Struggling with the decision on when to tell family about the baby

[MamaTex]

I don't want to jinx myself by telling everyone about the baby only to have to tell them that I lost it, but I feel I am not doing right by this baby by keeping my pregnancy secret. I wanted to wait until after I could confirm the heart beat, but what if I did confirm this, only to lose the baby anyway? I figure the baby deserves to be celebrated, no matter how long the baby sticks around. GRRR! Christmas would be perfect since everyone would be together in one place!!!

 

[Kellen]

The first time we were pregnant DH immediately called his whole family and told them that we were expecting. I was more ambivalent and had wanted to wait until at least after the first ultrasound. We ended up miscarrying about a week after he told.

Then we got a BFP three months later (we were advise to wait due to the previous one being ectopic and methotrexate being used). I just knew that this pregnancy was for keeps and wanted to tell immediately, but this time DH was hesitant. We heard/saw the HB at 7+6, but decided to wait until 12 weeks to inform everyone (we did call our moms and let them know, but asked that they keep it quiet).

So I completely understand wanting to share, but being afraid. After my Feb m/c I was a wreck during the first trimester. Any "abnormal" feeling was a sure sign of a miscarriage about to happen. I didn't really start relaxing until about 20 weeks in.

I know this is a little late since you posted before Christmas, but I just wanted to share and let you know that you're not alone. I hope you had a fantastic Christmas and will have a blessed New Years.

 

[MamaTex]

Thank you Kellen. I appreciate that. I ended up telling my parents and my inlaws. I decided that I could tell now or later, lose the baby, and hurt like heck no matter when I told. I also could tell now or later, not lose the baby, and worry for nothing!!! I am not sure which way things will go but I am working on being more positive. I feel like things are progressing and feel different than I did the first time around. Thanks so much for sharing your story!!

 

[Tournesol]

Kellen, the exact same thing happened to me! OH told everyone, then I had a MC about about a week later. Then we got pregnant again and he was scared to tell.

Good luck with this one MamaTex, I felt different this time around too and it stuck xx