.
I really hope you fall again quickly and wish you all the best. Be kind to yourself and lots of sticky baby dust to you. Xxx

 

[Tournesol]

So sorry for your loss hun.
I had a miscarriage at 6w, so a little bit later than what would be considered a chemical.
My doc also told me there was no need to wait to try again, so we didn't and were lucky enough to fall pregnant again straight away, no AF.
This one is strong and healthy and very sticky!

The odds for you going on to have a healthy baby after a chemical are very high, so be strong and go ahead and try again. You'll never 'get over it' but I promise it does get easier as time goes on. (as Bubsta says!)

 

[needshelp]

thanks for the positive thoughts and congrats on your sticky! Just what I needed to hear as a pick me up! i've been tryign to think positive but am so scared to go through this again! happy holidays to you both!

 

[emergRN]

Tornesol and bubsta... Thank you for the words as well...

I'm 5 weeks after a natural mc at 9w5d and I'm very scared and apprehensive... Your success makes me feel better!!! I just gotta take it one day at a time, right?

 

[Bubsta]

It is really scary and time drags in the beginning, but as you pass different milestones and have more scans, you will start to feel better and realise that this time is different. This time it will be successful and you will have the most beautiful precious bundle at the end. Try and relax and have a fantastic Chrissy break! Xxx

 

[Tournesol]

You're absolutely right emerg, one day at a time is the best way to be. If you think too much about the future and what could happen, you'll worry and stress, which is not good for bubba!
Even now I'm still concentrating on each day as it comes. I haven't even bought any baby stuff yet! Not a thing! I just don't want to jinx it. Silly, I know.

I really am sorry for both your losses, I wouldn't wish it on my worst enemy. Bubsta's right, the beginning is the hardest, it's still so raw.

I hope you manage to have a happy Christmas