Telling your child's daycare/school teachers?

[Zeri]

Did you tell your child's daycare/school teacher that you're expecting, or just wait for them to notice/comment? Just curious. I've been meaning to mention it to them but haven't yet. I think they probably notice, though.

 

[Leliana]

I outright told mine after the 12 week scan - I was too excited to wait! They congratulated me and haven't mentioned it since then. The joys of a second pregnancy!

 

[shinona]

Yes, told them once we'd told our kids so they'd know about the big change in our kids' lives. My son told everyone at his nursery though as he was so excited xx

 

[EmzyJA]

My daughter started preschool when I was about 15 weeks and I casually mentioned it then.

 

[Zeri]

Thanks for your replies!

I thought my DD would've let it slip at school too, but she hasn't, surprisingly enough. I told her at 9 weeks but told her not to tell anyone then, and at 13 weeks I told her she could 'tell' if she wanted to, but I don't think she has. I really don't think it's all 'real' for her yet, maybe that's why. Shinona - it's cute that your son was so excited.

Will probably mention something this week, though. I am wearing a maternity shirt today, anyway, so guess it's a good a time as ever! And I think they're probably 'waiting' for me to say something, too.

 

[RcdM]

I told our daycare, more just for fun that anything else really. I had my dd wear her "big sister" shirt one day. They obviously need to know eventually if you plan on having your baby go there, or maybe if your child seems to be acting differently because of it? But other than that I don't know that it really matters.

 

[messica]

I'd say preschool whenever you're comfortable but daycare would be important to share with asap if you planned on your kiddo going there after maternity leave was over.

If I had a mom who was showing and didn't say anything to me I would assume she didn't need or want me to say an infant spot for her. Since they fill up fastest that situation could get messy right quick! Licensed care has a limited number of spots so communication on matters like that is really important. Most of my moms would share with me when they were even just ttc to make sure I'd have an opening in case they did indeed fall pregnant (and then again pretty much as soon as they found out).

 

[butterfly80]

I went to pick up my daughter for her keyworker to ask for a quiet word, oh no what has she done I thought! She just wanted to let me know during quiet group time my DD had blurted out "mummy has a baby growing in her tummy and she was going home on a bus" I was 8 weeks and yes indeed the highlight of her day was going on a bus I told her keyworker yes I was expecting but I was wanting to keep in quiet but knew with the big changes coming up it would affect her so wanted them to look out for her. Since they have been amazing, been to the baby room to visit the babies, looked at baby books and drawn pictures. It's involving her and doing it with the other children who are also becoming big brothers and sisters so is making her feel very special and grown up xx

 

[mixedmama]

My 3 year old DD told them for me when I was about 15/16 weeks. She drew a picture at nursery and said 'that's you and the baby in your tummy'

It depends on your relationship with the staff, my OH told one of the staff members at my DD's nursery but that's because we're quite close to her

 

[Jinga]

I told the lady who works in my son's school's office very early on because she kept calling me to be a parent helper (it's a co-op preschool) and I had to keep turning her down because I was so sick. My son also knew early on because I knew he would be worried about why I was always sick. I thought he'd spill the beans at school, but no one else has mentioned anything to me so I don't think he has. Other than that I haven't gone out of my way to tell his teacher or other parents, but I think it's becoming obvious now.

 

[JessdueJan]

I work at my youngests nursery so they all know but we have also told DS1's childminder. Obviously incase he mentioned it I didn't want her to be confused or think he has his wires crossed as she doesn't often see me, DH tends to do his picking up and dropping off. xx

 

[CaptainMummy]

I have one of Paige's preschool teachers on my Facebook (I know her from toddlers etc as she has a daughter the same age) so she must have told the rest of them. Turns out she is due a month after me, and Paige's main keyworker is due 3 days after me!

 

[KatieQ90s]

I would say that its totally up to your discretion. If you want to, or have a reason to tell them, go ahead and tell them

 

[ItsJana]

I told my older
daughter's teacher very early, but only because I was supposed to volunteer at a class field trip and couldn't because ms had hit really hard around that time. My other daughter's preschool teacher still doesn't know, but honestly that might have more to do with me not really liking her

 

[shmunster]

My son started kinder when I was about 8 weeks so I didn't say anything, then after the 12 weeks I didn't know how to bring it up so I didn't and eventually at about 15 weeks the teacher asked at pick up one day as my son had told her LOL! He's got a very vivid imagination so she apologised for asking first!

 

[Zeri]

Thanks for the feedback. I think it's nice to tell them, as a courtesy, and because the child will probably want to talkabout it at some point, with other children or teachers.

I did tell the owner and two teachers yesterday afternoon. They were all surprised (really though it was obvious but maybe not), but the owner said she was about to ask me what was going on as I ''looked different', and my breasts were huge ( we have that kind of relationship). We had a nice chat abt pregnancy afterwards too. I feel better that It's out in the open now. I haven't told the other two teachers I'm less close to, and don't plan to. I guess the other teachers might mention it.

 

[squirrel.]

As a teacher I've never had parents come and tell me they're expecting. I wouldn't expect them to to be honest. Their children are usually the ones who tell me and then I congratulate them, but it doesn't become a talking point. I also never told them I was pregnant, but clearly they either guessed when I started showing or the kids told them (I told the kids at 16 weeks). I've only had three parents out of a class of 30 congratulate me or comment on my pregnancy. That did surprise me in all honesty, but it doesn't bother me.

 

[MummyToAmberx]

i had to due to my extreme sickness, i explained and said im sorry in advance if i drop them off bit late as i couldnt stop throwing up. I made arrangement with school office to drop off/collect my eldest as i couldnt walk to her class (last one)

 

[ttc2003]

I had to do the opposite... I am a pre-k teacher and see my parents every day... they started saying things to other teachers in the building instead of me lol at around 12 weeks... then they were congratulating me and I had tons of parents approaching me for weeks. lol

 

[heidi87814]

My daughter's been telling everyone who'll listen - She's so excited! When I went to pick her up, the teachers showered me with baskets of rice cakes and all kinds of gifts (I'm starting to get the feeling that celebrations like this are a big deal here in Korea lol). It was so sweet.

My son, while excited to have a new brother or sister, probably hasn't said a word to any of his friends or teachers. lol I don't think he sees it as news that's important enough to share.