TTC after ectopic

[Laubull]

Hi girls

Just wondering if there's anyone else TTC or will be soon following an ectopic?

Sadly I've just had a second ectopic. I had surgery on the 10th August to remove the pregnancy and ruptured right tube. My first ectopic was resolved with methotrexate.

I am very lucky to have a two year old daughter but desperate for a sibling for her.

I'm tracking my cycles by temping but won't start TTC until October.

Good luck to all those TTC, especially after the heartache of a loss.

X

 

[GI_Jane]

Hi laubull,

Can we be TTC buddies?

I'm TTC #2 after an ectopic and right tube removed last October 2014.
Currently in the 2ww (3dpo).

Im sorry to hear you've had two ectopics, was the right tube the problem first time as well?

 

[Laubull]

Hi Gi_Jane!

Yes lets be buddies!

How long since your ectopic have you been trying? Did you start trying straight away or wait a couple of months?

Yes my first ectopic was in my right tube......well I pretty sure it was anyway! I was told that my left tube and both ovaries look in good condition so fingers crossed.

I hope the 2ww doesn't drag too much, I hate it! Fingers crossed there will be a BFP at the end of it for you

x

 

[GI_Jane]

The pregnancy that ended up ectopic last October wasn't planned so we didn't want to conceive again straight away and so didn't try. I wanted to give my body a good amount of time to heal. My son had just turned 1, very clingy and not sleeping through so the thought of having a second was scary and by the time we came around to the idea of being pregnant and got excited it was over...

So last month we did a NTNP and this month was our first proper go and I used OPKs for the first time.

How are you tracking your cycles?Are you temping? I'm up in the night so just would not work for me.

How was the process for diagnosing your ectopics? Mine dragged on for 3 weeks- the hospital couldn't see anything on US and kept dismissing my pain. I found having the bloods over and over and waiting so demoralising. I ended up seeing a different doctor who said he wanted to do an exploratory and low and behold I had been bleeding internally from the tube. I was just happy to have it over and done with by then.

How come you are waiting until October- sorry just being nosy

 

[Laubull]

It's so tough to know when the right time is to have a second baby and by the time you come round to the idea it goes wrong, typical!

I am tracking my temperature, it's straightforward and cheap. I get up once every night for a wee and it doesn't seem to affect my results too much. I've never tried OPKs but a friend recommended them.

It took a week to diagnose my ectopic, it started with bleeding. In fairness the hospital was really good, measuring my bloods etc. and were ready to scan me as soon as my HCG levels were high enough.... I booked the scan for the Tuesday and then typically it ruptured on the Sunday, I was operated on the Monday :-/

In comparison to the last time where I was treated with methotrexate this has been easier and at least the bad tube has gone now, good riddance I say! Although I'd rather still be pregnant, just in the right place!!

We're waiting until October as they advise waiting 2 cycles or 3 months..... It will actually only be 1 cycle/2 months but I feel ready already!

I am sorry your ectopic took so long to diagnose.

When will you be testing?

x

 

[GI_Jane]

Will test on Sunday...feeling impatient

How was your journey to conceive #1?

 

[Laubull]

Eeeekkkk good luck for Sunday!

#1 was 3rd time lucky after an ectopic and miscarriage. It all happened rather quickly but it was still a rollercoaster ride. We seem to be very fertile, just can't keep them :-/

How about you? x

 

[GI_Jane]

It took a year to conceive #1 with one loss in that time before we got pregnant with him- and that was with two tubes.

Was bfn today- a bit gutted as we dtd A lot and used OPKs for the first time.

Feeling pretty negative about TTC with one tube and don't want to bring anyone down so will say good luck on your journey.

 

[Laubull]

GI Jane I'm sorry Please don't beat yourself up, TTC is hard on its on, let alone when you've had loses and only have one tube. It was only your first month of using opks so give them a chance.

We'll be one tube wonders together I'm sure!

X

 

[EverythingXd]

Hi ladies, I am also TTC since an ectopic in Jan this year.

My ectopic was ovarian (foetus attached to ovary, not tube). I didn't know I was pregnant because I had a normal heavy AF then no spotting or anything. Just had horrendous pain at what was 6 weeks pregnant and still no external bleeding but major internal bleeding into my abdomen. I lost my right ovary and needed 4 pints blood transfusion but surgery was keyhole so recovery was only a week.

I managed to conceive again in April but unfortunately lost that baby at the end of June to a MMC discovered at 12 week scan

DH has agreed to "not prevent and have lots of sex" which of course I call TTC because I have very clear O signs and regular O so hard not to TTC!

Good luck ladies

 

[Laubull]

Good luck to you Everything! It's sounds like you've had a crap 6 months, I'm so sorry

We're not meant to be trying this month but I've got clear ovulation signs and I'm trying it so hard to resist trying, just once....! X

 

[EverythingXd]

Yes Laubull, pretty rubbish 6 months. It looks like you went through similar in 2012 Good luck for October - it's not far off now.

GI Jane, sorry you got a BFN. What dpo are you now, about 11dpo?

 

[GI_Jane]

Everything, you give me hope that you can conceive after an ectopic, how heartbreaking to have the MMC after that. TTC is crap isn't it!
With one ovary will you always O from the same side or will there be cycles where you won't ovulate if a follicle is not mature enough to pop?

AF got me this morning so I'm officially out. I'm more gutted than usual as we were away without our son when I got my positive OPK and so we had the opportunity to make the most of it. Usually we are exhausted and just don't feel like baby dancing or DH is traveling for work. A bfp this cycle would of been perfect. You just cant force these things I suppose!

How is it having two boys? I think I would like #2 to be a boy as well but a BFP would be a start right now

Laubull did you give in to your O signs and bd?

 

[Laubull]

Sorry AF got you GI_Jane

It's so hard to find the time when TTCing, plus you don't want it to feel like a chore. I try to focus on my fertile period only, and if it happens anytime in the rest of the month it's a bonus!

Didn't give in last night but tonight I might have to, feels like too good an opportunity to miss, right?! If it's meant to be it's meant to be.....

x

 

[EverythingXd]

Everything, you give me hope that you can conceive after an ectopic, how heartbreaking to have the MMC after that. TTC is crap isn't it!
With one ovary will you always O from the same side or will there be cycles where you won't ovulate if a follicle is not mature enough to pop?

AF got me this morning so I'm officially out. I'm more gutted than usual as we were away without our son when I got my positive OPK and so we had the opportunity to make the most of it. Usually we are exhausted and just don't feel like baby dancing or DH is traveling for work. A bfp this cycle would of been perfect. You just cant force these things I suppose!

How is it having two boys? I think I would like #2 to be a boy as well but a BFP would be a start right now

Laubull did you give in to your O signs and bd?

GI Jane, sorry AF got you I know what you mean about the timing - me and DH had a mini break to Italy just in run up to O this month so I thought perfect for making our rainbow. Then I got another uterine infection right before we left and was on anti-biotics. Wasn't sure I should be BDing with an infection anyway, and the drugs gave me -TMI alert!- the runs which DH said was not a turn on! So we only BD once.

After the op, I said to the consultant that my fertility was halved overnight, and she said it usually had very little impact on fertility and that the left ovary would just take over from the right. It can bring on menopause a little earlier, which is my concern since I'm already 40. I am pretty sure I have O'd every month since the ectopic though and am regular with around 26/27 day cycles.

Love my 2 boys more than anything and as DS2 gets older we have more nice playing together and less fighting. I would like a little girl but a 3rd boy would not be a disappointment!

Laubull - I agree what will be will be, I don't think our bodies would let us get pregnant if it couldn't cope with a pregnancy. Hope you've had some fun over the last couple of days

 

[hilslo]

Hi ladies - mind if I join you?

I had an ectopic in April 13 (Lost my left tube and also needed a big blood transfusion) and then a MMC in August the same year (v similar to you Everything!). I conceived my DS in Dec that year so he has just turned 1 (can't believe how fast the year has gone!!)

We're now trying for number 2 and I got a positive opk today so OH knows he's got to perform tonight!

Good luck to everyone!!!

 

[beemeck]

hi girls - stumbled across this thread and feel like I have found others with similar experiences. I had a cervical ectopic pregnancy in April/May. I was in the hospital for a week receiving methotrexate and planning a surgery to cut off blood supply to my uterus so I wouldn't need a hysterectomy. I ended up hemorrhaging before the surgery could happen. Lost 25 % of my blood, but miraculously stopped bleeding on my own and got to keep my uterus.

Had stitches for 6 weeks after and took just about as long for my levels to go back down to 0. Was told to wait 3 months to try again - just to give my body a rest. Ended up trying in July anyway as cycles returned 28 days after my hemorrhage! Even with levels not yet to 0. Stayed regular and were right back on track, but I haven't conceived.

Feeling worried that something is up and I didn't get off scot-free afterall. When we did conceive, it was our first try. We pretty much did nothing but BD on the two days I noticed EWCM and bam. Everyone commented on how fertile we were! but..... no luck since.

I started temping even though I'm super regular and have O pains on top of the EWCM. But I figured it can't hurt. Going to use OPKs this month too for an added bonus.

GL to all of you ladies and let's share this journey together

 

[Laubull]

Hi hilslo and beemeck, I'm sorry you've both found yourselves hear

Ectopics are so awful, there are times when I wish I'd 'just' had a miscarriage, but I know neither are easy.

I'm 9DPO and symptom spotting like crazy, I've felt crap all week but today BFN so I don't know what to think now..... I'm hoping it's a shy BFP!

Not that I'm meant to be trying!

Good luck all. Xxx

 

[hilslo]

Laubull - 9dpo is still v early. I've got my fingers crossed for you!!

Breech - blimey, you must have been terrified when they mentioned hysterectomy!! So glad for you that you didn't have to go through that! Have you managed to keep both tubes?

And - I'm now 1dpobut I'm not holding out much hope this cycle. We timed it really well (we dtd in the 3 days leading up to O and on the day of O) but scan has confirmed I ovulated from my tubeless side. I know it's still possible and that the opposite side tube can pick up the egg etc but it's not very likely. Both times I've conceived after my ectopic, I ovulated from the side with a tube. Still a bit of a chance though

 

[Laubull]

Hilslo twice over the fertile period is good! And remember being a one tube wonder only means about a 20% drop in fertility so you could be lucky this month!

AF is due tomorrow so assuming she doesn't arrive in the night and my temperature stays above the cover line I'll test again. My boobs have been a bit tender but that could be AF....

How is everyone? X