Teaching toddler about joint custody?

[Marlarky]

Hi ya'll! My ex and I "share," for lack of a better word, our 2 1/2 year old son. But I'm having trouble.. you see, every time he comes back from daddy's house, he cries and cries for him and tells me he doesnt want mommy time and doesnt want to see my OH. He doesn't cry to daddy about missing mommy though. I'm trying to let him understand that there's mommy time and then there's daddy time but it breaks my heart that he cries and tells me that he doesnt want mommy time. He likes my OH a lot too, he's basically his stepdad, but when he comes home from daddy's he want nothing to do with OH. Now, his dad and I cant stand each other so doing things together is out of the question.

Does anyone have advice or experience about this? Is it just a phase? Surely he can't mean these things he says to me?

Any advice would be greatly appreciated, because I'm at my wits end with this and frankly I'm heartbroken. Thanks in advance!!!

 

[Kate&Lucas]

Could it be that his Dad is saying something to him?
Honestly, it could just be a phase. Lucas went through this when he got a bit older and started to realise that Daddy was the 'easy' parent (he doesn't say no basically), and would break his heart crying when he brought him back, saying he didn't like mummy he only liked daddy.
Luckily it didn't last too long, now he's just learned to play us off against each other, the second I say he can't do/have something he shouts "I don't want to live in your house anymore, I'm going to live with daddy!"

 

[Marlarky]

My son's dad is the "easy" parent too! Spoils him rotten and doesn't say NO either. I'm hoping it's just a phase!!!

 

[Dream.dream]

It's just a phase and he probably does say it to his dad too. It's actually a normal thing .