so what would u say to this comment--- made by MIL

[BrEeZeY]

okay so my hubby and i jst bought our first home we legally own it on tuesday we have lived in it for a lil over a month

well anyways we have been lookin at getting some new furniture for the basement sees how we are remodeling it and think it would be nice to have new rather than used which ALL of our things are except what OH has built

well we were talking to his brother (who recently moved back home due to his room mate drama and he had bought new furniture recently) so we were at the inlaws house and talking to him bout prices and his mom pipes in and says we havent owned new furniture in 15 yrs so you guys shouldnt buy any aiden will ruin it and its stupid gently used is jst as good, and ANY TIME we tlk bout the basement or buying new tv or bed or couch or ANYTHING she freaks! and gets pissed and tells me that i need to put a stop to him spending money, we have the money we arent spending money we dont have.... so my question what would u say? idk what to say and she will ask how the project is coming and when colby starts so does she....




thanks for reading my rant/ very long question .... any ideas on what to say!? im out of ideas!

 

[billy2mm]

tell her to mind her own!

 

[BrEeZeY]

lol i like ur train of thought haha

 

[sleepinbeauty]

"You decorated your home the way you wanted to. Please let us decorate ours the way we want to."

Could she be jealous about the new place or your ability to buy new? Maybe I'm way off here but it sounds like that a little.

 

[BrEeZeY]

thats what i thought too^^ but i wasnt 100% sure

 

[sleepinbeauty]

I figure I'll have to use that one in parenting form when I have my own against my own mother but that it can really apply to just about anything else. "You did what worked for you now please let me do what works for me." It really does fit everything. lol

 

[QuintinsMommy]

thats strange if you are buying it and not useing credit then why does it matter to her? even if you are what does it matter? :S

 

[BrEeZeY]

i jst dont understand why she is gettin all worked up over it its not like we are asking them for money

 

[annawrigley]

i think shes jealous

 

[amandad192]

I'd tell her to stop being such a jealous cow and to mind her own business.
You obviously work hard or have saved hard to be able to pay upfront for everything, so why shouldn't you buy the nice new things you want !!??!!

 

[danniemum2be]

if you can afford to buy new then why settle for used, its your home you should furnish it however you want to not what she says hun x x

 

[BrEeZeY]

thanks guys i think she is jealous and i will jst say something next time, try to say it nicely again and maybe she will get the pic

 

[AppleBlossom]

I'd tell her to mind her own business

 

[joshuas mummy]

she is probably just jelous. you should just tell her to butt out and mind her own. i hav a pushy mil (to be) and have found that the nice approach doesnt work you need to just be straight with her and tell her if she doesnt have anything nice to say then dont say anything at all! x

 

[BrEeZeY]

i asked my mom and she said that she sounds jealous too which makes me feel bad ill jst try not to bring up the topic and try to avoid any remodel questions