She is just so naughty :-( help!

[Yo_Yo]

My just turned 3 year old little girl has always been a handful, but I'm really getting concerned now.
She's a bright girl, but refuses to potty train, she hits me, bites, screams, throws things (which have hit her baby brother) won't eat her meals (but always wants to snack)constantly breaks things and climbs on things. It's like she's hyper all the time.

Just today she got mad at a the TV for adverts coming on and smacked the TV so hard it's left a mark down the screen. She was so full of aggression screaming at the tv

Everyday is a constant battle and power struggle!

What can I do about her behaviour? My eldest was never this bad so I'm in new territory with dd2.

 

[seoj]

Not sure this will help or not- as obviously all kids vary... and temperment as well as environment affect how they behave. But with my LO- I always try to talk through things with her. To help her express her feelings- so it usually difusses the situation before it escalates into an OTT outburt of emotions! As toddlers are full of emotions- and very little control! For example- she was wanting me to video her jumping off her indoor slide-- so I was looking through my Iphone and she kept saying "turn it around!" (to see herself) and started to fuss and drop to the floor upset... so I said "I see your upset, I know you want to see yourself- but I"m going to video you jumping, then you can watch it. Ok?"... and that was that- she got up, said "Ok" and continued on. Hopefully that made sense?

My LO is not potty trained yet either- and really, at this age, there is SO little they have control over... even though I offer options, and try my best to give my LO a "sense of control" (although within reason)-- some things they will control, like potty training. And that's Ok- they will get there when they are fully ready. I have plenty of friends who's kids didn't fully train till well into 3yrs. It's not uncommon- and actually a good age for it. Some kids want to train at 18mos- others not till 4yrs. But they all do at some point. I'll admit I tried a few "tricks" like offering a treat for sitting on the potty- etc... but just decided to let it be and totally follow her lead. She knows what to do. She will when she wants. I still encourage when she does- and ask if she wants to sit on the potty- but if she says no, then no biggie.

Sorry if none of this helped- it's just what works for me and my LO. And with every stage (and age) - as LO grows and develops- I too need to adjust and find new ways of dealing with situations that work for her. Sometimes they are a big fail- but eventually success! And from there it only get's easier