Support needed from you lovely ladies

[Claireyb1]

This is a bit of an OT but I just wanted to hear some words of support.
I sadly lost my dearest Grandmother on Friday. She was 98! I know she had a good life and was ready to leave us when she did pass, but It really doesn't matter how old someone is when they die, it is still a shock and the loss is just as great if not worse.
I was so used to her just always being there and now there is a gapping hole where she used to be in my life.
I am so sad that my LO will never know his/her Great Grandmother as she was a truly amazing woman (don't make them like that any more)
I can take some comfort in knowing that she at least knew I was expecting and was very happy for me.
I am trying to cope for my Mum's sake and managing to hold it together. (so far)
The funeral is tomorrow and I am doing all the food for the wake afterwards (my gift to my Grandma)
I think I may need to sleep for a week after this is all done as running around like this at 8 months is not ideal.

Sorry for the long post, but just needed to express my feelings of sadness.

 

[Storm1jet2]

I know exactly how you feel! My aunt who was very much like my grandmother (I saw her 3 times a week) died when I was 9 weeks pregnant. She was very ill at the end and she never knew I was expecting. It breaks my heart to know she never knew. She was 84 but she was a huge part of my life and the best aunt anyone could ever have asked for.

Take comfort in knowing your grandmother knew you were expecting and was pleased for you. It is very sad your LO will not get to know this lady that meant so much to you


Thats a lovely way to say goodbye - you will be absolutely exhausted and I hope you take some time out afterwards to recover.

Will be thinking about you all tomorrow

 

[oldmamamia]

i too lost my dearest nana at age 98 when i was 13wks pregnant after she suffered a stroke and spent 4mts in hospital, she'd never been in hospital before, all 5 of her children were born at home and she was always so fit and healthy, she was our family's rock, the glue that held us all together and i was devastated when we lost her, like you i took comfort in the fact that she knew i was pregnant but so sad that she would never meet or hold her new great grand son, my older children are so lucky that they had her in their lives for so long. she left me a small sum of money in her will and i bought charlies cot and bedding set with some of it, i like to think that she watches over him at night and the bedding is her cuddling him, its been almost a year now but writing this has me in tears.
the funeral was very hard on me, i think my pregnancy hormones made for alot more tears than usual but we tried so hard to make the day a celebration of a long and happy life and to rememeber a lady who was so loved and who always had time, patience and a word of advice for us, our family just isnt the same without her.
sending big hugs to you x hope tomorrow goes ok xxx

 

[Claireyb1]

I know exactly how you feel! My aunt who was very much like my grandmother (I saw her 3 times a week) died when I was 9 weeks pregnant. She was very ill at the end and she never knew I was expecting. It breaks my heart to know she never knew. She was 84 but she was a huge part of my life and the best aunt anyone could ever have asked for.

Take comfort in knowing your grandmother knew you were expecting and was pleased for you. It is very sad your LO will not get to know this lady that meant so much to you


Thats a lovely way to say goodbye - you will be absolutely exhausted and I hope you take some time out afterwards to recover.

Will be thinking about you all tomorrow

Thanks Storm. I too am sorry for your loss.

 

[Claireyb1]

i too lost my dearest nana at age 98 when i was 13wks pregnant after she suffered a stroke and spent 4mts in hospital, she'd never been in hospital before, all 5 of her children were born at home and she was always so fit and healthy, she was our family's rock, the glue that held us all together and i was devastated when we lost her, like you i took comfort in the fact that she knew i was pregnant but so sad that she would never meet or hold her new great grand son, my older children are so lucky that they had her in their lives for so long. she left me a small sum of money in her will and i bought charlies cot and bedding set with some of it, i like to think that she watches over him at night and the bedding is her cuddling him, its been almost a year now but writing this has me in tears.
the funeral was very hard on me, i think my pregnancy hormones made for alot more tears than usual but we tried so hard to make the day a celebration of a long and happy life and to rememeber a lady who was so loved and who always had time, patience and a word of advice for us, our family just isnt the same without her.
sending big hugs to you x hope tomorrow goes ok xxx

Gosh oldmamamia, that sounds so much like my grandma! She also had a stroke back in Jan and spent approx 3 weeks in hospital. They asked her when she got taken in when was the last time she was in hospital - she thought about it for a second and said "when I had the children" which was nearly 70 years ago!! We have been blessed that she had such a healthy life right up until her 98th year.
She too has been the bedrock of our family and always there for us when we needed her, no questions asked.

Thank you for your words of comfort and I am sure your wee one will know all about his Great Grandmother.

 

[Storm1jet2]

Hope its all going well - have been thinking about you this am

 

[Maple Leaf]

Sending you today.
I lost my mum when I was 20 yrs old, it kills me inside knowing she will never know my 2 nearly 3 children. I know it's a cliche' but time is a great healer. We are always here to listen if you need us.

 

[Claireyb1]

Hope its all going well - have been thinking about you this am

Thanks Storm, The day went very well. We gave her a good send off, but my body is suffering today as I was on my feet all day long yesterday.
Thanks for your support!

 

[Claireyb1]

Sending you today.
I lost my mum when I was 20 yrs old, it kills me inside knowing she will never know my 2 nearly 3 children. I know it's a cliche' but time is a great healer. We are always here to listen if you need us.

Thanks Maple Leaf, I know you are right about the time thing.
It's great to know we have such good support on here!

 

[Storm1jet2]

Hope its all going well - have been thinking about you this am

Thanks Storm, The day went very well. We gave her a good send off, but my body is suffering today as I was on my feet all day long yesterday.
Thanks for your support!

So glad it went well - now you need to take some time out to rest and come to terms with your loss.

Hard to remember at this time but its great you had such a lovely grandmother and so many happy memorys