Too close to the ex?

[luvymom]

So my husband really likes the name Kate. I like it to, but here's my dilemma. He was engaged to a Katie before me. I just don't see how we could possibly avoid her being called Katie so I've basically said no to the name. What do you all think?

 

[Carly.C]

Eek, I coulnt sorry

 

[DissySunshine]

I would not be able to do it! Too much of a negative connotation, imo.

 

[RubyRainbows]

That's a big fat NO from me. I'm surprised he would even suggest a name so close to his ex's. I would be angry, personally.

 

[QuintinsMommy]

no way in hell!

 

[luvymom]

Thanks ladies! I didn't know if I was being overly sensitive.

 

[MrsPoodle]

I totally agree with you. No way!

 

[chelsealynnb]

Hell no! I kind of liked Grayson and then I remembered that DH has an ex who has a son named Grayson. NOPE!

 

[stiletto_mom]

Unless you can disassociate yourself from it, it would be a heck no.

 

[Jungleland]

It is 100% reasonable that you wouldn't want to consider this name, you're definitely not being overly sensitive xxxx

 

[StillPraying]

Nope definitely would not. DH has a crazy ex named Kayla and he refused any name that had any kind of connection: Kaya, Kaylee etc Just be honest with him and tell him you'd rather not have a name that makes you think of his ex fiancé

We are naming out daughter Katie though lol

 

[LucyLadyBug]

I think it's up to you of course and if you dislike the name or feel strongly against it because of the connection to his ex, then that's totally legitimate.

However, have you asked your partner why he likes the name kate and wants to consider it? He might just like the name. Plus not every relationship ends badly, so the similarity might not seem a big deal to him and it could be as simple as him considering names he is familiar with, and thinking that's pretty.

There are certainly names of ex's/people in our life we would not choose for our children in a million years. But I wouldn't necessarily disqualify a name/others similar to it on the ex criteria alone.

 

[Surprised26]

I'd never get over the connection to be honest, I think it's really odd that he would even suggest it.

I had a name that I loved, but even though it was completely different it just sounded too close to my Oh's ex's name and had tocross it off my list real quick (Name being Serena, ex named Corina).

I would be absolutely furious at the suggestion and would probably go on about if he wanted a Kate he could go back tothe one he had But...I'm a bit dramatic and snippy like that.

 

[tinkerbelle93]

No way! I find it inappropriate and odd he's suggested it as a choice, I would be really upset at my DH just for mentioning it so definitely don't think you're unreasonable for not considering it.