Single parents of newborn LO's... missing out on firsts

[Snowball]

Louie started smiling yesterday and obviously I'm all gooey over it but I feel a little upset that unlike the others, he only has me here to experience all his firsts. I feel like I have to create more memories of him because I'll be the only one here to tell him about it when he's older.

Does anyone else feel like this? Sometimes I want to tell FOB about things and I have to stop myself. I suppose I became used to sharing the memories of the kids with him.

 

[AbbynChloe]

I know what you mean. Usually I do tell FOB some stuff then kick myself because I them realise he really doesn't give a shit.

I know sometimes its a hard pill to swallow, but I just have to say it's his loss. When Chloe has her kids and wants to know what she was like when she was a baby, she'll come to me. When her fiance/husband wants to know all about Chloe, what makes her tick and smile, they'll come to me. So I get some pleasure in know stuff about Chloe that FOB will never know, How she is so independent and strong willed, how she struggles to brush her teeth and sucks the toothpaste straight off the brush, how kind, helpful and thoughtful my baby is.....
.... Hiss Loss!!!!

 

[SophiasMummy]

I know what you mean everything my LO does I just want to share with everyone, I usually ring my mum and tell her, I just wish her dad cared enough to want to know it makes me sad that she does all these amazing things for the first time and im the only one there to praise her for it xx

 

[whoops]

I'm living with my parents atm so at least I get to share her firsts with them. But that just brings a whole other host of problems because there's things I want to keep for myself.

 

[JayceAnona]

I live at home so I'm not the only one seeing my son's firsts, but I understand wanting the father to see these things happen....just remember that its his loss and that your son will appreciate hearing those stories someday even if you're the only one who can tell them....it can be something special shared just between you two.