trying again

[catfromaus]

Hi,
Just wondering and wanting opinions...
How long after a m/c do you think you should wait before ttc? Sometimes I want nothing more than another pregnancy, and sometimes I can't handle the thought.
DH's family is full of babies and pregnancy. we are the only ones without, and he desperately wants a baby. He won't ask me to do anything I'm not ready for, but I don't know what ready feels like!
hmm...feeling confused.

Cat
xxx

 

[honey08]

we waited til my next period arrived which was 8wk later cos i had a dnc ...... i wanted it so badly and it took us mths to get the first there to begin with !!
took us approx 6mth to conceive again, i think as long as ur both ready then go for it hun

sorry for ur loss

 

[susan_1981]

We started trying again straight away. I had so many people tell me different timeframes, one said wait for your first period, another said 3 months and another said 4-5 months. I'm now on my 5th cycle and it hasn't happened for me yet but I'd say start trying again as soon as you know ou are definitely ready x

 

[ninamama]

I dont think there is a specific time frame. I got pregnant the second time before my period came after the first mc. I mc again and initially was told by close friends that I should have waited. This made me feel very guilty about being so impatient. I combed through websites and talked to my doctor, that reassured me to say that getting pregnant straight after a mc does not give you higher chances of another mc. The only thing was that it was mentally very tough for me and my partner. I am terrified of getting pregnant again cause I dont think I could handle another mc but at the same time, cant wait to have a baby. Im letting nature take its course, I have decided that the only thing I can do is be a healthy person, take care of my body, and nature will do the rest. It was such a long process getting pregnant the first time, I worry that if I start to interfere with birthcontrol, it will only make it harder in the long run. Everyone is different though, I would talk to your doctor or a fertility specialist and get their advice.

 

[superp123]

You'll know when you're ready to start trying again. My first mc, I waited almost 3yrs to start trying again... it just felt so overwhelming to me. After my second, I started after one cycle and it took 9more to concieve again. This time, I'm thinking I'll fall somewhere inbetween. Planning on working on me for a while, get my strength back and go from there.
Everyone is different, but do what feels right for you and never mind what the rest of the world is doing. You're time is coming too hun. Big hugs
P

 

[Jessa]

Whenever you're ready to try again, go for it! As long as your doctor hasn't told you to not try for a medical reason, you should be clear to try whenever you and your OH feel ready. Here's hoping it happens quickly for you and it's a sticky bean next time!

 

[catfromaus]

Thank you to everyone. I saw my doctor today, and he said that there is no medical reason not to try again right away. I guess we'll try again once I feel 'ready' (although I don't know when that will be) I think whether I get pregnant now or in a years time, what happened will stay with me, and whatever joy I feel at having another baby will always be tempered with fear. I don't know if that afraid feeling is ever going to leave me.

Thank you to all of you wonderful people for the support that I have found here. It can be hard when nobody around understands. They haven't gone through it before, they are often trying to be helpful, but keep saying stupid and hurtful things. It is really good to have this forum.

Cat
xxx

 

[tinadecember]

i had a d&c 4 weeks ago, me and my OH decided to start trying again straight away. its been 33 days and still no sign of but no signs of any pregnancy symptoms either. Ive heard you may not even ovulate the first month after a d&c

i guess time will tell... xxx