Telling my parents went worse the expected

[mybbyboo]

Basically they said they don't want another baby to be at the house. The exact words were " I'd hate to see you in a womens shelter with two kids."
idk what to do i feel like my whole world is falling apart i have no where else to go.

 

[tinkerbelle93]

Sorry they have taken it badly. It's still early days so hopefully so they will come round soon x

 

[skyesmom]

what an insensitive thing to say! i hope they come around soon! and it is also so insensitive to hint that except of them, the women's shelter is the only option you've got!

 

[xx~Lor~xx]

That's very harsh :/ I'd give them time to calm down and get their heads around it. My mum flipped at my first and said some horrible things (and I had already moved out, living with my partner) and she didn't exactly react well to number two and three. It sucks when they take it so poorly initially, it would have been nice to experience my mum being excited for at least one of my children... Anyway, point is, she came around and adores her grandchildren now. Hope they come around soon.

 

[Emms818]

My mum said pretty much the same thing when she found out, it was all 'I don't want a baby in this house' and all sorts of harsh things, I'm 18 so I'm only young too but she will come round, my mum is excited now it's probably just the shock of telling her, she just needs time to get used to it
Good luck with everything xx

 

[x__amour]

I'm sorry sweetie. Give them some time to come around.

 

[ready4number1]

First off congratulations, I know you wanted another LO. I read back on some of your old posts. Just curious, did you and your fiancé get married yet? Maybe you guys can find your own place.

Your parents raised you and have been helping (I am guessing) you with your current LO. So adding another LO to their household is a lot to expect and it is unfair to expect them to be receptive to that idea. I doubt they want to continue to raise children and may want more free time to relax with each other, travel etc. That is just my guess.

Do you still work in the NICU? If so, that is great because you now have a means to pay your rent/mortgage. While you are pregnant save, save, save so you can afford to care for you and your children while you are on maternity leave WITHOUT ADDED STRESS.

You will show them you are taking some responsibility by doing your best to take care of your children. Look into state assistance because depending on where you live daycare vouchers are available, food assistance etc. I am not aware of your finances, you may not need it, but at least you know you have some options.

Your parents may even assist you in finding your own place and maybe you can move close to them. Good luck to you.

 

[ClairAye]

Sorry they reacted that way. I hope they come around soon

 

[YoshiPikachu]

That's terrible. Hopefully they will get better about it.

 

[hunni12]

sorry hun

 

[xcxox]

if they'd hate to see you there with another kid, why won't they allow you to stay with them? :/

 

[beanzz]

Sorry they reacted badly. They'll come around.

Ideally it would have been great to have got your own place before adding another child into the situation but we all know how easy it is to fall pregnant without meaning to so things don't always go to plan

Give them time to calm down and then speak to them again. They might help you come up with a plan to sort finances and move out