The would have been due date...

[AlaskaWife]

I went in for my first ultrasound at 13 weeks on March 28th and discovered that we had had a missed miscarriage. I didn't even realize that was a thing previously. Our baby had stopped developing at 7 weeks. I had a d&c the following week on April 3rd.

We had already made our announcement, and I have several friends who's due dates are around the same time as mine would have been (October 3rd). Now as we get closer to that date and my friends are having there baby showers and preparing to welcome their little ones, I am having a really hard time with it. I am incredibly happy for them they will all be wonderful parents, but its a constant reminder of what I'm missing out on.

Also at work our biggest event of the year happens to be the day of my would be due date. So I will be spending the next month constantly discussing and planning a party I will be working at on the day that I was supposed to be delivering my baby.

I'm just so frustrated. I'm wanting nothing more that to get a BFP before that day.

 

[alternatedi]

I'm so sorry.

My first due date was Sept 15 and I had a mc at 7 weeks. We conceived again and I was so relieved to be pregnant again. Unfortunately I lost that baby at 11 W in June, so now I'm nearing my original due date and I am dreading it so much.

We're ttc again - I'm hoping for a BFP in the next week so I can be preggo on my DD.

 

[MommytoLBG]

I am so sorry for your loss and what you are going through.

We had a mmc in June. No hb and baby measured at 6w4d at our first u/s (9w2d). Started bleeding 5 days later with a d&c the next day. Due date was January 26. I too am hoping to be pregnant by then. We are really hoping for next month.

Fxd for you.

 

[AlaskaWife]

I'm so sorry for both of your loses. Fingers crossed that all of us get a BFP this coming month. It help just knowing that someone else understands how you feel though.

 

[MommytoLBG]

It does help talking about it with others who have gone thru the same. I find more comfort and reassurance here from really complete strangers than I do in my real life. If not for the ladies I have met on here, I would not be dealing with the loss as well as I am. There are still days, I am very emotional and others I get thru without a thought.

We have 3 new babies in our development, I have 2 new cousins, and now 2 friends have just announced their pregnancies. Its hard some days. I am very happy for them, but sad at the same time. It's a tought place to be in and I understand what you are going thru.

Until our loss, I had never imagined what it could possibly feel like. Now I know it all too well.

 

[WP0609]

I'm sorry for your loss and I feel your pain. I had a MMC in December. Went in at 6W and saw the heart beat and went back at 8W and the baby no longer had a heartbeat and was only measuring 6W2D. I had a D&C three days later. I too was hoping to get pregnant before my due date. We got pregnant again in April but it ended up being ectopic. I had two rounds of methotrexate and finally surgery where I lost my left tube. So, my original due date (July 28) has come and gone now. I will tell you, it was just as hard as I had imagined. Granted, some good friends of ours announced their pregnancy that day by sending us a picture of their ultrasound which made it a million times worse but it would have sucked regardless. All I can tell you is prepare for the worse but hope for the best. Stay strong and positive! My aunt had 4 miscarriages and 2 ectopics before she had my cousin and I couldn't imagine our family without him so when I start to feel down, I just remind myself that I'm waiting for one just like my cousin! Stay strong!

 

[MommytoLBG]

So sorry for your loss(es) as well WP ...thank you for sharing how hard it was for the due date to come and how it felt. I figured it would feel that way. I am already dreading it...today would have been our 20 week u/s...we would have found out the gender. Kind of feeling numb at the moment.

 

[mjemma]

It's so tough isn't it and I haven't even reached my due date yet. My best friend is pregnant and due 1 week before I would have been so every milestone and scan reminds me of where I should have been.

 

[MommytoLBG]

mjemma ~ for some reason, this weekend was tough. I seem to have digressed a bit emotionally. today just very sad, almost to the point where i was when we first lost our baby.