second appointment at fertility clinic

[littlepeps]

I had my first appointment back in Feb and not much has happened since then ... all they did was confirmed what had already been confirmed with scans .. I have pcos. My OT has also been tested and hes ok .. hes got supersperm !!! very pleased with himself about that !! lol

So what happens now ????

I wasnt offered any help, just told to drop 2 stone ... I wasnt told anything about IR or metformin .. got that all from you ladies ... what should I do or help to ask for ????

Thanks

 

[Princess Lou]

Hey. I assume you are at RFC? At my second appointment I was placed on Clomid with scans to check for ovulation for six months. After that, I had a review appointment and was placed on the waiting list for injections which was nine months (ironic right?). That nine month turned into 12 and is now 14 but I have my appointment to go back exactly 52 weeks after being placed on the list.

My hubby also has supersperm and I was told that I "must have PCOS because there is no other option available". Personally I don't think I do as the only symptoms for it are weight gain which I am finding easy to lose so long as I stick to my plans, and the lack of periods. It's not that they are even irregular, they are non existent. Lol.

One thing I have noticed with RFC is that they rush you in and out and don't give you much information. Dr Abaje (not sure on spelling, but he's tall, dark and handsome) is who I'm with and I really don't like him. He has a way of making me feel like it's all my fault and he seems to think that of you lose weight and quit smoking you will get pregnant. Well, did that and still not.

Anyway, I have learnt, I'm taking a list with all my questions on it and want them all answering. My mind goes blank when I'm in there, like I'm a child being chastised. Make sure you get your answers and don't let them usher you out the door until you are ready.

Good luck.

 

[littlepeps]

hi Princess Lou .. I nearly cried reading your reply ... Im with the same consultant as you ( and he is very handsome !!! ) .. I see him at the Grove Centre ... the whole thing made me feel the same way as you .. I actually felt humiliated .. I came home and cried, Ive never felt so useless in my life !!! .. I would say it took me about a month to pull myself back together after my last visit so yes Im going armed with a list of questions this time !!!!!! But I get the feeling because I havent got my BMI down to 30 they are just going to push me out the door again. I am losing weight but its bloody hard .. 1lb off the half lb back on again sort of thing !!!!!! If they know pcos creates weight gain why dont they offer help from dieticians or some thing .. I went to slimming world and the leader said she wasnt medically trained to offer help with an IR diet !!! grrrr

Guess we just have to keep plugging on !!!! Good Luck !!!

 

[Princess Lou]

I see him at the hospital. I live five minutes away from the gates. Well, I said that once and hubby said "Speed you walk? Try 15" It takes about 20 minutes for me to get to the entrance of the RFC but the grounds are huge.

I had a BMI of 31 when I was given the Clomid. It has to be under 30 for the more expensive treatments. I was on an emotional roller-coaster from March through to July and all the weight I lost at the beginning of the year piled back on. I started again in July and now my BMI is at 27. I joined Slimming World last week and although they aren't medically trained, I'm hoping the support will help. Which one did you go to? I'm at Donegall Road Methodist Church on Wednesdays. They will offer oral medication if you can prove that you have been trying to lose weight. At the end of the day, larger ladies may find it difficult to conceive but I know plenty of women with a BMI over 40 that conceived with no problems. One was even on the pill.

At the end of the day, we didn't ask to be in this position and we have a right to know whats going on and not made to feel like a naughty child.

If you like, I would be happy to support you in losing weight and on this journey. Sometimes one friend who knows what you are going through is better than 10 friends who can only sympathise.

 

[littlepeps]

I went to a slimming world in East Belfast ... the diet plan is fantastic with all the free foods .. my Mum did it and lost 4 stone, the weight just fell off .. but Im finding that the things that they say to eat clash with a low GI diet .. I just went along every week for the support but I was finding that the information that was being given for the other dieters wasnt any good for me and I got frustrated and bored as it was no use to me ... plus no one could get why I couldnt lose weight as easy !!!!! .. I eat a normal diet so really the slimming world wasnt a drastic change for me !! Im not an emotional eater or eat crap, as a child my mum worried about me because I was too skinny and wouldnt eat .. I only started putting on weight as I approached puberty.

At least you dont have too far to get over to the clinic, I know that area very well I used to live in South Belfast.

My friends really dont get what I am on about and my mum was one of those women who got pregnant on the pill and my cousins breed like rabbits ( we think the pcos has can from my dads side of the family ) so I would be very pleased to have a buddy !!!

 

[Princess Lou]

I'm not going to bore you with my eating habits so short version is I have Cibophobia which is a fear of food, I don't eat, blood sugar dips, I crave all the wrong things, binge eat crap and then panic etc. I got better when I was 20 and living with my fiance but my Mummy passed away when I was 22, three months after my wedding (she was 44) and it came back which is when the weigh piled on.

I love where I live. Practically on top of Windsor Park, Leisure Center for swimming right next door and the street is full of old people so there's never any trouble. Very close to the butchers and grocers too. And extremely easy for visitors as we are virtually on top of the motor way. They can't get lost. Unless my husbands Grandfather is driving. Not sure how but even with sat nav they ended up over near falls.

I am literally the only one in my family and friends that is going through all this. My Daddy's cousin did have to have IVF but her fella needed a vasectomy reversal. One cousin fell on the pill, another got knocked up the first time she had sex with her fella after he came back from wherever he was with the RAF. Sadly that didn't progress but she fell again straight away and now has her third boy. My sister was off the implanon for 15 weeks when she found out she was 8 weeks pregnant. I was planned and conceived on the first try and my Mummy had the coil fitted when my sister was conceived.

What bugs me more is when people say "But you're still young, you've got plenty of time." When we started this journey I was 21 and my fella was 23, I'll be 26 next month and in March he's 28. My grandmother seems to think that it will happen when I least expect it. I've tried explaining to her that my body doesn't work like normal women's do but she's not having any of it. She's old. Set in her ways. Knows best. Lol.

I can't even say it comes from one side or the other as they are all like bunnies when it comes to it.

You know, I was so paranoid that my puppy would get pregnant before I did so had her spayed this morning. Now I feel awful because she isn't herself at the moment. There are loads of health benefits to getting her done though and hubby wanted her doing anyway (she's got a Labrador mother and Springer Spaniel father) but I can't help feeling bad because she was done for the wrong reasons on my part.

 

[littlepeps]

Poor pup lol ... I dont have any pets at the mo as it wouldnt be fair on them as we both work long hours, but I did have a collie mix called Charlie who is now with my sister.

Are you off Tates Avenue ?? Its pretty handy to everything there.

I wish I had of started earlier .. but I wasnt in the right relationship and was off doing silly things with my life and Ive had to wait until now to find a fantastic partner and to be settled with and start a family and I havent got time on my side as Im now looking down the barrel of 37 so I guess I agree with the 'plenty of time' comments lol .. we have just passed the 2 year mark and nothing is really improving !!!

My sister has 2 stepkids , who are fab and she has no interest in having any of her own so I dont have that pressure and my friends were all reproducing 10 yrs ago so I dont have that either but a friend did have her first at 38 in June .. her giving birth and visiting her and her hubby didnt bother me ... well apart from every ones comments about my OH having to watch because they are catching !! .. I wish !!!!! But the thing that floored me which I wasnt prepared for was when she message me and told me she was expecting .... it was the first time I had been faced with a close friends pregnancy news while dealing with my own infertility and I bawlled my eyes out for hours !!! My poor OH didnt know what to do .... thank god she didnt tell me in person !!!!

Have they just left you fertility problems as unexplained ??? Maybe its a nutrition thing with your eating habits .. has a Dr ever tested your vitamin levels ??