Second Tri off to a bad start :/

[Anaconda]

So yesterday (or Thursday, I don't really no) I officially entered my second trimester. Initially I was really happy, until my doctors appointment yesterday.

When I was 11 +6 weeks we had an ultrasound done. Baby was moving, we saw the heart beat... fast forward 2 weeks and it's yesterday, we're sitting in the doctors office, the doctor is saying the baby looked great, was moving, no probability of Down Syndrome... However we did see some bleeding. I think to my self, "what"? I have not bled once. Not even a drop. But there on the ultrasound they said they saw a small patch of blood outside the gestational sac. Naturally I freak out, my doctors orders another U/S for wednesday (thank goodness) and we see her again this upcoming Friday.

Then today I woke up at around 4 with severe cramping. I panic and head to Emergency. They were basically a crock of shit and did nothing for me. Completely ignored the fact that I kept telling them about this blood that was seen on my 11 week ultrasound. They did U/S (didn't even check for blood) and saw baby moving with a strong heartbeat. They sent me home (me rightly pissed at them).

Ok a few minutes ago I call in at work to tell them I'm not feeling good at all (I'm constantly running to the bath room today) but my boss says she has no one to replace me so I have to show up. Great. I work nights, I'm exhausted and sick, and the last thing I want to do is work all night. Not to mention she sounded pissed off at the fact I can't do any heavy lifting. She was like, "I saw that coming. You should have told us when we hired you."
First, I wasn't going to tell a stranger I was pregnant when I didn't even no if I actually was, and second, no need to give a women who just got bad news attitude.

I'm having a bad day and just wanted to vent

(P.S do you think it's a good sign I actually haven't seen any bleeding and that possibly since it's been 2 weeks since that ultrasound the bleeding may have disappeared? Baby's growing fine and has a strong heart beat... so maybe this bleeding won't affect him/her? Maybe it's gone? Maybe I should stop worrying since nothing bad has happened within those 2 weeks?)

 

[Yo_Yo]

Hi honey.
You sound like you have a sch aka subchorionic hematoma. I have had this with my baby.
It's a good sign your not bleeding, and you should probably find your patch of blood will reabsorb.
For me I bleed (sometimes very heavily)from week 12-18 and had cramps. But baby hasn't been affected by it.
My blood clot was large, and generally the bigger it is, the more of a concern it is. You say yours is small and hasn't bled-best scenario in this situation.

Most of these clear up by week 20, so don't stress honey

 

[qe76]

i really hope you report your boss- sounds like she is saying if she knew you were pregnant she wouldn't have hired you. and if you don't feel up to going into work don't! call human resources at least and talk to them about it..

I have read about many woman having bleeding that had no harm on the pregnancy. I bleed in my first tri- and yes- the ER is full of assholes- I reported my ER for the way they treated me and people got in trouble.

 

[Nina83]

I agree, it sounds like a SCH, and it's good you're not bleeding! Did they mention the size of the clot?
I don't think the ER would do much, except the US, and like I said before- as long as you're not bleeding, it's a good sign. And they did the US which showed everything is fine, maybe the SCH/clot was so small it already absorbed? (I had one at 6 weeks and by my 7 week scan it wasn't visible)

Your boss is just a work of art, nothing more to say about that.
Geez, some people.

It sounds like you're really stressed out from this, and it's effecting you a lot. The cramps- they come and go, don't worry!
Take your sick day, rest, and really, try not to worry about it! ((hugs))

 

[Anaconda]

Everyone here just made my day

I feel so much better hearing you guys say so many nice things. I really needed it, so thanks so much ladies.

I was looking on the form for my next ultrasound and it mentions that at my 11 +6 week ultrasound the bleed spot was about 1.0x1.3x2.8 cm... what ever that means... I imagine that's really small? I mean, for all I know it has been absorbed? I'm sure if it got bigger they would have seen it today?

Anyways, about work... no idea what I'm doing there. I called but she keeps giving me a hard time. She says there is no one to cover for me. I can't help but thing, what if I was in the freaking hospital. You still going to tell me there is no one to cover my shift? Ugh, so ridiculous. So I guess I'm going to be working all night. I'm actually pretty amazed they're making me come in whilst sick considering I work with food (I work at Tim Hortons).

 

[YoshiPikachu]

Wow your boss sounds like a big female dog.

 

[qe76]

your boss is pissing me off- please call someone and tell them what she said- also put it in writing that you requested a sick day and she said no- tell her it needs to go in your file in case something happens and you will check to make sure it went in your file. It is against the law to discriminate against pregnant people. Dont let her bully you!
If you go in do not do more then you can handle- do not push yourself !
xx

 

[Anaconda]

I'm going to go in tonight, but I'm not doing anything I'm not comfortable doing. If stuff doesn't get done then too bad for them. I'm sick and not feeling up to going and if she doesn't want to accommodate that then that's not my problem.

I just know a certain someone (a specific supervisor) is going to also give me a hard time tomorrow morning (as she always does).

Now about this putting it in writing and in my file. Would I have my boss (the one giving me a hard time) do this or human resources?

 

[Anaconda]

How twisted is this... my boss isn't following my work's policy. We have everything online these days and I was looking up our sick day policy. Here's what it says:

"If you are unavailable for a regular scheduled shift, you should let your Manager know as soon as possible, or no later than four hours before your shift.

You should not come to work if you are ill and displaying symptoms of vomiting, diarrhea, or jaundice. Working while you are sick can result in your illness being passed on to other team members and our guests. You may return to work 24 hours after you are free from any symptoms, and/or if you obtain a doctor's note allowing you to return to work in a food premise."

I've been running to the bathroom all night and today... but apparently she doesn't give a toot if I pass my sickness on to other people.

 

[qe76]

I would give it to your boss so she knows not to screw with you and follow up with HR. I know this could cause you more grief- HR doesn't always do what they are suppose to- I just really get so upset when people treat others like this!
My sister also lost her first baby do to over working- long time ago- It's just not right- they cant ask you if you are pregnant when interviewing for a job so your boss had no right to make that comment- I was treated really bad with my first pregnancy- It seems to be other woman that do this too- usually men (not always though) act better at work then other woman.. I don't get it.

 

[qe76]

just read your last post- you really need to put it in writing what she said and how she is making you come in- I have worked with food too- it's no joke!

 

[xQuinnx]

That sounds awful firstly work cannot demand you come in particular if it is pregnancy related and they are aware you're pregnant so they can stuff off with their nights!! Yours and your baby's health is more important. Secondly I know it's not the same but when I first became pregnant and had a viability scan they told me it was molar. I had weekly scans until I was about 9 weeks when they told me it wasn't molar and the cysts in my uterus had disappeared. They still to this day can't tell me what it was...maybe this bleeding will be similar?

 

[YoshiPikachu]

How twisted is this... my boss isn't following my work's policy. We have everything online these days and I was looking up our sick day policy. Here's what it says:

"If you are unavailable for a regular scheduled shift, you should let your Manager know as soon as possible, or no later than four hours before your shift.

You should not come to work if you are ill and displaying symptoms of vomiting, diarrhea, or jaundice. Working while you are sick can result in your illness being passed on to other team members and our guests. You may return to work 24 hours after you are free from any symptoms, and/or if you obtain a doctor's note allowing you to return to work in a food premise."

I've been running to the bathroom all night and today... but apparently she doesn't give a toot if I pass my sickness on to other people.

Show that to her.

 

[Yo_Yo]

That's a tiny clot honey really good it's so small.

To give some comparison, mine was 6.5cm x 3cm at 12 weeks, it grew a little then shrunk and looks to be gone now according to my 20 week scan.

Think of it like a cut-the smaller it is, the faster it should heal

I agree with other posters about your boss-how awful!

Your main priority is looking after yourself honey-screw your stupid boss!

 

[Anaconda]

So my assistant manager called me back and told me she found someone to cover my shift. Notice how it wasn't even my manager to begin with. Ugh.

Anyways I'm so thankful I get to rest more as I wouldn't even be able to sleep for tonight anyways with my daughter suddenly getting all cranky (really hoping she's not getting sick now!)

I just don't understand why their giving me such a hard time. When I first told her I was pregnant she asked me about my nighttime baking. I said it should be fine as carrying the boxes weighed the same as my daughter and my doctor had no problem with my carrying my daughter around. I figured I should have been ok. I guess not :/ Anyways she told me if anything changed to tell her and she'd accommodate. Unfortunately I never saw this coming so I told her right away and now she's treating me like this? I don't get it At first she seemed so happy for me but now she just seems like I'm a giant inconvenience.

I can't help but feel like they'd find some little reason to let me go, and that scares me as I really need this job.

Right now my unborn child is SO much more important to me and I think to myself, if they did fire me it would be better than going through hell with them, but at the same time the thought still creeps in my mind.

(It's pretty stupid us pregnant women have to worry about holding down a job while pregnant )

 

[CastawayBride]

I just wanted to send you ! I hope this all works itself out and the rest of your pregnancy can be less stressful!

 

[qe76]

glad to hear you didn't have to go in! and most places wont fire a pregnant woman cause they know they can get in big trouble for it- They would try to make you so unhappy you quit. So dont let them! Hope things go smoother for you from now on!

 

[CastawayBride]

So my assistant manager called me back and told me she found someone to cover my shift. Notice how it wasn't even my manager to begin with. Ugh.

Anyways I'm so thankful I get to rest more as I wouldn't even be able to sleep for tonight anyways with my daughter suddenly getting all cranky (really hoping she's not getting sick now!)

I just don't understand why their giving me such a hard time. When I first told her I was pregnant she asked me about my nighttime baking. I said it should be fine as carrying the boxes weighed the same as my daughter and my doctor had no problem with my carrying my daughter around. I figured I should have been ok. I guess not :/ Anyways she told me if anything changed to tell her and she'd accommodate. Unfortunately I never saw this coming so I told her right away and now she's treating me like this? I don't get it At first she seemed so happy for me but now she just seems like I'm a giant inconvenience.

I can't help but feel like they'd find some little reason to let me go, and that scares me as I really need this job.

Right now my unborn child is SO much more important to me and I think to myself, if they did fire me it would be better than going through hell with them, but at the same time the thought still creeps in my mind.

(It's pretty stupid us pregnant women have to worry about holding down a job while pregnant )

My job gave me a hard time, BUT, had to comply due to our laws here. I am sorry they are giving you a hard time, i know it is very stressful...

 

[MommyFirefly]

Your boss sounds like a piece of work. That's about the nicest thing I can say. Definitely don't worry about getting fired. Most places wont fire a pregnant woman. Just don't let them bully you into quitting.

About the bleeding, I would say you shouldn't really worry about it. If you haven't seen any, you should be okay. Just keep your chin up and try to not stress!