Stress, midwives and nasty doctors.

[Angel2Fire]

I'm not sure what to do...

Last time I saw the midwife (at about 15 weeks) there was a huge situation with a doctor being narked because the midwives were using his room and taking it out on me. (It was because it had been snowing and my electric powerchair had left marks on the floor, and because both me and my partner use powerchairs and he wasn't happy about the number of people in one room, for health and safety reasons.) Anyway, he was really really awful and I ended up complaining.
But Now I don't want to go back to the surgery to see the midwife. I don't mind going to see my own doctor cus I can avoid the nasty one, but what if the midwives are using his room again?

So I told the specialist mental health midwife that I see and she has phoned my community midwife. She phoned me back saying the community midwife would visit me at home once, but she was not happy about it and said I'll have to change surgery if I'm going to have this problem in furture!

WHO THE HELL is she to tell me to move surgery!!!!! Surely it's not my fault that their rooms aren't big enough to have 2 powerchairs in them. All able-bodied women are allowed to take their partners to their anti-natal appointments so why should it be different for me? And if the surgery aren't willing to put mats down to stop them getting marks on their floors then what am I supposed to do? When the doctor phoned me after the incident to apologise (sweating his b*ll*cks off cus I'd mentioned reporting him to the GMC) he agreed that the situation wasn't ideal and that a solution might be for the midwives to visit me at home... but her solution seems to be for me to move surgery!

What does everyone think I should do?

 

[Kimboowee]

No idea, but surely if its for health and safety reasons the midwife should HAVE to visit you at home? Tell her to bollox about moving surgerys!!!!

 

[Rach276]

Thats stupid! I think that the ideal situation is for them to visit you becuase it would be easyier for you. Dont change surgery!! Dont have any advice tho hun sorry x

 

[Cariad_bach]

Surely this is discrimination of the nastiest kind

Its there problem not yours ..... altho im tempted to say dont change if you dont want to i also can't help wondering if maybe there is another surgery in your area who would be nicer and accommodating to you without the constant battles (im thinking of the years of baby checks and jabs etc that are comming up)

I know one thing for certain i would not be happy and i would be complaining again, hugs to you hun, its alot of added stress that you could well do without xxxx

 

[amanthony]

I don't think that you should just accept what your midwife is saying. If their facilities aren't accomodating, then it's their responsibility to accomodate you in another way. The unfortunate thing is, if she isn't doing that on her own it may require more work/research on your part to find out exactly what your rights are. Otherwise, a good alternative may be to ask her to inform you of your rights--put the work on her and ask her to explain to you what she's required to do for you. It is her job, after all.

Best of luck to you. Sorry that you have to face this problem at all.

 

[Carolyn]

report them. they can't get away with that. awful.

 

[EmziMoo]

I don't think that you should just accept what your midwife is saying. If their facilities aren't accomodating, then it's their responsibility to accomodate you in another way. The unfortunate thing is, if she isn't doing that on her own it may require more work/research on your part to find out exactly what your rights are. Otherwise, a good alternative may be to ask her to inform you of your rights--put the work on her and ask her to explain to you what she's required to do for you. It is her job, after all.

Best of luck to you. Sorry that you have to face this problem at all.

I agree with this!

 

[claire roach]

id report them!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! they will soon find a way 2 accomodate u i can guarantee that.

 

[littlemansmum]

OMG, thats crap! In my last pregnancy my community mw saw mw at home everytime after 16 weeks cos i had bad sciatica, yes i could walk but she thought would be less stressful for me to be seen at home, so why can't they see you at home when you have a greater need?! All community mw's have supervisors, line managers etc, may be worth a complaint, plus without being funny is that not the idea of a community midwife? To go out into the community? I really hope you manage to get this sorted to your satisfaction chick, it can be so stressful. Hugs to you xxx

 

[elmaxie]

WOW!!

They just keep geting worse...I would complain again to whoever you did before and also report them to some professionalorganisation(I dontknow who but there must be one!?!?)

And let them know you aremoving practice as advised by mw last time she contacted you...remember to name names also!

Get yourself to a better practice who treat you better! As someone said its somewhere you will be visiting frequently in the coming years..



Emma.xx

 

[Peanut78]

Sorry you had to experience that! I agree with the other ladies, it is their problem not yours. If their facilities are not accomodating (which they should do something about!), it is up to them to come up with a solution until they are able to facilitate you and your OH at the practice. It is unacceptable you be treated like that!!!!

I hope they change their attitude and you have a more positive experience next time....

 

[Kiddo]

Of all the places that should be accomodating for everyone, you'd think a health centre would be top of the list!