Still hurts to hear...

[mamashakesit]

Even though my ex has been a deadbeat and was horrible to me while I was pregnant, it still hurts my heart to hear that he doesn't want my daughter. He told me again today that he wants nothing to do with her.

I hate him; I know he's worthless and cruel and has been awful to me...but it still hurts. My daughter is the sweetest baby in the world. She's such a good girl and so cute...to hear her own father say he wants nothing to do with her is just crushing. It's so unfair that she has to be so alone because mama is so busy and there isn't another parent around. Sometime I wonder if it will ever get better, even though it already has since she was born. Do you ever forget how these guys treated you and do you ever stop feeling the guilt for your child not having her other parent?

It is still so awful to hear. How can anyone not want her? She's an absolute doll. Even if she is better off without him in her life...I still cry about his treatment of her and I.

 

[Laura2919]

One of my best friends have an FOB like this...He hasnt seen his daughter in over 2 years, not even a phonecall. He said some really horrible things to her and his daughter and it really hurt my best friend.. But... She moved on, she now has such a wonderful man and he treats her and her daughter like a princess, my best friends daughter even calls him daddy because she has forgotten all about that waste of space that is her real dad. My best friend refers to him as sperm donor
You will find someone else and really its his loss. You will find a man that loves you and your LO and who will miss out then?
Sounds to me like he is hitting out, try and make your contact as little as possible. If he wants to see her let him back that choice, then you can go about discussing whether or not he is going to be a part of her life.
You love her and care for her and she has an amazing mummy. Thats what counts.

 

[teal]

Massive hugs

My ex wanted nothing to do with LO. Broke up with me when I was 4 weeks pregnant and I haven't seen him June 2009.

Although it's not as raw I still get upset about it, lately it's been a bit more than usual. I agree that you are all your LO needs but I know it doesn't take away from the hurt xx

 

[mamashakesit]

Thanks ladies. I really wish my ex had just left me cold and stayed away. It would have been awful, but way better then the mental anguish he put me through. I am to blame, too, for continuing to go back and holding on to hope I when I knew there wasn't anything there. I'm finally over him in that sense, but he is so frustrating to deal with. He cares nothing about his daughter and never has, but can't quite completely leave us out of the picture.

 

[sambucababy]

Aww hun, no real advice I dont understand men, Ur daughter has u and u clearly have a great bond with her and love her to bits so its his loss x
Sending u a HUGE hug !!

 

[dustbunny]

You are a lovely and caring mother and that is all your daughter needs. You are also a strong woman!! The majority of men are dicks... simple as, they are all OK using them but when it comes to actually manning up, they become them. Keep this in mind and hope you feel a bit brighter soon.

 

[AbbynChloe]

Even though my ex has been a deadbeat and was horrible to me while I was pregnant, it still hurts my heart to hear that he doesn't want my daughter. He told me again today that he wants nothing to do with her.

I hate him; I know he's worthless and cruel and has been awful to me...but it still hurts. My daughter is the sweetest baby in the world. She's such a good girl and so cute...to hear her own father say he wants nothing to do with her is just crushing. It's so unfair that she has to be so alone because mama is so busy and there isn't another parent around. Sometime I wonder if it will ever get better, even though it already has since she was born. Do you ever forget how these guys treated you and do you ever stop feeling the guilt for your child not having her other parent?

It is still so awful to hear. How can anyone not want her? She's an absolute doll. Even if she is better off without him in her life...I still cry about his treatment of her and I.

Been thinking about this very thing the last couple of days and I just do't get it, how you can pretend a part of you doesn't exists?? how you can go about you day to day life knowing you have a son/daughter??? it literally astounds me.......