tried my best

[Abbys_Mummy]

But i don`t think i can breast feed anymore i`m in pain my baby wont sleep she wont latch on properly she just keeps dropping off to the end and it hurts like hell sometimes i sit there feeding and crying she isn`t having a proper feed so she is on every hour or so so it hurts more i could cry i wanted to do this so bad but i think i have done my best and don`t know what more to do my home MW said its up to me partof my problem is abby is getting lazy and my milk is drying up well wish me luck in the bottle world i nearly lasted a whole month 6 would have been better

 

[KarenLV]

Good luck!Hope you find a nice formula for her.I would recommend S26 Gold.

 

[Abbys_Mummy]

thanks i actually got karicare a thinkened formula because she has a bit of reflux i could of cried i feel like a failure

 

[Wobbles]

Aw don't feel you are a failure *hugs*

Well done for trying I gave up when she wouldn't latch on at the hospital so you should be proud of yourself!

You love & care for Abby? Course you do ...then your not a failure x

 

[baby.love]

Oh hun you are so not a failure! you tried your absolute best for your baby and thats what counts. Its no good for you to be in pain or for your baby not to be getting enough of a feed. I gave up with my little boy as he was to hungry and so he went on formula at 4 weeks, he is now a thriving 2 year old and i know i done whats right for him, as you are doing for yours. Well done on doing as much as you have

 

[Tezzy]

youre not a failure at all hun!

what i did when i felt like giving up was i just took it one feed at a time, if i could give her 2mins of boob then the rest formula then thats what i did.. but if you feel like you cant go on and its effecting your stress levels (which your baby can sense too dont forget) then go with your instincts and do what is best for you.

babys can bond just as well being bottle fed as breastfed

 

[Mamafy]

Of course you're not a failure hun

well done for bf at all

 

[sam's mum]

You've done great to have lasted a month in pain! Don't feel bad at all - you're not a failure!

what i did when i felt like giving up was i just took it one feed at a time, if i could give her 2mins of boob then the rest formula then thats what i did.. but if you feel like you cant go on and its effecting your stress levels (which your baby can sense too dont forget) then go with your instincts and do what is best for you.

babys can bond just as well being bottle fed as breastfed

I agree... If you do want to carry on longer though, I'd really recommend seeing a lactation consultant to sort out her latch - we were getting it all wrong at first (for weeks) and I was in so much pain but once Sam's latch was sorted out it was so much better and my nipples healed very quickly.

You've done so well to have lasted as long as you have though - she's had a whole month of it, and I'm sure she would rather have a relaxed and happy mummy, so don't feel bad at all! x

 

[tinytoes]

gosh I can relate to your pain! Ted is now just over 1 month and oouch!! I cant believe it is meant to hurt this bad. Have you thoguht about pumping? And feeding abby your milk via a bottle? or formula and breast? You could try and do both - I have used a formula by Nestlé which is designed to be used for babies who feed from mummy too (Nestlé nidal or soemthing its called).

I am now trying to go 100% direct breast feeding, after pumping lots in the last few weeks, but ouuuuch it hurts like hell!!!!


You're no failure. But maybe dont give up 100% Take a few days out maybe, pump or formula feed and then see how you feel... xxx

 

[LaDY]

Well done babe...i was in a imilar position to you...don;t feel guilty at all deep down jus think im sure your and your LO would rather have a happy mummy and baby then not...welcome to bottle feeding...xx

 

[ryder]

You are NOT a failure! Not being able to breastfeed is not the end of the world, and it certainly does not make you a bad parent for not being able to do so.

Every hour is extremely taxing on a womans body and stress levels and is not condusive to being successful at breastfeeding... It is hard, for sure.

If your interested in trying to pump, this can sometimes be more successful (although people dont like to accept or admit this). There are pumps which are good that have different levels and speeds so that you can find a good suckling comfort level, this is also supposed to help stimulate the prolactin.

If you do choose to try this, make sure you try to get the pump correctly latched (alot of people dont learn how to do it proper and it just makes them fail at it), and pump often. You will be able to see when you feel the fullest (usually morning, after not feeding for several hours) and then go every couple hours.

It may work, you never know. However, formula is fine.

 

[tinytoes]

You are NOT a failure! Not being able to breastfeed is not the end of the world, and it certainly does not make you a bad parent for not being able to do so.

Every hour is extremely taxing on a womans body and stress levels and is not condusive to being successful at breastfeeding... It is hard, for sure.

If your interested in trying to pump, this can sometimes be more successful (although people dont like to accept or admit this). There are pumps which are good that have different levels and speeds so that you can find a good suckling comfort level, this is also supposed to help stimulate the prolactin.

If you do choose to try this, make sure you try to get the pump correctly latched (alot of people dont learn how to do it proper and it just makes them fail at it), and pump often. You will be able to see when you feel the fullest (usually morning, after not feeding for several hours) and then go every couple hours.

It may work, you never know. However, formula is fine.

i agree. pumping worked great for me, but i'm a fool and am now trying to go 100% diretc on the boob and am suffering...I just found pumping took up so much time which was hard with a little baby to look after. But it did work. And didnt hurt. I had lots of milk.

 

[smartie]

Well done on doing it as long as you have. I nearly gave up at 4/5 weeks as it was just so painful feeding Hannah but tried pumping and found it no problem and had plenty milk so have continued to express since then. I still put Hannah on me if she wakes up during the night and for her first feed but she get expressed milk in a bottle the rest of the day.

Maybe give expressing a go?

 

[tinytoes]

Well done on doing it as long as you have. I nearly gave up at 4/5 weeks as it was just so painful feeding Hannah but tried pumping and found it no problem and had plenty milk so have continued to express since then. I still put Hannah on me if she wakes up during the night and for her first feed but she get expressed milk in a bottle the rest of the day.

Maybe give expressing a go?

how often do u pump? How do you find the time?
I'm trying to give up my pump as I just get so tired of having to pump all the time..maybe i'm missing something..

 

[smartie]

I think I'm one of the lucky ones in that I can express 7oz in less than half an hour using my manual pump. I find it takes longer using an elecric one!

I try and express when Hannah is sleeping or whilst she is on her playmat and I can talk to her at the same time. I find that last thing at night I can get more than a feeds worth out so if I need to go longer between pumping than normal there is spare to give her.

It does take a lot of extra time of your day to express but in my case it means my daughter can still get breastmilk without me having the excrutiating pain but I understand it isnt for everyone. I attempted to stop weeks ago but felt guilty stopping my milk whilst there was plenty there to give so have kept it going for now.

 

[Samantha675]

I don't think you are a failure either love, I think you did a wonderful thing for your daughter!

 

[clairebear]

ur not a failure hun its not the end of the world not being able to bf as long as u and ur baby are happy thats all that matters x

 

[ryder]

My big hope for expressing is that I will be able to have hubby do a few feedings so that I can sleep a few extra hours or do other things... So to me, even if the pumping takes a big of extra time, it will give me some time in return.

I cant do this without my OH, so unless he can feed the baby a few times when he is home, or on days off, I will be expressing or formula feeding. Doing only breast would not be a possibility.

My hat is off to those of you who spend every second with the baby so you can breastfeed I would go mental... seriously.