Time off work

[borntobeamum]

Hi Ladies, I just wondered how long you took off work.

I was off for a few weeks before I had Gillian due to waiting on results etc. Its been 3 weeks since she passed away, and I have another 4 weeks left on my currnet sick line.

I just dont feel ready to go back to work, the doc gave me 6 weeks on the last line. Party due to my emotions etc, and with the blood loss and surgery to give myself time to recover. She said I can take more time if need be, (there on wed for other issues), not sure if its too long, I dont know how long is right to greive for my baby, if I had her and she was ok I would be off for 9 months, (not that im thinking of taking that), but I feel I have been through labour delivered my baby, but am I "taking the mick". Just not sure I will be ready to go back after another 4 weeks.

I have to go back and see the consultant early July for all the post mortem results and DH and I genetic results (to see if we are a carrier) and I just dont want to get feeling better then hit another downer again.

Does this make sence. Just worried about emotions as have history of depression and dont want to end up back on that downward road again.

xxxxLaura

 

[hayley x]

Im still not back at work and my baby died 7 weeks ago, theres no set time you should allow yourself to grieve. your not taking the mick for not going back, if you go back too soon you will make yourself worse. Only you will know when your ready to go back to work.

We havent got a clue when we will get our PM results, how do you know when your going to get them back already (dont answer if you dont want to I just wish we knew when we would get ours)

sending you lots of

xxx

 

[Mynxie]

Sweetheart, you should go back when you feel ready. Everyone is different, everyone copes with things differently. The time you should return to work is when you feel like you can manage and are ready to do it.

 

[orange-sox]

Just to mirror what everyone else has said, do not go back till you're ready. I went back 4 days after I gave birth... not through choice I might add. On occasion I think it was a good thing because it meant I was busy, and not wallowing. But the majority of the time, especially when I hit my lowest days, I know it was the worst thing I've ever done. I'm constantly unable to do my work, I walk out all the time, I hide in the toilets or the stationary cupboard... crying my eyes out. I've even been in the basement to scream at the top of my voice two or three times.

You are not taking the mick at all... there is no set time to grieve, you need to let yourself heal, especially if you have a history of depression - I'm maxed out to the eyeballs on anti depressants and it's killing me that I have to fight with all the drugs in my system to cry for my baby boy properly.

Take care hun, I'm here if you ever need me

 

[borntobeamum]

Im still not back at work and my baby died 7 weeks ago, theres no set time you should allow yourself to grieve. your not taking the mick for not going back, if you go back too soon you will make yourself worse. Only you will know when your ready to go back to work.

We havent got a clue when we will get our PM results, how do you know when your going to get them back already (dont answer if you dont want to I just wish we knew when we would get ours)

sending you lots of

xxx

Well I was told when I left hosp that I would get an appt for about 6 weeks to discuss, then i got a letter from the consultant to say that he should have all the test results back for early July and would send me an appt, im not to sure what tests they are doing, as we know what Gillians problems were (chromozone problems) an we decided to induce misscarriage rather than wait for it to happen naturaly. They were also doing tests on DH and I to see if we carry any abnormal Chromozone's.

im assuming these are the results that I will get, well im hiping anyway.