This is crazy

[Imalia]

So after fighting for more than ten years, we finally got our gp to refer us for fertility treatment. Only now we've gotten here, I don't know if I can go through with it. Not because of the possible outcomes or anything like that, but because at my hospital the fertility clinic is in the antenatal unit. No kidding. Same reception, same waiting area, same scan rooms, same doctors rooms. Four appointments and four times I've ended up in tears. It surely HAD to be a man that thought that was a good idea.

Is this normal practise for NHS treatment? Or do my local hospital just not have a clue?

 

[bb0506]

So after fighting for more than ten years, we finally got our gp to refer us for fertility treatment. Only now we've gotten here, I don't know if I can go through with it. Not because of the possible outcomes or anything like that, but because at my hospital the fertility clinic is in the antenatal unit. No kidding. Same reception, same waiting area, same scan rooms, same doctors rooms. Four appointments and four times I've ended up in tears. It surely HAD to be a man that thought that was a good idea.

Is this normal practise for NHS treatment? Or do my local hospital just not have a clue?

I'm sorry to hear that! 😢 I understand. Before my husband and I even were allowed to ttc we went to see a genetics specialist (who told us my husbands condition was so rare he couldn't tell the chances of passing it on d/t lack of research). So anyways, the waiting room was filled with new moms and their babies. I almost lost it when a teenage mother (she couldn't have been more than 16), turned to her mom and whined because she had a boy, and the person next to her had a girl, whining 'i wanted a girl!' It took so much self restraint not to yell at her that she should feel lucky to have a healthy child! Anyways, despite that you should still go, what I would do is ask if there is another waiting room you can sit in, I'm sure you are not the only person who has felt like this at that office. Or see if they can put you straight in the room. All else fails try head phones. In the long run you will appreciate it. Keep me updated, I am just now seeing a specialist and have also felt stressed by this process.

 

[Imalia]

I really have so many issues with the hospital that if I could go somewhere else, I would. The nurses were really lovely, they made me a cup of tea (real, too, not from a vending machine) and said they have been trying to get it changed but everytime they bring it up they are told there's no other space in the hospital for it and "it's all more or less the same thing anyway"

 

[Feisty Fidget]

Hey Imalia, I think it is actually just crappy NHS practice. When we lost our baby I found myself completely numb and in tears sat in a waiting room with other women who had early scans gushing about how magical it all was.

I keep saying that although I am thankful we have some treatments covered by the NHS, fertility is probably the least funded and least cared about department as the powers that be don't class it as an impact on health just an impact on quality of life