Terrible :(

[fairywings]

I think my sister has had a mis-carriage and if she has I don't know what to say to her . . . I have been thinking about it all day and night, I got a text after seeing the midwife that she was bleeding and I had been happy because I had heard the beans heartbeat for the first time and that text was like a sobering smack in the face and I felt really guilty.

I don't know the whole story as she lives miles away, but she went to the hospital and was sent home, don't know what they did or saw, but she was clotting a while later and had to go back, but I don't know what is happening and feel so useless . . .

What can I even say to help? It is just so unfair, I was so excited for her and now it's over I feel awful and cant stop crying.

Thanks for reading, had to get it off my chest, I feel so bad.

 

[Wishfull]

So Sorry for your sisters loss. You must be feeling terribly upset aswel. When someone anounces there pregnant it affects everyone. Everyone thinks of the wonderful future to come.
I had a miscarriage 5 weeks ago. And at the time i didnt want to talk about it i was just coping in my own way for a few days. People let me know they were sorry then let me be for a few days. No-one knew what to say or do. Everyone was very upset but being strong for me. I apreciated everyone letting me know they where there for me but i didnt want to be crawded.
Im not sure exactly how your sister is feeling but she maybe is still in shock an is trying to be stong an focus on whats actually happening to her body before letting anyone know whats going on.
I know it seems bad not to let you know whats going on but she probably doesnt know whats happening to her either. She will feel so over come with grief an so many emotions to come.
I would say let her know your there for her. An text her or to let her know your thinking of her every few days. Or text and ask if its ok to fone or something. Cause she may not be able to even speak at the moment.
Sorry for going on a bit. Just trying to help by thinking back to how i felt and how everyone else felt for me at the time.
Take care.
x

 

[fairywings]

That helps a lot, thanks. I will text her, like you said. Thanks again and I am sorry for your loss. x

 

[beetlebailey]

Just let her know that you are there for her to support her no matter what. I had a miscarriage on tuesday and i only told my family and none of them knoew what to say to me apart from sorry but that helps more than you realise sometimes.
Im sorry for your sisters loss. Huge hugs to you and her. Just let her know you are there for her, she will appreciate that XXX

 

[fairywings]

Thank you, and I am sorry for your loss, too.

 

[Rumpskin]

From my own experiences, just talking to her and telling her that you are there for her is such a comfort. My sister, who has 3 kids, did not contact me for 5 days after I m/c and communicated through my mum. Apparently, as she had kids, she thought it was tactless/insensitive to contact me. I am not so sure.

xx

 

[fairywings]

I have been texting her this morning and she has let me know her baby died a couple of weeks ago. I said I am there for her and I will try and get to see her and I think that means a lot to her, even though she feels numb and doesn't understand why it has happened. I just wish I was there now and could giver her the biggest hug, and I cry for her loss . . .

Rumpskin, I am sorry for your losses too. x

 

[cleckner04]

I'm so sorry for your sister's loss. After miscarrying myself, I know it can be very hard to comfort someone who has had a miscarriage. Nothing 100% helps. Just be there for her in any way you can. Good luck!

 

[Drazic<3]

Im so sorry for your sisters loss.
Just let her know your there for her, and that she is not alone.
Please dont feel bad if she is a little distant, it isnt your fault but it might just seem too painful to see a bump right now. She might be the complete opposite, i just though it might happen.

Oh im rambling. Im just so sorry for her loss. to you both.