TTC after 20 years...starting all over!

[deinekatze]

I know some of my friends think I am insane to go down this route all over again when my child is already in college and all BUT I recently got married again and my husband always wanted a child, and frankly I love babies too so here we go!

We are just now starting, TTC, and I am 40 (41 in May) Some say it is easier cause I already had one but...it was 20+ years ago! and that one was not planned. So in reality it is all new to me all over again. I go to Babies R Us and feel totally mesmerized at all the new things and improvements. This should be fun!

My periods are weird though....25 days, 28 days, 25 days, 28 days... Guess my ovaries are not on the same schedule LOL. I got the 3 day test done a few months ago and it says I had good reserves... getting my 21 day test (progesterone/ovulation) done on Tuesday to check that too. I am trying no to put pressure on myself cause I know it does not help but it is all so exciting that I can't help it. I would love to have another baby girl (or two ;-) at my age LOL)

 

[mommyjill]

Awww just you go for it girl - dont take no notice of what anyone else thinks. Whats right for you n makes you happy is the most important thing.

good luck x

 

[deinekatze]

Thank you so much MommyJill...don't know how many people here may be attempting this as well or not but thought I would put it out there just in case.

it feels right, I even included it on my visualization board and all ;-) And hoping this time to raise a child WITH my husband... My daughter who is now 20, I had to pretty much raise on my own. Her dad and I split up before she was 2 and I took it from there...24/7 ...lots of work but worth it now that she is out if the dreadful teen years lol. Can't complain really, I mostly suffered that from 16 to 18 and then she moved out and now she is back to loving me and being a great friend.

 

[bubbywings]

We aren't trying to concieve again just yet, but I wanted to tell you that my husband and I started over again after 19 years. Our son is in college too, lol. We had our baby in November 2010 and will be trying again this year...this time keeping them closer together lol. I am 38 yoa was 37 when we conceived lo.

 

[deinekatze]

We aren't trying to concieve again just yet, but I wanted to tell you that my husband and I started over again after 19 years. Our son is in college too, lol. We had our baby in November 2010 and will be trying again this year...this time keeping them closer together lol. I am 38 yoa was 37 when we conceived lo.

How cool!

yes I would like two this time around as well so they can keep each other company and all...I already have a "single child" so would like to have the "siblings" thing now. I am older than you though...will be 41 in May and Hubby will be 43 in April. He is so concerned about problems due to age that so far it seems like only one pregnancy he will "allow" so I am secretly hoping for twins so they can have siblings LOL...

How long did it take you to conceive#2? is it a boy or a girl?

 

[Belliecita]

Hi there!
I'm rather in the same boat! My husband and I have been married for nearly 21 years and have 2 kidlets--18 (almost 19) year old son and a 17 year old daughter. Our son will be leaving for college in August . About a year ago, hubby and I confessed to each other that we both feel like "someone hasn't shown up for the party" and our desire for another child. So, June 2010 we had his vasectomy reversed and have been trying every since. We have told very few people of our plans (we have told our kids and think it's a great idea and can't wait for an itty bitty sibling), but we know that people will think we are nuts! Oh well on them! We think it's a great idea!
It's just nice to see that there are people out there who are doing the same thing we are and that we're not alone! Cheers to us and lots of baby dust!!!

 

[Millie H]

I have only just registered and found this forum tonight... hi everyone!

I am 41, married, with no children of my own, have been trying for years with one failed IVF treatment about 4 years ago. My husband has two boys..now in their twenties from a previous marriage.

I have given up so many times and quite often get upset about it...but a voice in my head keeps telling me to keep trying, I can't give up yet...but I need all the strength and luck I can get over the next few months as we 'give it another serious go' ....!!

We are considering having a go with home articial insemination, has any one tried this?

Would love to hear from other ladies 41+ who have had success with their first pregnancy....I need some encouragement!

Good luck to you all, and hope to keep in contact to see how things work out!

 

[deinekatze]

Millie H... I had a friend who had her first child at 42... so hang in there!

 

[deinekatze]

had the 21 days blood test done today but have to wait a week to hear back...ugh.... and I am feeling like my period is coming today...but not due till the 9th... hmmm... wondering if that is good or bad or nothing LOL

 

[crystal443]

I'm kind of in the same boat We have a 14 DD and a 13 DS and will be having IVF in the very near future. We always wanted more after DS but it just never happened (I have unexplained infertility) so we decided to get serious about it and IVF is just around the corner I'm 36 and DH just turned 37 2 days ago. Its nice to hear of other families having babies with older kids either in the house still or in college. Good Luck hun..xo

 

[deinekatze]

I'm kind of in the same boat We have a 14 DD and a 13 DS and will be having IVF in the very near future. We always wanted more after DS but it just never happened (I have unexplained infertility) so we decided to get serious about it and IVF is just around the corner I'm 36 and DH just turned 37 2 days ago. Its nice to hear of other families having babies with older kids either in the house still or in college. Good Luck hun..xo

one way or another...WE CAN DO THIS!
Best of luck with your IVF!

 

[crystal443]

I'm kind of in the same boat We have a 14 DD and a 13 DS and will be having IVF in the very near future. We always wanted more after DS but it just never happened (I have unexplained infertility) so we decided to get serious about it and IVF is just around the corner I'm 36 and DH just turned 37 2 days ago. Its nice to hear of other families having babies with older kids either in the house still or in college. Good Luck hun..xo

one way or another...WE CAN DO THIS!
Best of luck with your IVF!

Thanks I've got FX'd for you !!

 

[deinekatze]

Thanks I've got FX'd for you !!

Thanks so much and I for you.

I feel tired/sleepy today for some reason and suddenly cold and mild head ache... lets see what it all means...if anything

 

[deinekatze]

So my doctor's office just called with the results of the 21 day test THANK GOD they did not torture me by making me wait a week after all.

So the results show I do ovulate regularly so and a few months ago they said I have good reserves so I am good to go

One thing that bugs me is the typical "well you are in a mature age range so..." why do they do that? I hate the age crap, I mean come on, do the tests and base your conclusions on that. Some of us can be biologically speaking a certain "age" but really internally we are much younger (and look it too btw) I really don't like the AGE label ...ok, getting off my soap box now... lol

So now I wait one more week to see if the shows her ugly face again. I have been cramping as if she is coming early for a few days now so... either come or not but make up your mind

hope the wicked bypasses us all. Spreading for everyone!

 

[mommyjill]

Fingers x she stays away for you Elizabeth.

Good news you are working correctly too just matter of time for you and so hope this is your month!!

Not sure about it being mine as i have no idea if i ovulate as just a month off pill. lots of symptoms though but no idea when to POAS lol

 

[deinekatze]

Fingers x she stays away for you Elizabeth.

Good news you are working correctly too just matter of time for you and so hope this is your month!!

Not sure about it being mine as i have no idea if i ovulate as just a month off pill. lots of symptoms though but no idea when to POAS lol

have you been trying? Cause I know so many people that got BFP right off the pill... just go at it like rabbits LOL

do the every other day if you can. If you don't care if it is boy or girl then just have a blast!

 

[Belliecita]

deinekatze-was the 21 day test you did the progestrone test? Or am I thinking of another test? I go in today to speak with my ob/gyn (DH had a vasectomy reversal last June, I'm 42, been going at it like bunnies...and I know it's still a bit early to expect anything but I am anxious...) I've had my FSH done and that came out fine. Been doing research and thought that the 21 day test tested for progestrone (sp?) levels (higher levels needed to get that bean to stick but you probably already know that!). I'm also a bit anxious about today's appointment and what she (the doc) will say, suggest, etc. I just want to get this ball rolling! Here's to lots of baby dust for all!!!

 

[deinekatze]

deinekatze-was the 21 day test you did the progestrone test? Or am I thinking of another test? I go in today to speak with my ob/gyn (DH had a vasectomy reversal last June, I'm 42, been going at it like bunnies...and I know it's still a bit early to expect anything but I am anxious...) I've had my FSH done and that came out fine. Been doing research and thought that the 21 day test tested for progestrone (sp?) levels (higher levels needed to get that bean to stick but you probably already know that!). I'm also a bit anxious about today's appointment and what she (the doc) will say, suggest, etc. I just want to get this ball rolling! Here's to lots of baby dust for all!!!

I believe it is the same test yes, mine said I did ovulate...so I am not sure if they test two things with that? I had the 3 day test before and that checks your egg reserves. so now I have had both and both look good

Deep breaths my friend... it will all be perfect

 

[kathy31]

Hiya

Just wanted to wish you the best of luck. We were in a similar situation to you and had a 21 year old when our son was born in 2009!!!!

Now trying to decide whether we should go for it again...I'm almost 39 and hubbie is 41...

Take care

Kathy

 

[Belliecita]

deinekatze-was the 21 day test you did the progestrone test? Or am I thinking of another test? I go in today to speak with my ob/gyn (DH had a vasectomy reversal last June, I'm 42, been going at it like bunnies...and I know it's still a bit early to expect anything but I am anxious...) I've had my FSH done and that came out fine. Been doing research and thought that the 21 day test tested for progestrone (sp?) levels (higher levels needed to get that bean to stick but you probably already know that!). I'm also a bit anxious about today's appointment and what she (the doc) will say, suggest, etc. I just want to get this ball rolling! Here's to lots of baby dust for all!!!

I believe it is the same test yes, mine said I did ovulate...so I am not sure if they test two things with that? I had the 3 day test before and that checks your egg reserves. so now I have had both and both look good

Deep breaths my friend... it will all be perfect

Oh thank you!!! You're sooo sweet. I know that I need to chill out a bit about everthing! It's so difficult!!! Now that I think of it, 2 months ago, I had my FSH test done, and along with that, I had the 3 day test. All was good. I'm thinking I'm going to request the 21 day test when I go in this afternoon. Any other last minute suggestions???