I'm just so confused and conflicted at the moment.
Yes you're right, my thread title is wrong, it's not self weaning. I posted about him not asking a few days ago and don't offer, don't refuse seemed like the best fit advice for our situation.
I'm just very emotional!
ETA Thank you for your honest feedback and I mean that genuinely, I don't mean it to sound sarcastic. It's made me think about things from a different angle. I was kind of expecting / hoping people to say, well done you, you've done brilliantly. It's normal to feel sad but you'll get over it. But you didn't sugar coat it and perhaps I needed to hear that in order to make an objective, critical and fully informed decision.
I think it probably is the right time to wean but I'll continue to do some research and soul searching over the next few days. And sobbing I expect. Thank you again.
Have you ever come across the book How Weaning Happens? It's full of personal stories about how people's children weaned (funnily enough 
). I spent a lot of the book sobbing my heart out, but it's really encouraging too, an reinforced that there is no one right way. Alice 'weaned' (so I thought!) a few months ago. I had been sick of it really, but when she told me she would never have it again, I felt so conflicted, so I know where you're coming from. If you do feel it's reached its conclusion, how about marking it in some way? Maybe get yourself a necklace, or a painting. I wrote Alice a letter which I found very cathartic. It's a emotional journey, and when you reach the end, I think it should be celebrated.
. At least I've had a practise run for the real thing!
