Settling baby?

[Linzi]

I really don't know what I'm doing... I feel like such a newbie to this!

Seth has only been home since Monday, so this is only our second night with him but he just doesn't settle at all. He just cries and cries. I don't know what to do! He's always dry, fed and winded and I can't find a reason why he won't sleep... he manages through the day but not an awful lot, maybe 5 hours. He's awake the rest of the time.

Any tips? I really don't know what im doing I haven't slept since Saturday night really.

xxx

 

[Holldoll]

I would really suggest the book Happiest Baby on the Block. It's amazing and makes TONS of sense! It suggests, swaddling, swinging, sucking, and two other things that start with S but I'm WAY too tired right now to remember!!

Oh yeah, Side (baby like to be on side) and SHHH (making a shh noise in baby's ear as loud as baby is crying. If you can, definitely buy this book!!

 

[AquaDementia]

swaddling truly does wonders

 

[marley2580]

All this is new to both you and him, you both need to learn how to deal with your new situation. Try him in a sling, or take him to bed with you. At night (hard with the longer days) keep the light low, keep everything a bit quieter, try to teach him the difference between day and night. We've all been there and we can tell you that it will get better.

 

[oOKayOo]

Shh noise worked great for me in the early days, swaddleing, singing, rocking to sleep just closness really. I hope it soon gets better for you

 

[Linzi]

Thank you

Matt got him to sleep in his basket for about half an hour after burping him and we think that was why he's been crying so much. I tried to get wind out of him but never been able to so thats probably worked wonders! I feel bad though because after he woke up I got up and put him next to me in bed and fel asleep. It was the BEST 4 hours Ive ever had but I feel SO guilty for falling asleep with him next to me. Hopefully we'll be able to catch up today.

Thank you all again

xxx

 

[missjess]

I put some lavender oil on Joshua's PJ and his blankets at night... It makes him sleepy and so relaxed.

 

[smartie]

I swaddle Hannah and then lay her on a blanket that is rolled up at the sides so she feels she is next to something. This was recommeded to me by a midwife as we'd had major problems getting Hannah to sleep on her own and was always ending up in the bed with us just so we could get some sleep. It has worked wonders - we started with it last Friday and she has only been waking for a feed once during the night each night. We do make sure she is asleep first though before putting her down otherwise she'll just scream the place down!

 

[Samantha675]

Don't feel bad for sleeping next to your LO. Remember you are both used to each other being there day and night. I think this is why our LO's have such trouble sleeping on their own. They know nothing different than to be surrounded by us, with the beat of our heart and our movements. For the first 10 days, I slept with Bren on my chest. I could not stand to put him down, and he hated being in his cradle. He also does not like to be swaddled. For the past few nights, I have been sleeping with him beside me. It is something I feel comfortable doing. I sleep well and so does he. He slept for about 6 hours last night! If you don't feel quite comfortable sleeping with him next to you, maybe look at getting a Deluxe Snuggle Nest. We have one, and I will eventually get Bren in it. This way he can sleep with us, but we don't have to worry about rolling over on him, or him rolling anywhere.

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[Holldoll]

I sleep with Izzie on my chest as well. It makes me nervous for her to be next to me, but I'm okay with her on my chest. After she is very asleep (when I wake up and realize she is still there) I put her in her co-sleeper and we both sleep very well. She goes 4+ hours without waking up. Don't feel guilty for the first 3 months babies aren't smart enough to get spoiled.

 

[xCherylx]

So glad that so many people are going through what I am with putting Jack into our bed. He was ok in the moses basket for a week or so but then started not to settle and he fell asleep in my bed one day when I was getting ready. However now when we put him down in the moses basket when we think he is asleep he wakes up within 10 minutes...it's like he knows
I'm going to try rolling blankets up and putting them round him...sounds logical

 

[Linzi]

He HATES his moses basket. If he's with me or Matt he'll go to sleep but as son as he goes in his basket he screams.

The midwife gave us a couple of tips, just thought Id share incase anyone else has the same problems.

1 - Put a tshirt that you/OH have been wearing all day over the blanket over your baby because the familiar smell calms them down

2 - Raise one end of the basket by a couple of cms if you can because babies don't like lying flat on their backs.

We tried both last night and they worked for a bit, hopefully we'll be a bit more sucessfull tonight.

xxx

 

[coz]

He HATES his moses basket. If he's with me or Matt he'll go to sleep but as son as he goes in his basket he screams.

The midwife gave us a couple of tips, just thought Id share incase anyone else has the same problems.

1 - Put a tshirt that you/OH have been wearing all day over the blanket over your baby because the familiar smell calms them down

2 - Raise one end of the basket by a couple of cms if you can because babies don't like lying flat on their backs.

We tried both last night and they worked for a bit, hopefully we'll be a bit more sucessfull tonight.

xxx

good idea with raising basket up as i feel my baby doesnt like being flat on his back as he seems to prefer to sleep in his bouncer xxx

 

[~KACI~]

Both my LO's found the moses basket quite uncomfatable so i padded them out with a fleece. We've recently moved her into a swinging cot and the mattress is quite basic in that so we've padded it out with a old pillow thats hardly there, then put her fleece ontop. She usually will stay in her bed til 3 4 ish and then she comes in with us which she likes but she sleeps on my side and not in the middle. I sleep with my arm out stretched so that i can't roll over. I swore when pregnant i wouldn't co-sleep, but its just one of those things!! x x

 

[marley2580]

There's nothing wrong with co-sleeping. We do it with Kaya.

 

[~KACI~]

No there's nothing wrong with it i did it with my lil lad til he was 7 months old, i loved it wish he'd do it now but he won't settle unless in cot!! I think when i was pregnent i was scared caz i'd read alot of article's, but its amazing how aware you are that the baby is there!! I love to do it for longer but she takes most of the bed up at the moment already...lil madam!!

 

[Louisa K]

Im having the same problems with Louis. He to has a pure hate for the moses basket. He likes laying on daddies chest or cuddled up next to me in bed, he will sleep fr hours and hours like that.. I keep trying to put him in the moses but just as I get into bed, he wakes up!

I've kind of given in and just think well as long as we are all getting some sleep who cares if he is in bed with us.. He is so happy like that.. I just miss my cuddles with my OH and I am worried he'll now be in bed with us until he's 7 or summin lol

I have also tried rolling up blankets and kind of wedging him him the moses so that he feels like he is still being held but he only fell or that a few times..

 

[bigbelly2]

hun its a major learning curve for you and your little one, its perserverance *sp* and youll soon get into a routine thats good for both of you

h x

 

[Linzi]

Oh my goodness...

Last night Seth slept from 11pm til 930am, and woke once for an hour.

It was amazing. Thank you sooo much for the tips girls, it's honestly priceless!

xxx

 

[Tilly]

When you get a cot, you can get a wedge for one side so there head is slightly raised, Bethanie slept much better after we got one of those.

Swaddling, as said is a great one.. as is rocking, singing and talking to them. I miss Bethanie being so small!! damn, I am broody!