So here I am

[Thurinius]

3 weeks ago I waved off my 3 year old son on his first day at nursery worried whether he'd enjoy himself and hoping they'd help with his speech delay.
Today I've seen the consultant paediatrician and suddenly I am the mother of an autistic son.
I guess I'm still in shock and I'm aware that the kind of parenting I was doing: letting the kids just go on with things has gone out the window and I'm going to have to be the type of pushy parent I did not want to be.
Not a good day today but perhaps now we know that'll make a difference.

 

[Mintastic]

Not a parent but an autism professional who works closely with families so I hope you don't mind my replying.
Sorry you are feeling down and in shock - totally normal.
Glad you are looking at the good side too though that now you can get him the services he needs!
I know what you mean that maybe you can't be so laid back anymore but you don't have to become pushy or anything you don't want to become either. More structured yes, and your job definitely just got harder but try to keep some of your relaxed attitude too! It will help both you and your son be less stressed and happier in the long run.
Good luck to you.

 

[Reid]

((Hugs))
That all seems so fast did you have any indication that you're son was autistic? My son to has speech delay he's been in nursery a couple of months now but he was already on the waiting list for speech therapy long before he started nursery and has only just had his 1st appointment with them a couple of weeks ago after waiting 8 months just everything seems such a long process could be the area I'm in we live in Scotland any way I hope your ok will take some time for you to let it sink in xx

 

[Thurinius]

We were already in the system due to his speech delay. We had to wait 5 months I think for his first speech therapy. This was really successful, he went from saying absolutely nothing to over 100 words. I naively thought that was the issue and he would soon catch up so I cancelled the cdc appt I did have and went on the waiting list for one to one speech therapy.
He started nursery at the beginning of the month and they called me in within a week because they were concerned by his behaviour.
When I cancelled the cdc appt they said if had any further worries to contact them. Which I did and they re activated his file. In our area Hertfordshire they've had such a backlog that they now have weekend appointments. We don't have the officially, official autism diagnosis because they like to wait till they are nearer 5 but the consultant was pretty sure it was likely to be the case with my son.
Phew that's quite a long-winded answer to a simple question.
I think I've just been lucky to get an appt so quickly

 

[Reid]

I have a meeting with my son's nursery tomorrow in which there's a few from the medical profession going along 1s that were involved in getting him on the waiting list for salt. The meetings to see what they can do to help him in his learning environment.. xx

 

[Thurinius]

Good luck with your meeting x

 

[Reid]

Thanx I was knocked for 6 by the meeting just what they suggested I had no idea what so ever until the words left there mouth they want him to go to another nursery that specialises in children with developmental delays I don't no what to think they said there's 2 nursery's that offer this they would send someone out to watch him to see if they think there nursery could offer the help he needs. I saw your other post 2 and I think the same things will he be able to live independently when he's older who's gonna be there when I'm not
I absolutely adore my child and love him like iv never loved in my life xx

 

[mummy2o]

I believe they will be just fine. My father is a good example. Up until secondary school he was behind in everything. He was a little better with maths and science, but was still in bottom set for everything. He then went to secondary school and something clicked. He managed to get to the top set of everything, besides English and French. It was there he met my mother, it was around the time he started to build computers. So everything just clicked, this was before they even gave people help or diagnosis! So now he's married, got 2 kids, holds a steady job being a computer programmer and more or less one of the top dogs in his field. Heck he turned down a job by Google maps, but I think that was more due to the fact he wouldn't have enough time to pursue his special interest.

If you can do so, sign up for an Early Bird course. I have learnt so much on that course, not only about how to manage my son's autism but also insight of how my son might end up like.

I think as I've been raised in an autistic family, and being autistic myself I see more benefits then down sides to it. We look at the world in a different way but many people on the spectrum improve and do all the boring jobs like engineers, accounting and computer based job. Its to improve all their skills and looking for jobs around their special interests. My son at one time wouldn't go into public toilets and prefer to wet himself, now he wants to go into the men's by himself. Its little steps but big achievement to give him independence.

 

[alibaba24]

I believe they will be just fine. My father is a good example. Up until secondary school he was behind in everything. He was a little better with maths and science, but was still in bottom set for everything. He then went to secondary school and something clicked. He managed to get to the top set of everything, besides English and French. It was there he met my mother, it was around the time he started to build computers. So everything just clicked, this was before they even gave people help or diagnosis! So now he's married, got 2 kids, holds a steady job being a computer programmer and more or less one of the top dogs in his field. Heck he turned down a job by Google maps, but I think that was more due to the fact he wouldn't have enough time to pursue his special interest.

If you can do so, sign up for an Early Bird course. I have learnt so much on that course, not only about how to manage my son's autism but also insight of how my son might end up like.

I think as I've been raised in an autistic family, and being autistic myself I see more benefits then down sides to it. We look at the world in a different way but many people on the spectrum improve and do all the boring jobs like engineers, accounting and computer based job. Its to improve all their skills and looking for jobs around their special interests. My son at one time wouldn't go into public toilets and prefer to wet himself, now he wants to go into the men's by himself. Its little steps but big achievement to give him independence.

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