Sleepover & DS - Advice needed

[bronze90210]

Hi All,

I am a single mom to a six year old. Although my DS is the most important thing to me, I understand that I've personal needs that need fulfillment. I've been single for almost 4 years when my DH decided to leave us.

Early last year I started seeing someone whom I've fallen in love with. I think down the road we might convert this into a marriage. He lives nearby and often comes over during the day. DS and my BF seems to go along very well.
Recently, we have decided to spend weekends together. My son likes the arrangement. However, late at night he barges into my room for apparently no reason. He only does this when my BF is around.

BF is very understanding but I'd rather not want these interruptions at it dampens my mood. Could you all suggest ways to handle this? Thanks.

Regards,
J.

 

[Dream.dream]

Sounds like your sons maybe not comfortable with him spending the night . Have you tried taking to him? And why not just wait until he's asleep before you guys go to bed .

Can't offer any suggestions but since your son is 6 of you ask him why he keeps doing it chance are he can tell you why and how he's feeling and if its making him uncomfortable or insecure if hold off on the sleepovers for a while . I get you have needs but you don't want your son feeling insecure and resenting your bf

 

[justhoping]

i agree...it also maybe he feels a bit jealous...like why is this person sleeping with mommy and im not..

maybe explain that he is still your number one man....