TTC #1 need advice

[Caseyren]

Hey there - So I'm new to all this and just looking for some people to talk to.

A little background info: me:26 DH:29. Been trying for 1 month. Was on BC for 11-12 years. Went off end of August. My cycles since coming off are 38-40 days. I ovulated CD 27 or 28. Timed BD right. Used preseed. Around dpo 4 I started having dull cramping/aches in both sides of lower abd. going to my back and they have continued all the way up to today. They have been stronger the past 2 days. I've had a heavy/fullness in lower abdomen a few days and I've had a weird tugging/stinging sensation a few times below my belly button. noticed more CM. Been more Gassy. bloated. no tender BBs. No feeling sick. Not too much fatigue. I have noticed I have been very very very happy. I'm normally a happy person, but I've really noticed a change. haha. I was supposed to start AF yesterday. Had bad cramping yesterday. Have cramping today, so far no AF, but do have what seems like EWCM. A lot of these things I know can be signs of AF but I've had them for almost 9 days and I never, ever have had symptoms before AF, and normally I have very little cramping during.

So I know, obviously I could take a test. But my DH and I decided to wait until I'm closer to a week late. (I'm dpo 13 today and on day 41 of my cycle) But obviously I feel like I'm going crazy so I thought I could tell you guys about all this and see what you think and just see if this could be pregnancy signs or just AF signs. Theres so much contradicting stuff online its so hard to know whats truth, etc. and I know we've only been trying 1 month, and because its only the 1st month I'm not running out to get a test because I've already had it in my head it will take longer than that.

 

[tcinks]

Hello and welcome! :wave: Oh, someone from KC!

Those sound like promising symptoms, but then again when we are in ttc mode, EVERYTHING seems like a pregnancy symptom. Good luck! I couldn't hold off on testing for that long (I'd go out to the dollar tree and grab a handful) And don't count yourself out because this is your first cycle, it could happen!

 

[BabeAwait]

This is too funny because I stumbled upon this and I am an hour outside of the KC area and H works in KC!

This is also my first TTC cycle although I have been tracking on Fertility Friend for 3 months. I am also in the tww. I think the most important thing to remember whe in this stage is progesterone is the dominant hormone for both the luteal phase and for pregnancy. So they can have a lot of similar symptoms. I really couldn't be a better guess for you than yourself because as you said it can be really hard to tell. Is there a specific reason you want to wait until 21dpo? 14dpo should be an efficient amount of time as 80% of pregnant women will receive a positive test by that time. If there is something particular you are holding out for I would say go ahead and wait. But otherwise I would test when you feel ready and your H should understand. TTC is very stressful for us women!
Now if you get a negative test remember you aren't out til AF comes. So as I see it there are only four options from what I've learned from fertility classes if you end up with a negative. 1 is that you may have ovulated later than you thought. 2 your test was faulty. 3 you tested too early and your hcg levels aren't high enough to be detected. 4 AF is on her way and it is a true negative.

I hope no matter when you test the you get a big shiney ! FX for me too! I'm sending you lots of baby dust

*I apologize for any typos I may have as I am typing from my phone

 

[tcinks]

Hi babeawait! :wave: what dpo are you? When do you plan to test?

 

[BabeAwait]

Today I am 6dpo and I had a drastic temp drop. I originally wanted to wait until 14dpo but now this temp drop has me really anxious. My last lp was only 6 days so I'm afraid af might be on her way. I'm trying not to totally convince myself that it's a implantation dip.

 

[Caseyren]

Thanks guys.

I tested this past Thursday and got a I'm so excited and happy. and I still don't believe it, even after taking 3 tests. haha

FX for you guys!

 

[tcinks]

That's great, congratulations!

I'm out, af showed.

 

[BabeAwait]

Congratulations! That is great news I'm so happy for you!