TTC #1 a bit confused

[KalicoKat]

Hey everyone! I'm new on here. I've been using another form but decided to try this one out.

I'm 27 years old and my husband and I are trying for our first baby. I've been off birth control since April but we've only been trying for about 5-6 months, kinda - we've just been seeing what happens, not really "trying". Until this month.

My last period was December 30 to January 1st, very light. My fertile week according to pink pad is january 11th to the 17th. So we've been having sex every other day since Jan 8th.

I'm a bit confused about my CM though. Usually by now I have egg white cm, but the last few days it's been white and creamy.

Will I still be able to get pregnant if I don't have egg white cm? My cervix feels high and open.

Any advice is greatly appreciated ❤

 

[Impatient27]

Hi KalicoKat, Fertility Friend considers creamy CM to be "possibly" fertile, but says that egg white CM is the most fertile. You could probably still get pregnant with white/creamy, I don't think it kills off the spermies! But you may still be a ways away from ovulation, if egg white is a normal indication to you of ovulation. Are you using OPKs?

 

[Shanlee16]

My CM is never EWCM but usually very watery and every where I've read has said that I am still able to conceive with that. I would imagine that certain CM types make it easier than others but it can always happen! Good luck!!

 

[KalicoKat]

I've never used opks, I don't understand how they work but haven't looked into it to much. Because we were just seeing what happened, I didn't want to put the added stress of testing every day. So really I don't know exactly when I ovulate but I usually have ewcm roughy around this time

The creamy white is very watery, so maybe that's just how it will be this cycle? Still very new to learning all of this. I for the most part thought sex = babies BAM done LOL ... didn't really think of the science of it all

 

[Impatient27]

I for the most part thought sex = babies BAM done LOL ... didn't really think of the science of it all

I know, right?!?! I don't know how people get pregnant by accident - they must just be super fertile… My hubby and I had an incident back in college where a condom broke and we were so worried (AND I was on birth control), but now, after five months of actively trying, I don't think we had anything to worry about…

Any changes for you, KalicoKat? I admire your restraint on no OPKs or temps. I go a little crazy with all that data. Too much to analyze.

 

[KalicoKat]

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No changes yet. Still have watery creamy cm. it's weird becaue when it's on my figure at first, it just looks like water, but if I move my other finger along that finger, it's a whiteish discharge... hope this isn't tmi! Maybe I ovulated early this month?

I haven't wanted to get into opk's because I can get very OCD about things and I don't want trying to have a baby turn into an OCD checking everything and stressing my body out, causing myself to be late for af and getting disappointed... it's bad enough when I start doing HPT's. I start doing them daily and sometimes twice a day... so I'm trying my hardest to take it one step at a time.

Hopefully we get our BFP soon! ❤❤

 

[ilex88]

Kat, I'm temping for the first time this cycle (our third since we started TTC), and I'm finding that I'm actually less stressed about it than I have been previously. Because I can see from my temps that I'm likely to have ovulated on Sunday (hopefully a third higher temp will confirm that tomorrow) I'm not worried that sex wasn't timed right, and I'll know more accurately when to expect my period. It's also helping me identify what CM is normal for me on different days of my cycle.

Everyone's different, and a lot of people stop temping because it's a daily reminder of TTC when sometimes you just want to forget about it, but I think it's worth giving it a go to help remove some of the confusion!

 

[KalicoKat]

For temping can you use a normal mouth thermometer? That's all I have and I was trying to take my temps but kept forgetting and my temps seem all over the place so I kind of gave up

 

[Impatient27]

Basal body temperature thermometers have an extra decimal point (.00 instead of .0) and are more accurate, so it's generally recommended to have a BBT thermometer. I know some of them have alarms so you can remember to take your temp! A hint if you decide to purchase one—get one with a backlight. I don't know about your DH, but I kept waking mine up with my first thermometer because I had to turn on the light to see the temp… Along with the backlight, my new one keeps a record of my temps so I don't have to write it down right away.

It is hard to remember to take it when you first start. I sleep very lightly in the morning, so I had to start taking mine when I first get restless, usually around 3:00am. You'll get into a routine!

 

[KalicoKat]

That's a good idea, thank you!! I'll look into them if this isn't my month... I'm pretty depressed today, don't know why I just really hope this is our month ❤

 

[Impatient27]

Just an update! I got my BFP on Wednesday, and I was looking back at my symptoms and such—when I ovulated, I only had a tiny bit of EWCM before ovulation. Most of it was creamy! So yes, it's possible!! I also ovulated prior to getting my positive OPK, so I definitely say that BBT is the way to go (it shot up the day after I ovulated). The only reason we ended up having sex at the right time is because we were doing every other day. If we had waited until the positive OPK, we would've missed the fertile window...

 

[KalicoKat]

Omg congrats!!! I'm so happy for you!!!

Thank you for the hope! I got a yeast infection 3 days ago so haven't BDed since the 15th😭 I'm freaking out and trying to stay calm

Pink pad has me ovulating on the 16th with the 11th to 17th being my fertile week. BD 5th 8th 10th 12th and 15th . If I'm out this month I'm temping here on out 😞

I really want this to be my month too! Thank you for the hope! ❤

 

[KalicoKat]

Could you post a picture of your bbt charting? Or a good place you found helpful starting g? I hope I don't need it but...just in case ��

 

[Impatient27]

Here's my chart!

https://1.bp.blogspot.com/-i9UgTy6x...HkMna6dJACLcB/s1600/chartgraph_module.php.png

 

[KalicoKat]

So last night I had abdominal cramping on my right side. Then today I woke up feeling exhausted and achy all over like I was getting sick - and a runny nose all day. Now I have a lot of watery clear discharge, kinda close to ewcm... do you think this is a good sign? Or is it possible I'm ovulating late?

Oh on good news my YI is gone now!!! Yay!

 

[ilex88]

Sounds like good signs to me, but I don't really get any ovulation symptoms apart from CM changes, so I don't know how common exhaustion etc is. Maybe best to BD incase?

 

[BSN2MOM]

Hi Kat,

Just wanted to say we're around the same age and around the same amount of time trying! I saw your post that you were feeling a little down the other day and I completely understand. I just wanted to give you some encouragement! I keep trying to tell myself that there is a reason it's taking longer than I thought it would. I'm also going to temp this next cycle (haven't really been doing much except using fertility friend to track periods but I have a feeling I don't OV when it thinks I do)!

!

 

[KalicoKat]

Awww thank you BSN2MOM. That's really sweet of you ❤... my husband and I went the "lets see how it goes but not really try" route... that didn't work so this month we BDed every other day during my fertility week... if this doesn't work I dunno I'm worried one of us are gonna have trouble and that scares me... we also have a wedding to go to in Jamaica April 2018 so if we don't get pregnant this month or next - I'll have to wait until after the wedding...

And I have anxiety problems that don't help lol! But when the time is right we will get that BFP!! Good luck to you Hun!

 

[BSN2MOM]

Oh man, yes, the ugly being that is anxiety! I was diagnosed a while ago with GAD but refused to take medications after a year due to side effects so every so often it just hits me (like last night, cried for an hour but DH and I talked and it did help).
About waiting... DH and I waited to start trying due to SIL's wedding and I've always kind of wondered if we didn't wait if we would have conceived sooner? Being young it's hard for me to truly let myself get too worked up yet (although some days I forget my age and think I'm 30 already but I've got 3 years to go here--wow slow down self) but it's so easy to get into that "omg what if it never happens...." I brought up surrogate mom to my DH yesterday and he said no way and kind of laughed at me (I can laugh at it right now but at the time I was 100% serious).

I wanted to ask though: do you really think that it's worth waiting because of a wedding? Obviously going to Jamaica in itself would be awesome wedding or not, but is it the travel while pregnant you'd be worried about or do you think it's having a baby and then trying to travel? Maybe you could just try to prevent the months that you'd be due that same time (like June, July, August)?

And your cat in your profile picture is absolutely adorable I have two at home (and two dogs)!

 

[KalicoKat]

I also forget that I'm not already 30! I keep thinking I'm almost at an age where I shouldn't have children but then I remember I'm 27 😂. I was diagnosed with PDD and anxiety and refused medication. When I'm really bad I think maybe the meds would be worth it, but then I have more good days then bad now and rather not medicate myself expecally with ttc... sometime the struggle is real though haha

The reason I want to wait if I don't already have a baby is it makes me very worried to travel while pregnant. Different country and all. I may talk to my husband and see about trying again (if I'm not pregnant that is lol) when I'm less far along... but it just makes me very worried incase something happens. I just wish her wedding was sooner! Then we wouldn't have to worry to much I'm fine with traveling with a baby. I want to start our baby out young so that we can do the traveling we still want to 😍

Thank you! That's Lucky. We have 7 cats (3 fosters, ones leaving Sunday &#128557, a dog, a snake and a fish lol!! I love my pets, always have ❤

Where are you from? I'm in Toronto, Ontario

And thanks! I don't have many people to talk to about all of this ttc ❤