Should I go see doc yet? not sure if I belong here yet..

[monkeygirl]

Hi,

I'm new to this forum don't know if I should be posting this here or just TTC?
Me and the hubby stopped using contraception about 3-4 years ago but only started really TTC in Feb of this year.

Should I think about seeing doc yet or keep trying on our own for longer??

 

[CurlySue]

They do say 12 months of pointed sex/active trying so unless you lie and tell them you started over a year ago they'd undoubtedly send you away.

It could just be that you were not doing it enough or at the right times during the time you've been off the pill. I was similar to you actually. Have been actively trying for two years but off the pill for far longer (since December 05). When I wasn't trying and wasn't using protection, though, we were BDing 3 or 4 times a week, which made it a problem since they say that in order to get pregnant you BD3 or 4 times a week. We were. Nothing happened.

 

[monkeygirl]

Thanks curlysue,

Keep telling myself exactly that, that maybe just not enough at the right times. Just needed someone else to tell me that too. Will keep at it!
Good luck to you x

 

[ald]

Do you temp at the moment? Have regular cycles?

If you dont temp it may be worth doing that, as at least then you should be able to tell once you have ovulated etc.

 

[ald]

Also how old are you and hubby?

 

[monkeygirl]

No,

I've not started temping yet, maybe should do, Thanks

 

[monkeygirl]

I'm 27 and hubby nearly 37

 

[ald]

I would say start temping, because I took my charts to my docs with me on my first appt, and they were very interested in them. So was the FS.

Do you notice EWCM? If not, you could try using preseed during your fertile time.

I would say give a couple of months temping, to ensure you are doing the deed at the right time and so you have some charts to show before going to the docs. Also make sure you are on a good vitamin supplement, and it could also be worth dh taking one as well.

If you drink a lot, cut down, also smoking. Are you of a healthy weight? I am overweight and trying to lose it fast ready for IVF, now wish I had done this months ago!!!

 

[monkeygirl]

I think temping is def the next step. Everything else is good, EWCM, very regular periods, I eat well, healthy weight, rarely drink, don't smoke. I think that's why I have started worrying already, because I have no probs that are obvious. Also the usual, that EVERYONE else around me seems to be getting pregnant sooo easily!.... thanks for your help x

 

[CurlySue]

You're only just past the six months mark so try not to get worked up about it yet. It's nice to just enjoy the trying for awhile. I know people say start temping, etc, and that's fine if you feel you need to but really all that does is prove you have ovulated. Temp if you are getting worried, but if not then don't put any added pressure on yourself. There's enough emotional pressure already. I temped for about six months. In the end it just became such a tedious chore that it made everything seem ten times worse and I threw the thermometer away. You learn to know your own body, to recognise your own symptoms. Temping will not help you get pregnant, it will just tell you if you have indeed ovulated. By then it's too late anyway.

I'll be honest when i say that my doctor didn't give two hoots about my charts. Barely even batted an eyelid. I just told him that I had tried temping for awhile, that it showed I wasn't ovulating and that was enough for him. He didn't even mention it. I had to bring it up myself. Their blood tests tell them what they need to know, after all. It's nice to get the ball rolling but don't start thinking of yourself as 'infertile' until it's actually been 12 months.

It's good if you don't think you're ovulating and it's interesting to see if you are but don't drive yourself crazy.

Just look for your EWCM, etc. If your periods are regular and you are getting EWCM then those are good signs. If you were having no EWCM and madly irregular periods then temping would be highly beneficial for your own peace of mind. Just don't heap the pressure on yourself. I'd say to anyone, don't make the mistakes I made By the time 12 months was up I was ready to jack it all in because I'd driven myself so mad with charting, temping, sticking my legs in the air, etc.

 

[subaru555]

Charts are great but the central region in Scotland specialists don't even take a look at your charts. It's great for piece of mind but it's not worth doing if it's for the doctor. I gave mine to the doctor and FS (2 years worth) and they said oh we don't need to see them, we don't refer to them as being accurate! I've been treated like that as with many others I know in central region.

Good luck!
x

 

[honeycat]

If you haven't used contraception for 3-4 years then that is considered infertile. If you want to try temping and doing opk to make sure your timing is right for a few cycles before seeing a doctor then that is fine. You are young enough right now that you don't have to rush to the doctor. After 3 cycles timing correctly I would see a doctor because testing can take awhile and by all accounts you should have gotten a bfp sometime in the last few years - you couldn't have missed the correct day that many cycles.

For the record, we got tested after 5 month (7 cycles) and it was discovered that we had severe mfi and can only conceive through ivf. I am so glad we didn't wait 12 months of properly timed intercourse that would have never resulted in a bfp. We started testing in December, in March I had my first appointment at the RE, and April we did our first ivf cycle. It has now been over a year since we first started temping and I think of everything we went through this past 14 months. I would have never imagined that I wouldn't have a baby in my arms right now after all this time.

 

[livbaybee1]

Hi
Im the same, im not sure if i should be going to the doctors or what? and plus because im young , im 20, i dont think the doctor would take me seroiusly?
What do you think?
Ive been trying on and off for 2 years with my bf, but this has been my first month where i have counted my cycle days ,(28 days last 2 months) and working out when i ovulate etc, and doing it on them days, this has been my first month doing so, cos i didnt really understand all that before, i came on last night so im not preg
What does everyone think?
Ive been thinking of seeing a doctor but like i said because im under 21 i doubt they would take me seroius for tests etc x

 

[monkeygirl]

I've decided to go and have a chat with my gp. There's no harm in doing so and if he thinks there might be a prob then it will get the ball rolling. I keep waiting one more cycle before I make that appointment but god knows how long I've been doing that.

2 years sounds like a long time to be trying for one so young, maybe you should go to even if just for peace of mind.

good luck x

 

[fingersx]

Hi

I went to my gp just before the 12 months and they were great. I had an ultrasound to look for PCOS or endo which was fine then was referred to FS. Had all tests (HSG, Day 21 ect) which come back fine. Hopefully wont be much longer and ill have a BFP. I have tried clomid 50mg not worked on 100 mg at the mo so fingers crossed. To be honest with the docs and FS have been great and quicker than i thought (especially because its the NHS) my 1st appointment with FS was Dec 08 and i have my first IVF appointment Oct 15th.

Just remember there are so many options out there. Good luck

 

[monkeygirl]

Thanks everyone for all your help. Just back from seeing GP and feel really stupid! Have just been told to eat well, don't smoke (had already told him I don't smoke!)and take folic acid and come back when I have good news... or if no good news then come back in a few months. After finally deciding to take the first step I feel I'm in exactly the same place. Do I need help or not??? Guess only time will tell.

 

[fingersx]

Awww so sorry it didnt go well chic. Did you see a female doctor? When i went i seen a female and she was really good and sort of sympathised with my situation. I would go back in a few weeks (try and see another doctor) and just say you have been trying for a while and you want to see if there is anything wrong at least the doctors can do is give you a day 21 blood test to see if you ovulate.

BTW im only 21 so i went to the doctors expecting them not to take me seriously.

Good luck

 

[sleepycat]

Hey, wouldn't hurt to get checked out, might be nothing wrong at all but it would be good to find out now why you are still so young and have time on your side. Time passes quickly, and a few blood tests now is not such a big step to make. Good luck....