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So we had my daughter's first induction yesterday and I just feel like it went shittily. We chose to defer her for a year as she was a little late starting nursery and was enjoying it so much and doing so well, among other factors, that we wanted her to have more time to just be herself and learn about the world of education before throwing her in at the deep end. She will be 5 in July so would have been very young in her year had she started at 4.
Much as I would have loved to educate privately (I was privately educated and have a mum who has been a teacher for over 20 years with an absolutely vast wealth of knowledge and experience - in my eyes, she is second to none), we just cannot afford it. So she is going to a lovely local school which is all of ten seconds' walk from our back gate. But the classes are massive - 30+ children in each which is so different to my experience of growing up in a group of about 13 kids.
Because of this, I knew her teacher was of course going to be overstretched, and boy was it busy yesterday. They all had to draw a picture of themselves for the induction and write their name at the bottom and my LO tried really hard, colouring in her dress with the right colours of the rainbow and adding glitter etc. and the teacher barely even looked at it. I understand how hard it must be for her to give every child a fair amount of time when she is swamped by parents and so on, so this wasn't really a problem, but later on she spent ages talking to a little boy about his picture and pretending it was so good that his mum must have drawn it for him and so on, and I just felt bad for my daughter.
Don't get me wrong - she seems a fantastic lady with many years' experience and I am glad she is the teacher we got, but later on when we finally had a chance to talk to her (and my LO was shy, which I know comes across awfully as she tends to turn away and ignore questions when she is nervous), she didn't make any further effort to engage and didn't seem to try to put my daughter at ease. It was so awkward ...
My mum says if she is shy, they won't try to force themselves on her, and while I'm sure she is right, I'm now really worried that the teacher won't like her or that she thinks because my daughter is older, she won't need the same attention the younger ones will, but she's still such a little girl really, even though she is really tall now. Some of the kids were soooo tiny in comparison. Omg ...
I know everyone thinks it about their own, but my kid is wonderful. She's never deliberately done a malicious or naughty thing in her life, she is bright, imaginative, kind, easygoing and hilarious. I just hope this will come through in time. She has done very well at nursery and is popular and close to her caregivers, but now I'm scared she won't fit in for whatever reason.
I'm well aware it's 99% me, it's very early days, etc. but I can't be the only one who is terrified about their child starting school. Just want to talk to someone who has been there or is dealing with it now really, so please get in touch.
Much as I would have loved to educate privately (I was privately educated and have a mum who has been a teacher for over 20 years with an absolutely vast wealth of knowledge and experience - in my eyes, she is second to none), we just cannot afford it. So she is going to a lovely local school which is all of ten seconds' walk from our back gate. But the classes are massive - 30+ children in each which is so different to my experience of growing up in a group of about 13 kids.
Because of this, I knew her teacher was of course going to be overstretched, and boy was it busy yesterday. They all had to draw a picture of themselves for the induction and write their name at the bottom and my LO tried really hard, colouring in her dress with the right colours of the rainbow and adding glitter etc. and the teacher barely even looked at it. I understand how hard it must be for her to give every child a fair amount of time when she is swamped by parents and so on, so this wasn't really a problem, but later on she spent ages talking to a little boy about his picture and pretending it was so good that his mum must have drawn it for him and so on, and I just felt bad for my daughter.
Don't get me wrong - she seems a fantastic lady with many years' experience and I am glad she is the teacher we got, but later on when we finally had a chance to talk to her (and my LO was shy, which I know comes across awfully as she tends to turn away and ignore questions when she is nervous), she didn't make any further effort to engage and didn't seem to try to put my daughter at ease. It was so awkward ...
My mum says if she is shy, they won't try to force themselves on her, and while I'm sure she is right, I'm now really worried that the teacher won't like her or that she thinks because my daughter is older, she won't need the same attention the younger ones will, but she's still such a little girl really, even though she is really tall now. Some of the kids were soooo tiny in comparison. Omg ...
I know everyone thinks it about their own, but my kid is wonderful. She's never deliberately done a malicious or naughty thing in her life, she is bright, imaginative, kind, easygoing and hilarious. I just hope this will come through in time. She has done very well at nursery and is popular and close to her caregivers, but now I'm scared she won't fit in for whatever reason.
I'm well aware it's 99% me, it's very early days, etc. but I can't be the only one who is terrified about their child starting school. Just want to talk to someone who has been there or is dealing with it now really, so please get in touch.
it is perfectly normal to worry about them
