should i wait to tell my parents?

[icantdecide]

i havent told my mum and step dad im pregnant yet, should i tell them straight away or wait until 12 weeks? also if anyone has any tips about telling parents they will be very much appreciated!

 

[vinteenage]

How old are you? Do you live with them?

If you live with them, tell them now.
If you live on your own, it's your choice really...I do think it's easier to tell them sooner than later.

 

[icantdecide]

im 19 and yes i do live at home but i cant for much longer as its 4 bedroom house with 6 people in it already i cant stay once the baby arrives be too packed

 

[nicole_]

i didnt tell my dad till after my scan when i knew everything was okay and the tests wernt wrong lol.
but told my mum as its easier than her wondering why i feel like crap all the damn time lol
feels like a weights lifted when you tell them

 

[vinteenage]

I would tell them know then. How far along are you?
Honestly the sooner you can tell them the better. It'll give them longer to settle into the idea and everything. Plus, God forbid a miscarriage does happen, you'll need some sort of support and understanding from your family about what's happening.

 

[Sophiiie]

if you live at home with them then i'd suggest telling them now, especially for their support
personally i'd say telling them face to face would be best x

 

[Burchy314]

I would tell them know then. How far along are you?
Honestly the sooner you can tell them the better. It'll give them longer to settle into the idea and everything. Plus, God forbid a miscarriage does happen, you'll need some sort of support and understanding from your family about what's happening.

I agree with this! I think you should tell them! I didn't tell my mom and dad until I was about 13 weeks and I regret it. I should have told them sooner so my baby could get everything she needs sooner. I also think they will be more accepting the sooner you tell them because then it doesn't look like you are hiding it from them. You need all the support you can get.

It is best to tell then asap and face to face. If you don't think you can do it face to face then other options are writing a letter to them explaining everything or even telling them face to face with someone you trust. I told my parents with my youth pastor and wife.

 

[nightkd]

IMO the sooner the better; especially as you're living with them right now. No point hanging around getting nervous for weeks on end! Also, if I had been living at home and waited to tell my mum, I can guarantee she would have figured it out before I reached 12 weeks!! Then it would've just been awkward and she probably would have been more mad about me not telling her...

Fortunately I lived overseas with my hubby - didn't make it any easier to tell her (I told her on FB chat and she voiced her disapproval and then vanished for a few hours/days (I don't remember exactly..)) which hurt....and my dad (has two kids with his new wife - 3 & 5 now) apparently insinuated that I was ruining mine and my baby's life and being selfish

Anyway, it WILL be tough, but you just have to stand your ground if you intend to keep your baby - sit them down and tell them outright "I'm pregnant." Remember at the end of the day, it's YOUR life, not your parents.

Good luck!

 

[Jadelm]

The sooner you do it the better you will feel imo it does feel like a big weight is lifted and it gives them longer to adjust to the idea before you need to start really getting into everything like scans/mw appointments/buying things for baby/getting a bump etc etc. Plus they may feel hurt that you kept it from them so long, but I suppose that depends on them personally
Whatever you decide just be confident in your decision and be happy when you tell them and they'll probably have a better reaction anyways. CONGRATS on your pregnancy too :thumb: x

 

[x__amour]

Tell them now. It's so much better sooner rather than later.

 

[amygwen]

tell them straight away. it will be easier and less stressful for you now which is what is most important for you and your lo!

 

[Yazz_n_bump]

The sooner the better, I waited 16 weeks to tell mine. They were over the moon... after the shock.

 

[LoisP]

As everyone else has said, i would say you should tell them now. Good luck and congratulations. x

 

[18singlemom2b]

i told my aunts as soon as i found out and i wanted to wait and tell my parents until 12 wks as i had a previous miscarriage but my aunts forced me to spill the beans at about 7 weeks and i'm so glad i did. my family has come around now after the initial shock and it feels so good to be honest and have people to talk to.