Some questions...

[dreaming4baby]

Hey all! My name's Robin, I just joined the site. Hubby (31) and I (26) have been married for 3.5 years. We're just now "trying" to have our first, since I suppose you have to do the baby dance more than a few times a month to get pregnant lol. Anyways, my last monthly was October 17th. I was due to start on November 21st (35 day cycle), but I didn't. I was sick with the flu and I just assumed that it was delayed because of that. But before I missed, I started to get pregnancy symptoms. I warn you, I'm a horrible symptom watcher, it's hard not to be sometimes! My breasts started swelling (never have before), my areolas darkened slightly (they're usually so light you can hardly tell where they begin), I've been having terrible heartburn and wind, and most importantly, I haven't spotted... at all. Which is very unusual for me, since I start light spotting off and on a few days before Aunt Flow arrives full swing. I've NEVER competely missed. I've been late, but I've always started. I don't have any health issues that I know about, no overly painful periods or lack of them. Thing is, I took a cheapy test the day I should have started, BFN. I then took one today, being 4 days late, in the morning.. BFN. But my breasts are still extremely sore, and they look like a road map of blue veins. I'm light complected, but I've never had veins like that before, especially on the areolas. And one other thing... my Montgomery glands have enlarged, and my breasts have been incredibly itchy, so today I was gently scratching them and looked down to discover I had small oil droplets coming from them. I know I'm not supposed to squeeze them, so this was purely accidental and was just from pressure, so they didn't even need to be squeezed. One of my questions are if any you have had oil coming from the glands, was it when you were pregnant? My mom tells me I have all the symptoms, but my BFN is really a downer. I've just been trying to go by my own body and lack of AF. I don't want to get my hopes up, because I've been disappointed before, but when new things are happening to my body like this, I kinda freak out. Any advice would be great! Thanks for reading my novel lol. I've been a spectator for a while, but I decided to write my own post, since I'm sooo confused!

 

[writingislove]

First, welcome.

Was the test you took today also a cheapie? At this point (if it were me) I'd grab a good quality digital test and see what that has to say. If it's still a BFN and AF still doesn't show up after a few more days, call your doc and ask for a blood test.

It's not all that uncommon for women to get a BFP only after they've missed their period, so at only four days late I'd say it's still a possibility you're getting a false negative if you've got all of these symptoms. BTW - are you sure you were sick with the flu?

 

[dreaming4baby]

Thank you . Yes, it was a cheap dollar store one. I didn't want to waste money on a good one and it turn out negative. I'm trying to not let it worry me, because if I'm not prego, I don't know what else it could be. My plan was that if I got a BFP, I'd go to the clinic to confirm. Has anybody ever had a combination of all of those symptoms and not been prego? The oil thing really tripped me because that was extremely unusual.

 

[dreaming4baby]

I ran fever when I was sick last week, and I've had a cough and the sniffles since then. Never threw up, just felt yucky. Haven't had any nausea, but my mom didn't either with any of her pregnancies. And I haven't been able to go #2 regularly. I need to stop looking up symptoms because I don't want to create them in my head lol.

 

[writingislove]

I've heard cold and flu-like symptoms aren't unusual in very early pregnancy. I'm terrible at symptom spotting so I know how it feels to notice weird things about your body and not know for sure if you're truly experiencing something unusual or just being hypersensitive to every little thing. I say go for the digital test! And post an update, of course!

 

[MrsHudson]

I agree with PP. I would go buy a FRER. If it's still a BFN maybe go to the doc and get a blood test. I have heard of women not getting a BFP several weeks after AF should have started. Since you've had no bleeding at all it sounds promising.

FX!

 

[beckie1991]

hi, to me it sounds like you are pregnant but may be too early to test. Id say to either wait a few more days then test again if your going to use a cheap test or buy a good one and do it tomorrow. Although most of them you will be able to tell the day your period is due, i dont think i have came across a single test which you can only use once AF has been totally missed.

Hope oyu get your BFP soon sending baby dust your way

 

[sunshine2014]

Have you tested? You sound like you had some great symptoms!!

 

[dreaming4baby]

Thanks ladies! I'm going to wait until Saturday to test with a FRER, since I'll be a week late then. Still no spotting today, but my lower back is hurting. Breast tenderness has only eased, but not stopped, so I'm hopeful. I really hope we are prego, I'm trying to not get excited, but it's hard not to!

 

[sunshine2014]

Saturday!!? lol Oh I can't wait to hear!

 

[MrsHudson]

Keep us updated!!!!

 

[dreaming4baby]

Ok ladies, I have a little bit of an update. I'm going to take a FRER in the morning, but I got curious and couldn't wait this morning, so I took one of my last dollar store tests. I watched it creep across the window (who doesn't) and I saw a faint line as soon as it touched the test area! As it dried, it stayed super faint, barely visible, so I thought it was another BFN. I got home tonight and took another look. I know you're not supposed to look after 10 mins or whatever because of evap lines, but I've kept 2 of my other tests from previous days, and they didn't have a line at all. I've included a pic. Please tell me what you think! I'll keep ya updated when I take the FRER.

 

[MrsHudson]

I do see the line but I'm not sure how accurate it could be after that long. Have you taken the FRER?

 

[beckie1991]

hi to me i can see the line and i suspect its going to be a BFP ;D if in the 10mins you said there was a line there then its still a positive regardless how dark it is. Make an appointment at your doctors and get them to test you in about 3 days, the line should be darker. If it is negative then retest 3 days after that, if you get a BFN then your doc should do a blood test. You cant get a false positive (unless you have cancer, some of them can detect it) congratulations xxx

 

[rjh12]

Hi guys, I'm new to this site and I've been reading all your comments. I came off my period on 12th November & have a 21 day cycle, I should of been due on 3 days ago but still nothing, I did a test today and it was negative, I've got swollen breasts and bloatedness. I'm knackered & I've leaked so much White stuff, Could I be pregnant or just be late? (I'm never late)

Please help!