Spent a whole night crying...

[flower18]

So my husband and I who have been trying for 11 months have gone to get all our fertility work, everything for me has come back okay but for my husband, not so good... he has low sperm count, extremely low.. less than 5 million and only 10% mobility We were both in shock when we heard that, I cried all night and day... the doctor said all his blood work was okay but is sending him for a test to see if he has any blocked tubes or something, if he doesn't, then my hopes of becoming a mom are slim to none! Is anyone else in the same boat like me...I need some comfort... thanks for listening!!!

 

[Wallie]

I'm sorry to read that you've had bad news about OH's SA. Are there no options for you to do IVF? I really hope that there is something that will enable you to have children.

 

[flower18]

Well I think there is the option to have IVF, but it's soo much money!!! We said if worst comes to worst we will try one round of IVF...it's sucks that you spend all that money and nothing is guaranteed!!!

 

[bek74]

It is alot of money, but what would suck more is to live with the " what if factor "
What if we had have just given it a go......

With IVF you also have the option of ICSI and even donor sperm. It doesn't have to be the end of the road. The fact that, that is your only real fertility issue the success rate would be really quite good.

I know now, with only just finding out this news it is hard to see the light, but there is light. See now you do know whats wrong, and now you can both work towards a new path in your baby making journey.

I wish you all the very best in your journey to becoming a mum / family

 

[grneyednurse]

I am sorry to hear your news...I am in the same or near same boat as you-depending on the correct SA (still waiting on which)...I was called tuesday with the news of only 1 or 2 in the whole sample and then another message saying "everything looks good, but a little on the low side" I have called and called and will go down there tomorrow...but before I had the 2nd call (which gives a glimmer of hope) we were depressed for 2 days and I already looked into IVF enough to know what a dreaded and maybe impossible journey that would be for me...if one has the money...fine, but if you don't? Then what....I know the feeling and it sucks...what sucks more is this is the only clinic in town and how could I trust them now?
What do you plan on doing hun? I am up and down right now...those jerks.

 

[honeycat]

Dealing with mfi is hard. We found out 3 months after me and dh were married and it nearly destroyed us. I am still mad sometimes that we can't be like everyone else and just have a natural pregnancy. I am grateful for ivf and happy to finally be pregnant, but I don't think the pain ever goes away - it just eases a bit. I think what gets me the most is that we still don't have a reason of why his count is so bad and everything that we were told for him to take to improve it has only made it worst.

 

[grneyednurse]

What was his count if you don't mind honeycat?

 

[Dancingkaty1]

so sorry to hear you are going through this.....we have been ttc number 2 for 16 mths now....my dh did a sperm test in june & we rang doc for results & were told 'no further action required' we were delighted but i felt such a failure thinking it was all down to my stupid only 1 ovary that had polycysts on!! our doc referred us to the fs because of the polycysts & in the 1st appointment with the fs at end of august she looked at dh results & we were sooo shocked to find out that his results were in fact really bad!!! they were really sluggish & not swimming!!! my dh was devasted...couldnt talk to me for a whole day & even questioned if our 3 & a half year old daughter was his!!! i feel so annoyed with our doc for giving us wrong results....my dh could of started taking the vits he needed in june rather than 2/3 mths later!!! he has now been on fertile aid 4 men for nearly 3 mths and his last sperm test in sept was sooo much better....they are swimming well now!!and the count has gone up by 4 million!!

good luck with having tests done to see if he has any blockages......could u not try iui 1st....as the battle is easier 4 sperm with that? xx

 

[grneyednurse]

This all just sucks....sigh

 

[emilyjean]

flower, what about donor sperm? That's way less expensive than IVF, and can even be done in the home. I know the idea of a child that isn't biologically your husbands can be tough to grasp, but it is a wonderful option.

 

[beauty]

One suggestion is to get OH on some vitims like wellman conception etc and repeat the test, please dont feel so bad if its the first SA test. Most ladies here will tell u that SA tests change so much on a weekly basis due to anything stress, heavy wkend drinking, hot baths..

I would defo advise to repeat the test in few months time after he been taking vitims and see if they improve!!
xxxxx

 

[obe]

My OH SA came back as only 7%, we are due to see the FS on Tue to go through our options and a few test results. It looks like we will be going for ISCI or IVF depending on the last SA he had done when we last went to the hospital. It can still happen, or at least thats what we have been told by both our doctor and FS, it just makes things a lot harder. Dont give up hope yet, there are still other options.
I hope it all goes ok go, I know how hard it is!!!! x

 

[Nimyra]

Flower, I'm so sorry to hear that you and your OH are dealing with this. I cried for about a week after my OH got his SA results back. His count was less than 2 million (really really bad) and only 1% motile (really really really bad).

We may try supplements to improve things, but because his levels are due to a vasectomy (which was reversed "successfully" - which doesn't mean much!) we dont' really expect too much improvement.

My OH was open to doing IVF but it's complicated because he's in the military and will be deploying soon. I'm not sure I want to go through IVF (expenses aside). We decided that our best option for now (maybe I'll change my mind later about IVF) was to use donor sperm and we found a known donor. Now, I'm hoping for a BFP.

It's hard, really hard - and I felt really hopeless at first, and angry too about how much easier it has been for other people I know... but there are still options to become a mother. Folks like us just have to be more creative.

Keep us posted as you continue to process this news. Hoping for the best for you!

 

[honeycat]

What was his count if you don't mind honeycat?

The first SA was 4 million and 2nd SA was 6 million.
He just did 3 months of clomid and now his last SA back in September was 10 thousand (I think the clomid caused his count to go from really bad to almost sterile). So far we have no reason for his poor count - that is what upsets me - all I want is a reason why. The physical exam was good, hormones normal, chromosomally normal, no history of testicular problems.

 

[Carlyanne15]

So sorry to hear that...... you both must be devastated.

My advise is get you OH to basically ditch any Alcohol, caffeine and also take Zinc tablets and then request a further test. All the above impact your sperm. Worth a go.

Good Luck. Also get if your able too this book. Dont be put off by the title, we got it after TTC for 3months as i've PCOS and was told at 14yrs old i would never have kids.

And i followed a few things and we did have the help of Clomid but got OH to do the no beer, coke etc plus Zinc and we conceived.


https://www.marilynglenville.com/books/natural_sol_infertility.htm

 

[grneyednurse]

I am in the same boat, we have only 1-2 million sperm and def going to have to do IVF...I was devastated, but hopeful now as it is at least an option that we have...a very difficult one too....very sad, but I am excited now as it brings us hope. How are you doing?

 

[Artemis]

I am in exactly the same situation as you. OH only has 2% normal sperm. Its devastating and we are not at the acceptance stage yet, certainly don't want to consider sperm donors yet. Worst thing is I dragged him to be tested because the Docs would only test us as a couple and I was told by my mother it was me who was infertile (nice mother) only to find out it was him. I can't tell you how guilty it makes me feel. I've ruined his life...

 

[Nimyra]

Artemis,

You haven't ruined his life! The results would be the results whether or not he was aware of them. Don't blame yourself. It's a really rough road, and it is okay to take your time to grieve.

I hope you and your husband can work through your feelings together and grow through this.

Blessings to you both.