Sick to my stomach

[Calambria]

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[teal]

I'm so sorry you're feeling so stressed he has absolutely no right to be at the birth so don't feel forced into having him there. I certainly wouldn't have someone who would stress me out to be there at a time when I was very vulnerable. xx

 

[Jennifurball]

I would request for the hospital staff to keep him away, you have every right to say who you want/don't want there. You may be married but you are separated and baby needs the mummy. They won't let him take the baby. Not in a million years.

 

[xXDonnaXx]

I'm so sorry you're feeling so stressed he has absolutely no right to be at the birth so don't feel forced into having him there. I certainly wouldn't have someone who would stress me out to be there at a time when I was very vulnerable. xx

I agree It's entirely upto you as the babys mother who you want at YOUR birth. I would mention it to the midwives when you do get admitted to the Delivery Suite - That you don't want him there. And anyway, hows he gonna even find out you're in labour? I wouldn't tell him.

 

[whatwillbe]

I agree with everyone else, he has no right to be at the birth and I would deff tell the hospital staff you don't want him there, he has a cheek ! Try not to worry too much if you can

 

[xXDonnaXx]

^^^ Yeah, try not to get too stressed about it .

 

[Calambria]

I wound up telling him last night that I didn't want him there at the birth. He was totally incredulous. He kept saying "It's my child...It IS mine, ISN'T IT?" Argh. I said he could come to the home to spend time, as much as he likes, but I did not want him there with me at the birth. That it was going to be the most craziest, trying, intense and painful experience of my life, that he is a virtual stranger to me now, and he would only be adding stress on top of an already complicated and stressful pregnancy.

He was so pissed, girls. Had some choice words for me and hung up. Told me to enjoy single motherhood(like I was ever going to be anything other than a single mom). Tough shit, really.

Although it DID have a huge effect today on my blood pressure and heart rate. I was having crying fits at the doctor's and I wound up getting sent to l&d for monitoring because it would not come down. It came down when I got there, in a softly lit, quiet room with sweet nurses. It stayed down and my labs were good, so they let me go home.

I got my membranes stripped, and an induction date set for the 4th because of the PIH. The nurses have helped me set up where I will go and be listed as an alias(alternate, generic name). It will be like I'm not even there if someone tries to call for information or show up, if I want people to know I have to contact them myself, and they will have to obtain special passes I will have to sign for if I wanted them to visit. They also explained some of the security dynamics of the ward to me and I feel really good about it.

 

[xXDonnaXx]

I wound up telling him last night that I didn't want him there at the birth. He was totally incredulous. He kept saying "It's my child...It IS mine, ISN'T IT?" Argh. I said he could come to the home to spend time, as much as he likes, but I did not want him there with me at the birth. That it was going to be the most craziest, trying, intense and painful experience of my life, that he is a virtual stranger to me now, and he would only be adding stress on top of an already complicated and stressful pregnancy.

He was so pissed, girls. Had some choice words for me and hung up. Told me to enjoy single motherhood(like I was ever going to be anything other than a single mom). Tough shit, really.

Although it DID have a huge effect today on my blood pressure and heart rate. I was having crying fits at the doctor's and I wound up getting sent to l&d for monitoring because it would not come down. It came down when I got there, in a softly lit, quiet room with sweet nurses. It stayed down and my labs were good, so they let me go home.

I got my membranes stripped, and an induction date set for the 4th because of the PIH. The nurses have helped me set up where I will go and be listed as an alias(alternate, generic name). It will be like I'm not even there if someone tries to call for information or show up, if I want people to know I have to contact them myself, and they will have to obtain special passes I will have to sign for if I wanted them to visit. They also explained some of the security dynamics of the ward to me and I feel really good about it.

That sounds great, so now you can relax a little knowing you're going to have the baby with the people you want there

Hope you're feeling ok today.

 

[oktober84]

I just wanted to let you know that he can't just take your baby out of state. He needs signed consent to leave the state with your child. If he does not obtain that from you then it is a federal offense and can be executed by up to 5 years in prison.

I urge you to look into the laws of your state. There is plenty of things that you can do to prevent anything ill of happening. Also the fact that he declared that the baby was not his can also be upheld in the courts. Please let your lawyer know all of these things.

Good luck mama and be happy your baby will be here soon Celebrate!