Teenagers:how frustrating

[bobblebot]

Yet another thing to make me feel guilty.........
tonight my 18 year old daughter is sat in tears because mummy wont buy her a car! Im paying for her driving lessons, she's one of 4 teenagers i have aged 14-18 from first marriage and her dad has contributed a granjd total of zilch ever to their upkeep even though he promised her driving lessons.

Where do they think money comes from? i wouldn't mind but mycar died in december in the freezing weather and only just afforded get a new car now.

I've got new baby stuff to buy andfindmoney for deposit and firts months rent on a new house as have to move not to mention removal costs!!!!

It all ended in a big argument again oh how hard done she is! then 16 year old joined in cos he don't want to move so i've told 18 year old now she better find somewhere else to live and 16 year old he is definately going to live with his dad.

i got so upset my stomach was killing and now i'm worrying about baby, truth is they don't give a damn about me....and i have had enough i am moving and my 3 yearold and 14 year old can come and the others can go dads......enough is enough i cannot continue like this withouthvaing a nervous breakdown.

 

[littlekitten8]

Oh hun. I'm glad you made a decision. Your 18 year old sounds like a selfish little madam. And you are right that its not good for you or the baby. Please get yourself checked over? I'm worried about you now x

 

[bobblebot]

thanks little kitten just so stressed and its awful when you realise your kids don't give a buggers!

I have a doppler so checked baby's heartbeat was ok this morning, thank god!

i've told her she has to get herself down tocouncil offices/cab and find out what she is entitled to and sort herself out....i would have helped but to be honest she can now go do it herself....sounds harsh but if she wants be treated like an adult, i.e treat house like a hotel, do what she wants when she wants she an sort herself out.

Thing is my boys don't think twie at telling my 3 yearoldto fuc* off and it breaks my heart and it no good for him and i refuse have the baby and him raised like that.

I've spent so long trying to make them see so now all chances are over. I just hope one day they realise why i had to do it.

 

[littlekitten8]

They will hun. Its better to be a little firm now and them be responsible adults than be soft and then have them blame you for their problems when they are adults! They may not thank you for it right now but believe me they will when they are older.