third baby?

[nevasatisfied]

Hi,
I had the implanion put in not long after having my second child, back in 07. about a year later i had it taken out, because we wanted to try for our third. after 6 months of no period, i went to the drs, they said they should of come back, and referred me to a specialist. after various blood tests, urine tests, ultrasounds, scans etc they were still non the wiser as to why my body had not returned back to normal, and why i hadnt concieved, they told me there was a possibility i'd never have another child. it is now 2 years since i had it removed. in this 2 years i'd finally given up the hope of ever having another child, we have sinced moved to a bigger house, we are all finally settled, and i had sort of grieved for the fact that i couldnt ever have another child. Last month my periods returned, and my husband has just asked me to try for a third.
I do want to have another child, but im just so confused at the minute, i honestly thought i'd never get the chance to have another one. but now i cant help thinking that it wouldnt be fair on my two boys aged 4 and 2.

so now ive given you all an essay on my background, i guess what im trying to ask is - is it normal to feel like this? will having a third baby make a huge difference from 2?

any help would be very much appreciated, and im sorry for the long winded rant

 

[CharmedKirsty]

Was it really fair on your first child to have a second? Gets you thinking don't it. Now I don't have any children but I guess where you told yourself well I can't have anymore you learn't to except that but now you can it has thrown everything up in the air.

 

[nevasatisfied]

never thought of it that way to be honest
I guess your right lol, thanks x

 

[lillypiesmummy]

did they ever find a reason as to why it took so long to go back to normal? I'm scared this will happen to me now, i have 2 kids and have implanon in until we are ready to have our 3rd. I was told your fertility comes back instantly once the implanon is removed. I wonder now if i should have it removed a while before we are planning our third now that i know that isnt always the case. If you had never had any problems with your fertility returning and the thought of not having any more kids never came into your mind, would you have gone ahead and had no.3 without worrying? If so then i would go ahead. Good luck in your decision x

 

[Sparkleyone]

Ah, please dont try to convince yourself it wouldnt be fair on your other children. Not at all, you would all benefit from having another family member. Yes, you'll have moments of doubt and panic, but ultimately babies are only little and demanding for a short time (which is when you are likely to question your decision) but think of the ever after, think of all the good a baby brings. I have 5 siblings, and never once have I though it were unfair. Its great! I do wish you luck whatever your outcome, Xx

 

[nevasatisfied]

did they ever find a reason as to why it took so long to go back to normal? I'm scared this will happen to me now, i have 2 kids and have implanon in until we are ready to have our 3rd. I was told your fertility comes back instantly once the implanon is removed. I wonder now if i should have it removed a while before we are planning our third now that i know that isnt always the case. If you had never had any problems with your fertility returning and the thought of not having any more kids never came into your mind, would you have gone ahead and had no.3 without worrying? If so then i would go ahead. Good luck in your decision x

No, they just said my body seems to be "fine", they were stumped, so much so they said i might never have anymore. Usually it only takes a month or so for the effects of the implanon to wear off, but i must have been the exception.

I guess i would have had baby number 3 by now, had it of been different, so your both right. i think its just come as a bit of a shock, after convincing myself otherwise for so long.
Thanks for the kind words x x