so ANGRY that teen are having no trouble getting PG

[savanmomie]

so upset that kids can have kids and stabel working mother that are ready are having trouble i guess im just jealous

 

[WinterSong4]

All has to do with 2 things....they aren't planning AND their egg and sperm reserve is VERY HIGH! As we age, womens egg are depleted, so it makes it much harder.

Don't worry girl. I know it is hard. I just had my first HSG last month after TTC for over 3 years with no success. And I thought this month was going to be our month, seems AF is coming early. I started bleeding light today. But, bleeding lightly is unusual for my cycle on the first day. I am keeping an eye out for it though. Hang in there and stay positive!!!

 

[UniqueBeauty]

I totally agree. I was having a conversation about this the other day, There's woman like us wanting a family so badly and then there's these teens that take it for granted and some really don't appreciate what bundle of joy they have!

Sending lots of to you x

 

[WinterSong4]

UniqueBeauty- LOVE LOVE your avatar!!

 

[TheNewMrs]

Yep, my little brothers friend is pregnant at 16.... I felt like crying when she told me!

 

[Stinas]

It's super frustrating.
What I find worse is when people with children at any age just have them as an accessory and don't properly take care of them. Now that drives me insane.

 

[Coogee]

I was thinking exactly the same thing the other day and said that to my OH. He didn't respond. I know it sounds bitchy, but my friend had a abortion at 26! and it hurts me so much but I would never tell her that, she was very careless, and had unprotected sex with her fiance for 7months before she got pregnant. like what did she think was going to happen and then to abort it

 

[welshgirl21]

I feel the same - I work in a deprived area which has a high teen pregnancy/mum rate and I see them when I got for lunch in the shopping area either pregnant or pushing their children, smoking around them, shouting at them etc and it makes me so sad, especially when they say things like 'I didn't even want a baby' or 'I wasn't even trying to get pregnant' - helloooooo, birth control??? There are services in the local area giving out free condoms, the pill is free.

It's so sad that we are on here struggling to have what we have planned for, dreamed of and desire so much and there are teenagers out there who didn't want a baby or don't appreciate what they have.

(I'm not generalising all teen mothers are like this, this is just what I have observed on a day to day basis in my area of work).

 

[UniqueBeauty]

Agreed, i witnessed something quite shocking with a teen mum i'd say around the age of 14 who i used to live near. She'd be out till about 12am every night with her friends taking her baby with her. She'd hang out at the park in the day, but one afternoon i got so angry i contacted the NSPCC, she'd sit down on the curb and lay her baby down on the road! i was extremely angry, so angry it made me cry. The NSPCC couldn't do anything cause i didn't know her address.

 

[Stinas]

Agreed, i witnessed something quite shocking with a teen mum i'd say around the age of 14 who i used to live near. She'd be out till about 12am every night with her friends taking her baby with her. She'd hang out at the park in the day, but one afternoon i got so angry i contacted the NSPCC, she'd sit down on the curb and lay her baby down on the road! i was extremely angry, so angry it made me cry. The NSPCC couldn't do anything cause i didn't know her address.

Thats just crazy!!! I see things like this allll the time and it amazes me how nothing is ever done about it.

 

[Coogee]

that's super sad unique beauty makes me want to cry too. I HATE WHEN PEOPLE SMOKE AROUND KIDS OR BABIES!! my dad used to smoke in the car with the windows up, he was very selfish. my OH smokes but i would never allow him to smoke in the house.

 

[amywants]

I work in child protection, so I know exactly what you mean!! It's gutting and really hard to stay positive but it will be worth it in the end!!!!!!!! Fingers tightly crossed!!!!

 

[amb23]

I really hate women who take getting pregnant for granted. I'm kind-of bitchy, and broody, and people who just happen upon pregnancy like it's an accident DO piss me off.

Especially kids. I would love nothing more than a baby with my OH. And while we JUST started trying for one and everything is very early on, I'm scared. I wish it would come easy for me.

I mean, I'm not an old hen (I'm 23), but seriously.. it makes me rage when I see girls THAT young having kids. Yes, it's their right to do what they will with it (abortion, adoption, whatever), but.. ugh.

 

[UniqueBeauty]

I really hate women who take getting pregnant for granted. I'm kind-of bitchy, and broody, and people who just happen upon pregnancy like it's an accident DO piss me off.

Especially kids. I would love nothing more than a baby with my OH. And while we JUST started trying for one and everything is very early on, I'm scared. I wish it would come easy for me.

I mean, I'm not an old hen (I'm 23), but seriously.. it makes me rage when I see girls THAT young having kids. Yes, it's their right to do what they will with it (abortion, adoption, whatever), but.. ugh.

I know right, the poor baba didn't ask to be brought into the world
I just wish they would grow up and take proper care of their bundle of joy and not just have them as a fashion item!

 

[amb23]

I know right, the poor baba didn't ask to be brought into the world
I just wish they would grow up and take proper care of their bundle of joy and not just have them as a fashion item!

Seriously.

I wish they would, but then I realize that at 16 there was no way I could take care of my then-baby. It is for the better that I miscarried, really. I would've made a terrible parent in those days!

I wish I wasn't so jealous, but then again I also am glad I'm not envious. Jealous, yes, because they have a baby. But I definitely do not envy them; having to go to school, get a job, possibly not finish highschool or ged.. all the things that come with pregnancy at such a young age.

So glad I didn't have to go through that.

 

[kelsey111]

im 19 and my OH is 23. weve been trying for a year now. and ive only had a few saying were to young, but they no were ready and have our own house ££ ect. so then once we explain that there all on board with it, all my family are over the moon were trying.

even if people didnt agree with us trying oh well its not them that will be looking after bubbs or aything like that it doesnt bother me people can have there own opions, doesnt mean i lisern to them lol

good luck ladies

 

[amb23]

im 19 and my OH is 23. weve been trying for a year now. and ive only had a few saying were to young, but they no were ready and have our own house ££ ect. so then once we explain that there all on board with it, all my family are over the moon were trying.

even if people didnt agree with us trying oh well its not them that will be looking after bubbs or aything like that it doesnt bother me people can have there own opions, doesnt mean i lisern to them lol

good luck ladies

I think what most of us are saying is that 13, 14, 15, 16.. under 18 is just so young to be having a baby. Most girls that age don't realize what they're giving up; if they do, they end up regretting it. Their children suffer, etc.

You sound like you're in a completely different place than the situation we are talking about. Although I don't think having a house and lots of money means you're 'ready' for a baby, it's definitely helpful.

Anyway. Hope you get your soon, Kelsey.

 

[FragileDoll]

Ugh, same here. It's so easy for them to conceive, I know a 13 year old who is expecting. I feel like a old hag around those teen moms.

 

[Srbjbex]

I agree with all the above..... It makes me so angry that these people have babies they don't even want when there are so many of us out there who want a child so Much and doing everything we can to help things along!

With all the teen pregnancies that happen, it means that sex education teaches you "do not have unprotected sex ever or you WILL get pregnant" ... All well and good to try and stop teen pregnancies, but the problem comes when you actually want a baby... No one ever tells you that it doesn't happen as easy as that, and it can take months of trying. This has genuinely been a big shock to me!

It's only by reading forums like this you can actually find out the reality of the situation.

 

[amb23]

I agree with all the above..... It makes me so angry that these people have babies they don't even want when there are so many of us out there who want a child so Much and doing everything we can to help things along!

With all the teen pregnancies that happen, it means that sex education teaches you "do not have unprotected sex ever or you WILL get pregnant" ... All well and good to try and stop teen pregnancies, but the problem comes when you actually want a baby... No one ever tells you that it doesn't happen as easy as that, and it can take months of trying. This has genuinely been a big shock to me!

It's only by reading forums like this you can actually find out the reality of the situation.

Unfortunately in the US our sex education is terrible, and thus I guess we're getting more teen pregnancies because sex is such a 'taboo' thing for us? I don't really know. I've never been one to think things are taboo. It is what it is. Humans are crazy, we do weird things, we like weird things, sex isn't taboo it's natural.

I'm irritated that despite the rising teen pregnancy rates nobody wants to stand up and say 'Maybe we SHOULD be teaching kids about sex!' .. Nope, we still want to kick it under the rug like it doesn't exist.

And while yeah, I believe parents should be talking to their kids about sex- mine never did, and I turned out well and fine. I don't know what to think, it's just such an issue in my mind. I wish America saw how much of a problem it was instead of kicking it under the rug. @_@