TTC after chemical pregnancy.. long story! updated!

[jess123]

Soo this is only my 2nd post since introduction. I just wanted to share my story and hope this is the right place.

My OH and I decided we were ready to start NTNP. So I went off the pill the beginning of October. I was shocked when I had every textbook symptom of pregnancy starting Oct 29th and continuing with terrible morning sickness (all day!). Seriously, every single symptom I had, I'd type into google and get a pregnancy symptom result!! I got my BFP (FRER) on the afternoon of Thursday November 11. I tested twice that day just to be sure. Battled morning sickness all weekend with crackers and ginger ale. I tested again on Sunday the 14th since I was planning on going to the doc to get it confirmed on Monday. I was very disappointed since none of the lines were ever as dark as the control line. I thought for sure by Sunday the lines would match in color.

Monday night I had some spotting, but was so exhausted I was not gonna let myself worry about it til the next morning. Sure enough, when i woke up at 7:30 AM, it had progressed to bright red period like bleeding. I knew this wasn't going to last. I told my OH and he tried to keep hopes up. We went to the dr that afternoon and their urine test was negative. She explained to me I likely conceived, but didn't implant. I already knew that from obsessively researching early pregnancy bleeding that morning before my appointment.

I was worried the bleeding was going to be heavy and that I'd have cramps, but it truly was just like an average period for me. Some small clots, but nothing alarming and by the 7th day it was completely done. The worst part was still having the morning sickness until about 3 days into the bleeding.

My next concern was when to try again. ASAP? Should I wait? The doctor seemed very nonchalant about everything and assured me that it happens and most women don't even realize. It all happened so quickly that I wasn't sure how I felt about the loss until about a week later. I was very disappointed, but there was a strange relief of being back to square one and being in control again. Becoming pregnant for me was as scary as it was exciting. Especially considering how ill the symptoms were making me feel. Then two of my friends announced being pregnant. Babies and pregnant women everywhere!! This was really getting to me. OH and I decided to just keep trying and see what happens. We both have super high sex drives, so trying to conceive or not, we average BD at least every other day.

Second time around, I got so excited on the 13th day of my cycle when I FINALLY had EWCM! I was so surprised to see things perfectly back on track. I confirmed O with an OPK and we got busy. Tomorrow starts the 2WW and I'm already feeling that strange pulling/cramping sensation in my abdomen. I'm sure its ovulation pain (YAY!) so I'm feeling pretty good about our timing.

I just want to say that I am 27 and I have watched all my friends accidentally get pregnant and now 1 started trying the same time as me and she is pregnant. It seemed so easy and no one had complications.. It is really hard to feel like you're not the only one in the world struggling. I really don't even know much, I'm only 2 months into this ordeal. If anyone has any questions about my symptoms, I kept track of them and would be happy to share. I wish everyone the best of luck!


***12 dpo***

I got the world's faintest BFP this morning. Definitely visible, just really light. Let myself get all worked up and tested again this afternoon. BFN.

Now I'm beating myself up, shouldn't have tested early. Should have waited to see if AF is a no show. Feeling pretty annoyed!!

 

[MilWife79]

I had a chemical pregnancy my first cycle when I was TTC last time. Same as you, my period came, and it was just slightly worse than normal. You definitely don't need to wait to TTC, and sounds like your body is right on track still! Just relax, and it will happen! Two cycles isn't a long time at all, and the average time it takes tom get pregnant is longer! Enjoy BD'ing, pay attention to your body, and you'll get that BFP!

Just FYI, after the chemical pregnancy, I conceived on the second cycle.

 

[letia659]

I got my bfp that stuck the cycle after I had a chemical pregnancy I wouldn't have known about it if I hadn't of tested early but I wouldn't wait

 

[maybenxttime]

i believe i had a chemical pregnancy last week...it was the first month that i had gone without contraception since i was 15 so i didnt expect to become pregnant so quickly..but i did! i took 7 tests in one month! but since i didnt have any symptoms i thought something was off. the last three tests i took were positive (they were a couple weeks after the first 4) so i scheduled my first appointment and told close fam. 4 days after my first positive home pt i started spotting and progressed into a full blown period. called my ob's office where i was told to go to the er. i was told at the er that i wasnt prego and never had been since my levels were so low. today i called my ob's office again to see if i should keep my appointment or forget it. they said to come on in...im praying that everything happened naturally and i dont need a d&c or anything so we can start really trying again. i did grieve over my loss as did my husband but we know in our hearts that we will concieve and have a healthy pregnancy when the time is right.

 

[jess123]

I'm so sorry that happened to you, it's so awful getting thrown back and forth in such a short time. Un-announcing a pregnancy is awkward and just.. sucks. Since my bleeding was basically a completely normal period for me, I didn't go back to the doctor. I'm now 8 dpo in this new cycle and I have symptoms, but I'm trying not to symptom spot and AM ABSOLUTELY NOT going to test early. Last month, I was like yay, I'm feeling so pregnant and tested daily starting.. well lets just say way too soon! haha.

It's just too scary to think of going through that again. Just gotta get through this weekend and I can test if AF doesn't show. But you see the responses above, people DO conceive afterward. And I'm here letting you know that my cycle got back on track immediately. I'm sure you're fine. So just like your screenname says: maybe next time!

 

[jowing]

I had a chemical pregnancy my first cycle when I was TTC last time. Same as you, my period came, and it was just slightly worse than normal. You definitely don't need to wait to TTC, and sounds like your body is right on track still! Just relax, and it will happen! Two cycles isn't a long time at all, and the average time it takes tom get pregnant is longer! Enjoy BD'ing, pay attention to your body, and you'll get that BFP!

Just FYI, after the chemical pregnancy, I conceived on the second cycle.

you give me hope! with my dd she happened right after the pill. there was no trying. now i too had chemical in september, my dr. said wait one cycle, then i got bfn for cycle 1, and now am praying that this is it. good luck to everyone!

 

[MilWife79]

I had a chemical pregnancy my first cycle when I was TTC last time. Same as you, my period came, and it was just slightly worse than normal. You definitely don't need to wait to TTC, and sounds like your body is right on track still! Just relax, and it will happen! Two cycles isn't a long time at all, and the average time it takes tom get pregnant is longer! Enjoy BD'ing, pay attention to your body, and you'll get that BFP!

Just FYI, after the chemical pregnancy, I conceived on the second cycle.

you give me hope! with my dd she happened right after the pill. there was no trying. now i too had chemical in september, my dr. said wait one cycle, then i got bfn for cycle 1, and now am praying that this is it. good luck to everyone!

I'm keeping my fingers crossed for you! Any time you have a question or want to vent, just find me!

 

[jess123]

Hey Milwife! I was just curious. I know you said you conceived straight after your chemical. Were your symptoms exactly the same? This week started out day by day completely like last month's days leading up to my BFP. But yesterday and today.. eh.. could be anything. I know every pregnancy is different and symptoms can be different. Just curious!!

 

[MilWife79]

No, I'd have to say that when I was really pregnant, my symptoms were more "all the time", wheras when I had my chemical, I felt...off, if that makes sense. I felt kind of ill, and my temperatures were very erratic after ovulation. It seems like I had several early pregnancy symptoms, but they were all over the board.

This cycle is my first after my second IUD removal, and I had a TON of pregnancy symptoms. I've tested, and it's negative and it feels like AF is coming.

If I look back on my cycles, and compare my chemical pregnancy to the cycle where I conceived a healthy baby, the symptoms are NOT exactly the same. The pregnant cycle symptoms were more...steady, and "definite" if that makes any sense?

 

[giggly_gurl88]

I had a chemical last month. Found out we were pregnant on the 23rd. Went to the er on the 25th for an infection and they said urine test was negative. Betas were only 22 and tgat was on a Friday. Webt back on Sunday and tbey were only 8 and then started the bleed on the 30th. Now we are going to just see what happens this cycle. I wil be postng an update on my journal as soon as I fibd ig if you want the full stiry. Gl and fxd

 

[mrs m25]

Jess,

I just wanted to share my story, I cam off the pill in September i was sort of trying with my husband straight away. Then on Nov 13th i had a positive test i had sore nipples, bloated. I was elated! Then on November 19th i started bleeding at work probably only about 4 weeks. I was so disappointed felt like i had failed!! Well bled for about 5 days felt like a normal period. This month my husband and i said we would start straight away we have been every other day, in the last week i have been experiencing a slight pulling pain in the left of my abdomen and i am very bloated. I have the same tenderness in my breasts although not as much and the veins have appeared again. But the only difference this time is i have a slight nausea feeling and i have been using the toilet more and more. It is tempting not to test if i had not of had my m/c i should have been due my period this weekend. But if i calculate from the m/c would be next week i dont know whether to leave it until another week or so to avoid disappointment. My question is what are your symptoms now and i wondered whether you had tested yet and the result?? Any responses are welcome with thoughts. Thank you x

 

[jess123]

Hey mrsm25,

I updated my very first post in this thread, but basically over the past week I've been feeling pregnant.

Things that I just can't ignore have been:

- wave of nausea one afternoon a few days ago
- bleeding gums when flossing (rarely happens to me.. happened last time)
-random bloody spot when blowing my nose (rarely happens.. happened last time)
-so thirsty
-cramps! everyday!! the same as last time. the way I describe them is when I've had a UTI, when my bladder would get full it would feel like this.
-crazy dreams
-so exhausted


So of course this morning, when I just couldn't wait any more, I tested at 12 dpo with first morning urine and got a very faint positive. Not a grey shadow, not an evap, a faint pink line. The faintness of the line just really disappointed me, despite knowing I tested early like an idiot, it could be another chemical. Knowing I can conceive is a consolation but like you, I feel like an complete failure. And like any future conceptions will be failures.

Naturally, I let myself get worked up and tested again this afternoon. BFN! Nothing! I'm so hopeful that the afternoon urine was just diluted and I can try again tomorrow morning and get another positive. This is so frustrating!!

As far as when you should test again, I'm not sure. I just know that IF I am soo lucky to be pregnant again right now, that I got pregnant EXACTLY 2 weeks after my m/c. My period should be due tomorrow. I don't feel PMS at all and hope it won't come!

I know it sounds like I'm very stressed and concerned, and I am, but I'm really trying to just maintain a peaceful attitude about it because I know stress isn't good at any time.

 

[MilWife79]

I am crossing my fingers for you! Don't test in the afternoon - I think it was diluted, so only test in the morning. I'm really hoping it's not a chemical, and AF stays away!!!!

 

[mrs m25]

Jess I caved and tested today as i dont know when i should really be due i just calculated from the chemical and then 4 weeks. Which would be 17th. I have all the symptoms as before my bbs are sore walking upstairs is painful! My Mums cat jumped onto my chest today and i thought i was going to cry it was sore!! I keep getting on and off cramps but i have had this stretching pulling pain for the last 10 days do you think that sounds positive?? I have been bding every other day as i was not sure when i would ovulate so covered all bases. I too get waves of nausea mostly just before i eat then directly after i eat. But not sure if that is just anxiety!
I am bloated beyond belief my stomach feels firm and unusual. But as i said i caved today and BFN!! I think i will try again Friday. I am here whenever you need a chat sounds like u and i are in the same boat!

I am wondering whether it is to do with the pill i only came off 3 months ago this month? Any thoughts?? x

 

[jess123]

Milwife - thank you so much for the encouragement!! I'm feeling much better today and I didnt run out and buy tests. I'm just gonna patiently see if AF comes. So far nothing and I still don't feel like it will!! I have to work today which is gonna be great to occupy my time and then I will test tomorrow morning and update here.

mrs m - Ohh wow, so if you are like me, then the 17th is when you really are due! You could technically be testing until then with the early result tests, but considering what we've been through, I didn't test until yesterday, the day before my period. Today, like I said, I'm not testing. Just don't wanna deal with any disappointment! So I think testing again on Friday sounds like a great plan. I'm so glad I've found others going through this, in my circle of friends, everyone seems to think I'm weird. They don't say it, but they just had such an easy time with their accidents.. I feel like they wonder why I get so concerned. If I here "it'll happen for you" one more time, my head's gonna explode haha.

Milwife and another person in this thread said that they conceived right after her chemical, so we can be hopeful!! I was always really irregular, but it seems like since I came off the pill, everything's on a 28 day schedule. It also seems like things are getting pretty regular for you too. I know going off any hormonal contraception, everyone has different reactions though. I'm gonna think positive thoughts for all of us today!

 

[mrs m25]

Ok Jess no more testing for me until 17th!! Feeling worried that it is a BFN. I have been having symptoms for like the past 10 days. Feeling pretty blah really!! Trouble is because i had my chemical on 19th not too sure when AF should be due! I know what you mean about people saying the same things if i hear my friends say "IT TAKES TIME" i am going to scream!! ha ha What have your symptoms been like today? x

 

[jess123]

That's the best plan, mrs!! I'm going to test first thing in the morning. Sunday, I slept like 9 hours and was about to bust when I woke up, so I'm hoping the same thing will happen in the morning and I can get a good positive. Testing early is just too uncertain. It can drive ya crazy. I don't know what these women do who get strong positives all day long starting at like 8 dpo..

AF was a no show today!! Still don't feel like I usually do before I start either. HOORAY! haha.

My symptoms today are needing to pee more often, still crampy, and my lower back has been killing me. Pretty typical for early days I guess. I can't wait to find out whats going on with us!!

 

[mrs m25]

Hey jess,

Well you must keep me updated on 17th. Well i still have very sore boobs cant even cross my arms without a shudder!. I am so bloated still. I was busting for the loo the morning but did not have time to test as so busy before work. Still a bit crampy my lower back is sore too! But it is all so similar to AF coming i am worried! Worried about it sticking! X

 

[mrs m25]

Jess,

tested today BFN this morning how did you get on??