Should I leave my baby daddy alone or stick with him? What do you think is wrong?

[Dollface721]

We've been together for awhile I've had a miscarriage before and I'm pregnant again I asked him if I could keep it this time and he got really upset with in the next few days and I suggested a break he agree'd to it and I haven't seen him that upset in a long time (btw we just got engaged) why is he mad at me? Or he was saying he couldn't provide for us yet maybe he's scared? Idk what's wrong but he's not talking to me at all any idea why?

 

[xVAP]

In all fairness, if you're in a relationship where you have to ASK if you can keep your own child - thats not right. At this point I think you have more of a say than he does. Yeah, he's entitled to an opinion, but I think its stupid to ask if your decision is 'okay.' And if he wanted to decide on something else, maybe he should have considered suggesting you two use contraception.


Maybe he is just worried that he cant support you all at this time. Can he, financially? Or maybe he's just remembering the feelings from your miscarrage (which I am sorry about ), and is worried of the same thing happening again, and him having to go through that again.

 

[Dollface721]

I'm really sorry I know miscarriages are physically and mentally devistating I needed therapy after my first one

 

[xforuiholdonx]

Try talking to him...? I think that would be your best bet.

 

[bsd]

I honeslty couldn't tell you if I think you should stay or leave him because there is no way I could fully understand your relationship, no one can! That's a decision you really have to make on your own. But I agree with xVAP, if you have to 'ask him' if you can keep your baby then that doesn't sound right. He should support what you want to do BUT he is probably scared, which is why he might be ignoring you! Its a lot to find out you're about to have a baby so maybe with time he'll come around. Definitely try talking to him and asking him what he wants to do about your relationship.. Maybe he's upset and not talking to you because you wanted a break. He might just be giving you space that he thinks you need!

 

[xx~Lor~xx]

I don't think you should need to ask to keep your own child either :/ If you want to keep your child then do it, regardless of how he feels. Otherwise you are just going to end up resenting him and the relationship wont work out anyway.

Give him a few days and then try and have a serious talk with him about how he feels about the situation. I mean it's done, you're pregnant, now you both have to face up to the responsibilities of what you and him have made.

 

[jackiemullins]

Honestly if he didn't want you to keep the baby, I would drop him. That isn't right. I rather have my child than any of my ex's or future lovers who says I wasn't allowed to have it! But since he never really gave you an answer, if you really want to, then you should try to talk to him about the situation civilly.

 

[we can't wait]

I think you should sit down and have a talk with him. But, seriously, if he is going to just walk away from you and your unborn child, then you really need to evaluate if it is the best decision for you. You really shouldn't have to ask your boyfriend if you can keep your child-- it isn't a puppy! You have another life to think about now, and I know it's hard, but you have to be strong and make decisions that are going to better your life AND your baby's life.

Good luck. I hope you have a happy and healthy nine months.