stupid ***** rant part 2

[Optimus prime]

Ok so update on the ex... Even though we have an arrangement and I have paid her every month no problem and when she asked for more for some clothes and stuff for my daughter, now she has gone to the csa, and is making it harder to see my child, she moans that she can't cope, I say I'll have my child full time she says that will never happen. I just want to see my child why does she get to make it hard for me?

 

[whatwillbe]

Do you have regular accsess to your lo, as in overnite stays at yours ? She could be verry tired as bringing a child up on your own can be verry tiring, my ex used to say he'd have my kids full time when i'd moan about being tired, this made me so mad! All i wanted was a bit of respite for a day/ night not to be told he'd take my kids off me, maybe you could come to an arrangement so you have lo one night a week ? Thats if you dont already, that could help with her attidude towards you , good look ! X

 

[Optimus prime]

Yeah I use to have her every weekend lately its become every other weekend and at the start of the year I was signed off of work I had her for a full month and she still moaned the whole month, she is just someone who uses my child as a weapon and thinks her life is so hard if I had £8000000 and gave her half shed moan about the other half of it.

 

[resursval]

Seems to me you both are selfish and are arguing about your child.
Surely what your child needs is the most important.
Maybe your child is too young to be away from the mother for too long...
In Sweden they don't recommend overnights (if the child is under 3 years old) to the parent not taking care of the child since birth...

 

[Optimus prime]

I was there at the birth and was with the mother until my little girl was 2and then I had her alot she is 4in Oct just so you know and I have not been selfish 1bit my child comes first before anything I don't really care for swedish custom, and the way I was brought up was child first and as long as you did your best by them that's all that mattered, my ex has become a ***** just because I have got someone new and can't believe anyone would try and think she is in the right some people are just *****

 

[whatwillbe]

From what you have said, you sound like a great dad ! It sounds to me like you have moved on with your life and she hasnt, i really think your going to have to be really patient if you can and try not to mention your new partner in any conversations regarding your lo, good luck x

 

[emalou90]

You both should agree a set payment per month, as rules of CSA (eg. x of your monthly earnings), without going through CSA if you so wish.

This way the mother of your child gets the support she needs to bring your child up properly, with decent clothes, shoes and food in her tummy.

If you want access, go through the right routes, ask her outright 'can i see my daughter, on x days in the week and x nights' try to compromise.

The main thing is, your daughter, she is at an age where she knows whats going on and will know if her parents are arguing over money. So get it sorted now rather than later is all i can advise.