Sick of the bloomin BFers hate for FFers.

[New2Bumps]

It's really peeing me off.

I couldn't BF for a few reasons. Tried, but couldn't.
Lost a week of my life with my baby overly stressing and battling guilt about this. There was really no need as he's thriving on Formula and it's fine! I have no qualms with FF and how it is working out for us

Hate the way BFers get on their high horse about things, and assume all FFers 'can't be bothered' or 'aren't interested' or 'are uneducated' about BFing. I'm sure some people aren't particularly interested in BFing, but that's their perogative and not necessarily a negative. Formula is not bad for babies.

Interested to know how many of us FFers tried BFing and how many never considered it.

But mainly wanted to vent! AAAAAAAAAAaaaaargh!

 

[MrsSyd]

I didn't try to BF, was perfectly educated about the pro's and cons of each, but made the choice to FF based on what would be best for Erin and me. My baby is thriving, and I will not alow anyone to make me feel guilty.
Everyone is entitled to their choice whether it be BF or FF.

 

[Arcanegirl]

Well you missed an option out there, how about those of us who did BF (and didnt have a problem with FF btw) and chose to go FF after a good few months - so in which case, didnt fail.

these types of thread get heated as youre classing everybody under the same stereotype.

 

[Cattia]

Not all BFers are like that!

 

[Hevz]

I don't think like that and I breastfeed....that's a bit unfair of you to say such a thing

 

[Mum2b_Claire]

I've never encountered such an attitude from any BF'er. The only attitude seems to be an over-defensive one at times, when there is really no need....

I tried to BF. My baby couldn't latch on. That doesn't mean I failed.

 

[sophie c]

i didnt try atall, i just made a choice, and it was the perfect one, obviously lmao xx

 

[CharlieP]

I'm a breast feeder and I most certainly never get on my high horse about BF'ing...in fact I have spoken out against threads that have been close to the mark regarding formula on the breast feeding section, only to be attacked via PM by the original poster -because I was defending the right to formula feed!

Its a shame that you feel you have to stereotype all BF'ers based on an experience/exchange you may have had with a handful of them

 

[OmarsMum]

I tried to BF but my LO couldnt latch on. I tried to express when I went home, but didnt get enough milk. I was already stressed out frm my traumatic birth & couldnt handle the stress of not satisfying my LO, so I went for ffing.

I never felt ashamed or that I failed, & I was supported by my family & in laws (who support bfing). No one made me feel guilty even my friends who bf. We dont really make a fuzz at what we'r feeding our babies as long as they'r healthy & thriving.

 

[Raven24]

i havent voted because i dont consider myself a faliure for formula feeding
any way i bf for just over a month but i didnt have much support or help and my milk supply was dwindling so i went onto formula

 

[bump_wanted]

ive never had a BF'er say anything negative to me...but i feel guilty in myself (for no good reason and i know i shouldnt)...i tried and Ollie wouldnt latch on, i freaked out he wasnt eating and went on the bottle which he loves but now he's got a little constipated and i think OMG its my fault could be im just over sensitive as he's only 2 weeks so its still fresh for me xx

 

[cleckner04]

I'm quite appalled by this thread. I only clicked because it caught my eye on the main page. It's not fair for you to group all breastfeeders into some lump as if we are all the same. I get so much crap for breastfeeding from family and strangers alike and have no support whatsoever. I come to this site to get support that I need. I would never judge someone for choosing to formula feed. Every mother can raise their child the way they wish to raise them. If you hate being judged so much, maybe you should stop doing it yourself. I'm gonna get back up on my 'high horse' and go into a different thread before I really say something I regret.

 

[lauzie84]

I just made a decision to FF from the beginning. Breast feeding wasn't an option that I considered. Each to their own and all that xx

 

[AppleBlossom]

I don't think you can class it as "BFers slag off FFers" Not ALL BFers have something to say about FFing parents. Some do and it pisses me off too. However those people are very few and far between and as far as I see most don't make a big deal out of it and just occasionally stick up for themselves in BF/FF threads, just as FF mummies do

 

[Nic1107]

Most BFers aren't like that, hun. I've seen a fair few things that had me spitting nails, here and elsewhere, but the vast majority of ladies here are lovely, regardless of how they feed. Ignore the haters, you're a great mom and nothing anyone says can ever take that away from you or your baby.

 

[pip holder]

Bloomin BFers?? Niceeee

You can't just lump people into a nasty stereotype like that
As AG pointed out - this thread will undoubtedly heat up and cause unnecessary friction between breast and formula feeding mums. This thread was eye cathching so yes - you will prob get a load of cross BFers coming on this board to defend themselves now

Yes SOME BFers are judgeypants but so are SOME FFers.
What about me - I'm now both- should I hate myself?
As long as your baby is healthy and happy - IGNORE anyone else and their opinion of how you choose to feed your baby.

If you have a specific example of someone being mean about you feeding, then share it rather than making sweeping, generalised, incorrect statements so we can sympathise and support you rather than feeling cross with you.

 

[Eve]

I understand what you mean hun, I really do. You just worded it wrong is all I see a lot of judgement over in the BF section. I feel as though each time I visit I am defending FF. I don't see them putting down a person for doing it " most times " but someone always seems to find a way to bash formula. I am not saying everyone over there is like this, by no means... but there are a few very over opinionated, rude, nasty, hateful, bigheaded women over there who would love to stand on a mountain with their big boobs hanging out as they beat their chest and piss on cans of formula LOL and those few women do make the BF section seem a lot more scary and mean than it is I think you might want to rewrite the title if you can though hun... to maybe sick of feeling judged for FF because you will get a lot of BFers over here on the defense

To each their own. I FF my son and he is smarted than most children his age and above grade level in many subjects and as you can see from my tickers etc... I am breastfeeding my daughter, who did have formula while in hospital mixed with colostrum for 2 days as she needed to eats lots to get better from her jaundice and I wasn't about to let my baby get sicker just to be able to say she didn't have formula!

 

[pip holder]

I understand what you mean hun, I really do. You just worded it wrong is all I see a lot of judgement over in the BF section. I feel as though each time I visit I am defending FF. I don't see them putting down a person for doing it " most times " but someone always seems to find a way to bash formula. I am not saying everyone over there is like this, by no means... but there are a few very over opinionated, rude, nasty, hateful, bigheaded women over there who would love to stand on a mountain with their big boobs hanging out as they beat their chest and piss on cans of formula LOL and those few women do make the BF section seem a lot more scary and mean than it is I think you might want to rewrite the title if you can though hun... to maybe sick of feeling judged for FF because you will get a lot of BFers over here on the defense

To each their own. I FF my son and he is smarted than most children his age and above grade level in many subjects and as you can see from my tickers etc... I am breastfeeding my daughter, who did have formula while in hospital mixed with colostrum for 2 days as she needed to eats lots to get better from her jaundice and I wasn't about to let my baby get sicker just to be able to say she didn't have formula!

now can you please for one moment think how you would feel if someone came up with a similar analogy for a formula feeding mummy who was outspoken?

 

[Vickie]

thread locked pending review

 

[Wobbles]

That's AWFUL baby_maybe_825

The thread was in no doubt going to end up BF vs FF although I'm not even sure if OP is referring to the forum or something off the forum!

The only reason I am replying to this is to remind people these types of threads in either support sections are really not accepted on BabyandBump never mind just sense says they are a bad bad idea - Its these discussions that help to create a feeling of divide among people that many of us don't like in the first place. It does go both ways to be fair - I've seen some terrible remarks/statements from both sides over time (fine example above).

If you come across anything on forum that you find inappropriately insensitive then please hit 'report post' under the username of the offending posts for review.