TTC after Miscarriage- Far from Home

[berwar]

Hello All,
I have spent some time lurking this board for the past few months but haven't taken a moment to introduce myself. I am 11dpo and got my BFN (I know there is a slim hope left, but what the hey) so I figured it might be time to join the group.
I am lucky to have a beautiful daughter who is 3 years old. She was a complete surprise and blessing. Since then, hubby and I have been trying to conceive baby #2 on and off for the last 1.5 years. During that time, we had to take a break due to surgery, a big cross country move, and insurance reasons which set us back about 6 months. After over a year of being on this roller coaster, I got pregnant. It finally felt like everything we had waited on was finally coming into place. I traveled home to tell all my friends, who happily announced they were also pregnant. 8 weeks in, I suffered a miscarriage. Now I am watching my friends revealing their genders via FB while I am back to fertility calenders, OPKS, and watching for pregnancy symptoms like a mad woman.
Its been a rather tough process being far from home and trying to conceive. This desire is something my husband shares but clearly cant relate to. I thought it might be nice to reach out to others who are like me and to get to know others in the group.
Would you take a moment to introduce yourself and tell me your story?! Id love to know there are others like me out there who are hoping and praying for a baby too.
Baby dust all!

 

[Meganmae]

Hi, I'm ttc 2 after a mc, I'm on my first month since I got my period back, two of closest friends are pregnant so I feel your frustration . I'm using opks again and it feels wrong cos I was pregnant and shouldn't be having to do this again but I am. Hopefully you will get your bfp Hun x

 

[Dill]

I'm so sorry for your loss! I understand how difficult it can be. My story is a little tl;dr, but suffice to say, I suffered a double loss last year at about ten weeks, and a chemical loss this year at five weeks, and I'm currently in the TWW to see if maybe we've lucked out this cycle. It's hard, because even if I get that BFP, there's always the worry that I might lose him/her, too.

You're in good company here.

 

[TTC 84]

Hi and welcome , I have 4 gorgeous boys , I had a MMC at almost 9 weeks in jan and am on my first cycle since fingers x we get lucky xx

 

[Spudtastic]

Hello
I'm ttc#2. I also have a beautiful daughter who is 2. I've been ttc #2 for 15 months now. We had a mc last year at 8 weeks and last month I had an erpc at 19weeks (I found out baby died at 12 weeks - I stubbornly thought I'd wait to mc naturally). I'm still waiting for af.
my friends are popping out babies left right and centre. It's difficult as I'm bitter (though happy for them).
Welcome.

 

[Blu10]

Hey Im also TTC #2, my DS is also 3. I had a natural miscarriage before having him at 6 weeks and sadly a recent early scan at 10 weeks showed baby died at 7-8weeks. I had an ERPC on friday after waiting 2 weeks for things ti happen naturally.
I feel similar to you but had a proper hormone crash today with a few tears, im just so desperate to be pregnant. One of my friends is also 21 weeks now but a very close friend told me she found out ahe was pregnant just after my D&C and this is tipping me over the edge. Im so thrilled for them but so so sad for me 😢
i also second what you say about DH not 'getting it', just hope to convieve again soon x

 

[Amazeballs]

Hi there,

I am from South Africa but am currently living in Malawi (a very depressing and lonely country as I have not many friends and health care here is crap). I miss my family and my 2 sisters terribly and miss going to the beach and just doing normal things that I should be doing. Instead I'm living in this sad country as my husband has a contract here with work.

I have been trying to fall pregnant since August 2014, my best friend also was TTC since May 2014. We both were trying desperately to fall but we seemed to be having difficulty. I was TTC baby #2 and my best friend was TTC baby #3.

In December 2014 both my friend and I fell pregnant! We were exactly the same weeks ahead in pregnancy! It was awesome and miraculous!!

Then 4 weeks ago I had a miscarriage (I was 8.5 weeks). Absolutely devastating. Of course I had to fly to South Africa to seek medical help and to have the support of my family as my husband was too busy with work etc to support me emotionally.

I have just flown back to Malawi after recovering from my loss and am waiting for AF to start so that we can try again. I see my best friend every day and am now seeing her growing belly and just wishing I had my baby still. Its very difficult, depressing and at the same time I need to slap a smile on my face cause I am of course happy for my friend but extremelly sad for my loss.

 

[Dill]

Amazeballs - It is so much harder to deal with a loss when you have someone close to you who is pregnant. You are happy for them, but it makes the loss sting so much more!

 

[Amazeballs]

I know Dill. Its so hard. And what makes it that much harder is that she is forever moaning about her legs being sore or having headaches or eating so much etc... I feel like telling her to just shutup and be happy that she is pregnant!!

 

[Cornfieldland]

I have been lurking on this site as well...just reading others story's for comfort and support. I was 16wks when I had a MMC at the end of January. I was and am devastated. I cry everyday and keep thinking how I should be 5 months and should know what we were having...it's very hard. Just got my first period yesterday and my hormones have been a roller coaster. I have 2 boys 15, 11 from a previous marriage.

We are still deciding if we will try again or not in April because of financial reasons...but I am 37 so I feel that it's now or never. The on,y thing that gives me hope it the thought of trying again in the future and I just don't know if that's going to happen. At least we are not alone and can encourage each other.