MoonLove
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We didn't tell anyone my daughter's name until when she was born, told relatives once they were at the hospital.
My daughter is three now and understands and often talks about 'baby boy' in my tummy. I don't think she can quite grasp the very concept, she's aware of what babies are and she knows boys are the ones she goes to nursery with.
We want to encourage her to understand that 'baby boy' is going to be here soon, that he's not going to be in my tummy forever, and we thought telling her his name might help her to realise, when he is born, that he's the same baby as the one she spoke about in my tummy.
She totally understands names, always comes home talking of new people at nursery. The issue with telling her baby's name is that she will not know to keep it secret, and it'll inevitably come out.
So we're debating telling her, around Christmas time. The very idea of saying her little brothers name makes me so teary and happy. I want baby to come along and when LO comes to first meet him, we can explain that this is baby who she knows by name.
I feel if we tell her, we'll have to tell other family members and I find it a little strange to imagine them calling him by name in my tummy. I've thought of passing it off as another child from nursery if she does mention the name in front of anyone, but I know it won't work because she'll be pointing at my tummy
Do you think it's a good idea? We want to involve her fully and I don't want to be secretive from her just for the sake of it being a surprise to everyone else!
Edited: I was four when my sister was born and I remember my patents dilemma of two names for her whilst she was still in my mom's tummy. I know LO won't remember this time I'm pregnant, but I remember a time when my mom's tummy had a name and it was much easier to make the connection with the baby when she came out.
My daughter is three now and understands and often talks about 'baby boy' in my tummy. I don't think she can quite grasp the very concept, she's aware of what babies are and she knows boys are the ones she goes to nursery with.
We want to encourage her to understand that 'baby boy' is going to be here soon, that he's not going to be in my tummy forever, and we thought telling her his name might help her to realise, when he is born, that he's the same baby as the one she spoke about in my tummy.
She totally understands names, always comes home talking of new people at nursery. The issue with telling her baby's name is that she will not know to keep it secret, and it'll inevitably come out.
So we're debating telling her, around Christmas time. The very idea of saying her little brothers name makes me so teary and happy. I want baby to come along and when LO comes to first meet him, we can explain that this is baby who she knows by name.
I feel if we tell her, we'll have to tell other family members and I find it a little strange to imagine them calling him by name in my tummy. I've thought of passing it off as another child from nursery if she does mention the name in front of anyone, but I know it won't work because she'll be pointing at my tummy
Do you think it's a good idea? We want to involve her fully and I don't want to be secretive from her just for the sake of it being a surprise to everyone else!
Edited: I was four when my sister was born and I remember my patents dilemma of two names for her whilst she was still in my mom's tummy. I know LO won't remember this time I'm pregnant, but I remember a time when my mom's tummy had a name and it was much easier to make the connection with the baby when she came out.