Think work are getting annoyed with me

[Annabel]

I started back to work mid June after maternity leave. Since I started back my LO has been ill twice, (currently ill now) the first time he was running high temps and being violently sick, so I took the week off to look after him, this was around early July so I hadn't been back at work for long.

Now this week he has had diarrhoea, its still on going and has been since the weekend. Obvisouly nursery wont take him so Im off to look after him. Which I dont mind at all and love being at home with him, just wish I was spending time with him through better circumstances..

Anyway, I rung work Monday and Tuesday to tell my manager the situation and that I wouldn't be working (I work from home) This morning I have been down the GP's with LO. I hadn't spoken to work today, but I had rung them Monday and Tuesday so thought that my manager understood that regardless of whether he was better or not he needs to be symptom free for 48 hours before they allow him back at nursery. So I get back early afternoon to 11 missed calls on my mobile and answer phone messages on my landline all asking where I was and I was meant to be in a meeting today.

So I rung my manager straight back, phone turned off, so rung two of my collegues who had both called me and explained to them, I just got long silences and huffs and puffs.

Im not sure what Ive done wrong, ok I probably should have rung in again today, but I thought that my manger understood the situation? Ive been working during LO napping, but Im absolutely exhausted, since Sunday he has gone through almost 60 nappies! My manager hasn't rung me yet, Im not sure what she's going to say to me. Im feeling tired and quite emotional, Im finding it hard being back at work full time and really miss my LO, especially as I work from home so feel quite lonely and sometimes unsupported.

I dont really know why Im posting this, any suggestions on what I could say to my manager, I really dont want to get into trouble for not calling this morning...

 

[babycrazy1706]

Screw them! Ur little one comes first and he's way more important, thy have no right making u feel bad as an employer they have to expect employees with children will need extra time off. Dont feel bad, its not fault ur child is ill. If they carry on be funny with you or treat you unfairly contact citizens advice to find out your rights. Xx

 

[Annabel]

Thanks hun x. I'm still off this week as lo is still sick.

 

[babycrazy1706]

Hope he's better soon!! Remember you are a mummy before you are an employee dont let them make you feel bad for getting your priorities right!!

 

[JASMAK]

I just wouldn't give details, as much as you can. Your baby is ill, and you need to be off. I have had the worst from my ex-boss. The two worst scenarios I can tell you is the day I had a miscarriage and he told me I can't take off work for 'girly problems'. I went to the union (thank GOD I was union) and took two weeks off. Suck that a$$hole! Then when Makena was a baby, she was deathly ill. She was in hospital, she was severly anemic. She had very low O2 SATS, and she was on IV fluids, tube feed, antibiotics, and oxygen. I came home, with my son who was 2. I had been at the hospital with my baby all night. I came home so my son could nap (my hubby and I switched off) and I could shower and change clothes. While at home, my boss phoned to tell me that since my hubby was off (he worked there too) that I still had to come to work. It took everything out of me to not tell him to go find a light post and ram it up his a$$. My baby was deathly ill. I was tired, scared...and he didn't even bother to ask how she was! I made a formal complaint and he got in big trouble. Anyways, I learned...don't say much, they don't care...they really don't...and they will just pick apart everything anyways. Keep it simple, and when you come back to work, DON'T APOLOGIZE!!!